"M-ewe, kwinto engabonakalisa ukuzimela kwabesifazane? Yintoni ongayibhala kwinqaku malunga nokuzimela kwabasetyhini? Masizame ukubhenela ukucinga "
Amaflegi aseMelika naseBrithani akhanya phambi kokujonga kwam, iingxowa kunye nemigxobhozo emilenzeni emnyama, abasebenzi abomvu ebomvu, ngo-Matshi 8 nangesizathu esithile u-Angela Davis.
"I-Br-rr, imibutho ididekile ngokucacileyo, ngaphezu koko, emva kokuba igama elithi" ibhinqa "ngokukhawuleza libandakanya igama elithi" logic ". Kwaye malunga nayo yonke into, i-alas, ibhaliwe "Ndiyalila ngaphantsi komphefumlo wam, ndihlawula kwisihlalo esinzima se-tram. Kwaye ke, mhlawumbi, ngokwale nkcazo ehloniphekileyo yowesifazane, ekuphenduleni kwam ukukrokra, umfazi omdala onemibala enemibala emikhulu, apho into ethile yaxubha, yajika yatsho, yatsho ilandelayo:
"Nabantu abatsha, awazi nto ngokuzimela kwabasetyhini. Uya kuba nomsila uphakamise uphinde udibanise kuze kube sebusuku. Omnye uVon, ukulahla okunempilo kuya kukhwela, baya kuqhuba ngemoto, kwaye nokuba ngowokugqibela akuyi kusebenza kwi-rag. Konke malunga nokuzama ukufumana ingqumbo kumama okanye uyise, okanye ukufumana i-swavo evela kumntu ohlala kwilizwe. Kwaye kwifowuni ngokwayo ngeedola eziliwaka, kwaye inja inemali engaphezulu kunabantu. Lapha ngexesha lethu, amantombazana ayengathobekile, asebenze ukususela kumncinci, ukugqoka okulungileyo kwishedyuli evela komnye, kuthatha nje ukuba kube ngumthwalo kubazali. Ndasebenza kwimayini njengomsebenzi wesibane ukususela kwiminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo, esebenza kwindlu yehostele, umfazi otshatileyo sele ehleli. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona ebusweni, behla, izibilini ezingaphezu kwezi zibini azizange zigqwezele ngaphezu kwezilwanyana. "
"Ngoko ke, ngombono wakho," ndabuza, ngokugqithiseleyo ngolo hlobo olunzulu lwezandi, "ngaba ukuzimela kwabasetyhini kubonakalisa ukukwazi ukuzibonela ngemali?"
"Kwaye ngoko. Ukusebenza, kungabi kubi ngaphezu kwezilwanyana, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nangakumbi. Ukufumana imali eninzi, ukuba abantwana kunye nomyeni babanele. Ngokuzimela, akukho mntu ukucela imali. Ubungangamsha kufuneka ukuba nekratshi. "
"Ngomsebenzi ndiyavumelana nawe kwinqanaba elithile" ngokukhawuleza ibhinqa elisempilweni yayo, eneenwele ezimfutshane, ezichaziweyo, zangena kwingxoxo ngokukhawuleza kwengubo ye-cashmere, "kodwa malunga nendlela yokutya umyeni we-parasite, uze uchithe. Ndaqhawula ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba le ndoda kwaye indlu ayizange ifakwe umnwe ngomnwe wam, ndiyeke umsebenzi wam. Ngeentsuku ezipheleleyo akazange ahlanganyele kunye ne-sofa yomhlobo wakhe onamaqhina amane, alala aze avuke ngolawulo lwamaTV elawula kude ... "Owesifazane obomvu wayeguqa ubuso bakhe ngokunyaniseka.
"Kwawe, yintoni inqaku lokuzimela kwabasetyhini?" Ndandifaka ngokukhawuleza, ndizama ukucima ingxoxo kubantu abacebileyo, ama-parasites, ama-parasites kunye namanye amadoda afana nawo.
"Ndicinga ukuba kuyacaca," waphendula i-blonde eyamehlo ngesidima, "Ngokomzekelo, ndandikhulisa intombi yam iminyaka elishumi elinesibini yedwa, mna ndinika yena kunye nam. Ukuzimela kwindoda kufuneka ibonakaliswe ukwenzela ukuba ungenzi ngaphandle kwendoda, xa ithe yaba yinto engenakunceda, njengesihlunu esingaphathi simbolo "
"Ndiyabona. Ndiyabulela kakhulu! "Ndagqiba ingxoxo kwaye, ndagqithisa kancane kubagibeli abadidekile, ndagxuma kwicala eliphambili ...
Ndathi, "Mama, ucinga?" Ndabuza, ukuxhomekeka kumnyango wesango, "ukuba ngumfazi ozimeleyo kuthetha ukuba ngumntu ongeyena umntu, ukuba abe namalungelo afanayo nendoda okanye unokukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komntu?"
"Ewe, yonke into oyithethileyo yinto elula ukuchazela le ngcamango." Umama wamomotheka, emi esitofu, "Ukuze ube ngumfazi kufuneka ungabi yindoda engathandabuzekiyo kwaye ungabi ngumntu ongeyena mntu, kufuneka ube nguwe, kungekhona omnye umntu. Kuthiwani kumfazi ngokulinganayo amalungelo alinganayo nendoda, emva koko ukuba ufuna amalungelo alinganayo afumana imisebenzi elinganayo - umzekelo, ukukhonza emkhosini okanye ukulwa. Indoda kunye neyabhinqa badalwa ngokuhlukileyo, akudingeki bazilinganise kunye ukuze baphume ngokuvisisana. Ukuzimela, bobabini abasetyhini kunye namadoda, kuyintando yokuzikhethela ukuze uphile njengoko ufuna. Inkululeko yokuzikhethela ukutshintsha ihlabathi elizungezile kunye nawe xa ufuna. Intando yakho, eyadalwa nguThixo njengenkululeko njengomoya. Ngoku ndincedise ukuseta itafile, okanye kungekudala upapa uya kuza. "