IBhayibhile ithi: "Abazali badla iidiliya eziluhlaza, kwaye abantwana babenamazinyo." Nesi siqulatho asikho ukunyaniseka! Ukuba uphinda uphinde uphinde uphumelele imbali yentsapho yakho kwaye uqokelele imithi ebhaliweyo yomhla ngemihla ebalulekileyo kunye neemeko, unokukwazi ukukhanyisa ezininzi iingxaki zakho. kwaye kungekhona nje ukuyiqonda, kodwa ukulahla!
U-Anthnin Schutzenberger waseFransi waqala ngokuzihlalutya, ukuhlalutya iziganeko eziqhubekayo kwintsapho yakhe (ukufa komntwana omncinci). Ngenxa yoko, wavula indlela entsha ye-psychotherapy kwaye wadala inzululwazi encinci - ingqondo ye-psycho-genology, ukuhlanjululwa kwesi sitshixo ekukhuliseni uxhalaba kunye nokuhluleka kudla ukufihla kwixesha elidlulileyo lentsapho.Ukunika ingxelo kwiNtsapho
Sonke sivela ebuntwaneni. Kwaye into enhle kunazo zonke kuthi, kunye nokulimala kakhulu, ngokuqhelekileyo ukusuka apho. Abantwana abayikhethayo abazali babo okanye imeko abakhulayo kuyo. Yaye yonke imithwalo yolu hlobo, yonke "ilifa" lonina noyise, ootatomkhulu, oogogo kunye noomkhulu-ntombi baqhubeka bephethe amahlombe abo. Kodwa akukho zintsapho ezingenazo iingxaki! Imfazwe yangaphambili, iimpendulo, isiqalekiso somndeni, iimfihlo zabantu bonke - konke oku kunzima kuthi, inzala. Ininzi yembali yentsapho iye yalahleka kwiinkulungwane, ezinye iimbali zifihla ngamabomu - kwaye ziyaqhaqhazela ebusweni kunye nosongelo kunye nexhala, ukungaxhamli ...
Thatha ubuncinci "ukubalwa kweentsapho" - inkqubo engabalulekanga yokuphendula ngokubambisana phakathi kwezihlobo. Ngamnye wethu unembopheleleko yokuziphatha kwintsapho. Kakade inyaniso yokuba abazali bethu basikhulisa, basebenzisa amandla abo, kusenza sibe nethemba elithile: kukho ityala elifuneka libuyiselwe. Kodwa kuvela, kwinkqubo yentsapho eyaneleyo, amatyala anikezelwa ngethungelwano: abazali-kuthi, thina-kubantwana bethu, kunye nabo-kubazukulu bethu. Nangona kunjalo, ootata noomama abaninzi bagcina abantwana babo kunye nabo, bavuselele iimvakalelo zecala. "Ndiyincama kakhulu!" Oku kukhokelela kwiimeko ezintle: intombi ayithandi ubomi bentsapho yakhe kuba uyabakhathalela abazali bayo; Unyana akayi kutshata umama wakhe ... Ukunyanzelisa! Inkqubo yenkcazo yentsapho inzima kakhulu. Izihlobo zinokufuna ukuba uhlawule amatyala ezizukulwana ezidlulileyo-kwaye awukwazi ukuchasa. Ngelo xesha, kukho ukuvakalelwa kukuba usebenzisa. Kodwa ukuba uyaqonda apho "imilenze ikhula" ukusuka, unokwenza umgca ongabonakaliyo phakathi kwexesha langoku kunye nexesha elidlulileyo.
Umzekelo ovela ebomini
UVarya noLena ngabazala basesibini. UVarya uhlala kwikomkhulu, noLena - kwidolophu encinane. Uthumela unyana wakhe ukuba afunde eMoscow aze ahlele ukuhlala noVarya. Nangona enye kunye neyendlu enkulu, kodwa ayinakuthathaka ukuba indlu yayingumntu omdala: I-Vary ineentombi ezimbini, kodwa ayikwazi ukuchasa. Ukusebenza neengcali zeengqondo kubangela ukuba kubonakale iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo: ngexesha lemfazwe, unina wayehlala kwintsapho yomkhwekazi wakhe-kwaye ngenxa yoko, wasinda. Lo mkhwenkwe wayengumakhulu kaLena. Ngoko ke, kwintsapho kaLenin kukho ukuqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba intsapho kaVarina "ibophelelwe" kubo.
