Akukafaneli ukukhawuleza ukuxazulula ngokugqithiseleyo imbambano yokwaphula ubudlelwane, kodwa le yimeko enzima kakhulu. Yintoni eyabangela ukuziphatha okungaqhelekanga? Musa nje ukuyila okanye ukuthula. Akunyanga kuwe ukuba ugqibe isigqibo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba uphuke kwaye uhlale uzinzile? Akunjalo nhlobo. Zama ukuthobeka kwaye ungabonakali. Ukuba kukho into engafanelekanga emsebenzini, jabulela amagama onke okwethutyana. Ngaba ingaba neengxaki zempilo? Yenza oko ukuze uqonde ukuba uyamxhasa ngokupheleleyo, ukuba ungumlingane kunye nomlingane wakhe, ukuba kunye uya kuhlangabezana nazo zonke iingxaki.
Ukuba kukho imeko xa iqabane lihleli entanyeni yakho, wena, njengezinyosi kunye nomsebenzi kwaye ukhokela yonke intsapho, kodwa yonke into ayinjalo kwaye yonke into ayinjalo, ngaba kufanelekile ukukhathazeka kumyeni wakhe? Ukuba akasebenzi nje kuphela, uyaphuza, uThixo akavumelekanga, ukumema endlwini yabahlobo abangathandabuzekiyo. Ngaba uyayifuna loo mthwalo wokukhulula? Kungenzeka ukuba, wena, ukuba unqabile, uthathe isigqibo sokuba kungcono kunjalo ngaphandle kwendoda. Cinga - ngubani ongcono? Uhlala unxunguphalo, ukhubekiso ngenxa yokuhlambalaza, ukuba kukho abantwana, bahlupheke ngakumbi kwimeko enjalo. Kuya kuba kuhle kumyeni wakho. Qala, ekugqibeleni uzihlonele! Wena kunye nabantwana bakho bayadalwa ukuze baphile ngokuzonwabisa! Mxoshe kwaye akukho nhlobo ungazisoli. Xa yena, nangona uthetha, uyakuhlekisa, akayi kukukhathalela kwaye akayi kukuhlonela. Khumbula ukuba ufanelwe okulungileyo!
Ukubandezeleka komyeni kungasenokwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka. Wena, kuqala kokuqala, qalisa ukuzibamba, uzama ukufumana iimpazamo zombini kunye nokunxibelelana naye, kwaye wena ngokwakho unyanzelisa izakhiwo. Iingxaki aziqinisekanga. Umyeni wakho, ekuboneni ukuba uqalise ukuba ngumntu ozimele, uya kuziva uloyiso. Oku kuya kumenza abe novuyo ngakumbi, kwaye uya kuqiniseka ukuba wenza into efanelekileyo. Ungalokothi ukhale naye, nokuba awukwazi ukubamba iimvakalelo. Akunjalo na akubandakanyeki ekusombululeni iingxaki zeentombi zakho, kunye nabazali, bobabini kunye nomyeni wakho. Ngeengcebiso zabo, baya kuqhubela phambili ubudlelwane bakho.
Kungcono ukuhlala ngokuthula kunokunyamezela. Mhlawumbi ukucaphuka kwakhe kubangelwa kukuba kukho abantu abaninzi endlwini yakho, kwaye akakwazi ukuphumla, phumula. Ukuvuma kuye ngokwakhe akakwazi. Ukuba uhlala kwindlu enye kunye nabazali bakho, ubuncinane ususe ixesha lexeshana. Isiva sokuhlala rhoqo "kweendlebe ezingaqhelekanga" siya kudlula kwaye yonke into iya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo kwiintsebenziswano zakho. Mhlawumbi, awuzange uphumle ndawonye ixesha elide, akazange ahambe phantsi. Ukutshintsha kwimeko yesintu kunceda ukujonga omnye komnye, ukuhlukana.
Mhlawumbi umyeni wakho wenza izicwangciso ezinkulu, kodwa ngokukhawuleza wawa, ngenxa yezizathu ezingacacileyo, oku kuphazamisa igunya lakhe, kwaye ingcamango yokuhluleka ayinikeli ukuphumla. Thetha, cwaka, mkhuthaze ngokuqiniseka ukuba ngokuzayo yonke into iya kuvela.
Ngamanye amaxesha ububele bomlingane bubangelwa kukuziphatha kwakho, isimo sengqondo kuye. Iyakucasula ukunyaniseka kwakho, ukuhleka, okungafuni ukuyiva. Ukungafuni ukunikela kuye, xa iseshoni enye iya kuluhlu, kunye nakwezinye-ukufakwa ngqo kwibhola. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu akahlali efuna ukuzithobela umtshato, kodwa ubomi obudibeneyo akunakwenzeka ngaphandle kwenhlonipho kunye nokuqonda. Kubalulekile ukususa uxhaphalo oluye lwavela kwiintsebenzo ngexesha elinye, ngaphandle koko ukuhlambalaza ngokufanayo kuya kukhula kube yinto embi, kwaye ayiyi kuba nomtshato apho. Yenza kucacile kumyeni wakho ukuba uyakucaphukisa ngesimo sakhe sengqondo, ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda, kwaye ukuba awuzange uyithande, awunakukhathalela.