Iigulane kwikhefu
Banayo yonke intsapho. Amanqaku okukhethayo ukuhlala ethule: abantwana abangekho mthethweni kunye nentolongo eyadlulayo, bagxininise baze bazibulala ... "Abafileyo abonakaliyo, kodwa abakho," - la mazwi ka-Augustine Oyoloyo ayinyaniso ngoku.
Imfihlelo yentsapho inempembelelo ebalulekileyo ebomini bethu! Iyakwazi ukukhetha ukhetho lweeklasi, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ngelixa sisele siyimfihlo. Njengokuba into yangaphakathi isenza sikhethe lo msebenzi, le ndoda (nangona eqinisweni sifuna thina enye!). Oku kwenzeka ntoni? Iingcali ezile ndawo zibonisa ukuba ulwazi olungavumelekanga ludluliselwa ngokungazi kakuhle kumama ukuya kumntwana. Kwaye umntu uphila, njenge-crypt, apho "umoya" udibene khona. Uvakalelwa kukuba akahlali ubomi bakhe, kodwa akakwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ingcambu yengxaki.
Umzekelo ovela ebomini
UGalina - ukuhlala exhalabele abantwana. Iingxaki ezincinane zenza i-presyncope. Ibhinqa liqonda konke ukusila kwesimo sengqondo esinjalo, kodwa akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo. Ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa ukuba unina unomntakwabo omncinci owafa kwiminyaka emithandathu yokugula ebuntwaneni. Kwaye ugogo, kunye nonina kwaba yintlekele. Kuyacaca apho kukho ukuxhalabisa okungaqinisekiyo.
ISyniversary Syndrome
Ukuba ubonisa i-genosociogram yakho-umgca wobubele opheleleyo kunye namagama, iziganeko ezibalulekileyo kunye nemihla (kungekuphela ukuzalwa nokufa, kodwa nemitshato, ukungena kwimfundo ephakamileyo, ukuzalwa kwabantwana, izifo, izingozi), kuya kufumaneka amaninzi amaninzi. Umzekelo, kunokuthi zonke iziganeko ezibuhlungu zentsapho ziboshwe kwithuba elithile lonyaka (ngaphambi kwePasika, emva kweKrisimesi) okanye inombolo ethile, ithi, 12. Okhe kuya kufumaneka ukuba unyana, uyise kunye nomkhuluwabo banobomi iyaqhubeka ngokwemeko efanayo: umtshato wokuqala emva kweziko - ukuzalwa kwintombi - umtshato - umtshato wesibini ... Ezi ngxaki zibizwa ngokuba yi "anniversary syndrome". Bachazwa ngememori yezofuzo, umnqweno ongenamqondo wokubopha ubomi babo kwi-biography yesihlobo esilawulayo. Ukungenazi nto kunamandla kangangokuthi ngamanye amaxesha abantu bavakalelwa kukuba "badonseleka ngombutho ongabonakaliyo" kulolu suku ukwenza isenzo esithile.
Isifo sesibhiyozo singabonakalisa kwiziganeko ezivuyayo: ukuzalwa kwabantwana, ukufumana amabhaso, ukukhusela i-thesis. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo sithatha izinto ezinje. Nantsi, ndithatha umzekelo ovela kudade! Xa umntu unjengokuba ewela kwisondo ehambelana nokuthanda kwakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo uzama ukujonga indlela yokumisa ngayo. Kwaye ukuhlaziywa kwakhona kwentsapho edlulileyo kunika ithuba lokuphumelela.
Ngendlela efanayo, ngokucacileyo, intsapho kunye "nesiqalekiso sokuzalwa" senza kwintsapho. Umphumo wegama eliqinileyo, lithethwe ngentlawulelo yombalo olawulayo (intloko yelo hlobo), ikhokelela ekuphindaphindiweyo kweemeko ezibuhlungu ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba ingazichukumisi abantu ukuba benze izenzo ezithile. Umntu "kufuneka" uqaphele isiqalekiso - kwaye uyakwenza ngokuthanda kwakhe!
Umzekelo ovela ebomini
UTanya uyesaba ngomhla we-Oktobha 7. Xa wayeneminyaka eli-15 ubudala, walimala ngexesha loqeqesho, ngenxa yoko wayengenako ukwenza i-gymnastics. Ngomhla, umtshato uqulunqwe nomyeni wakhe. Oktobha 7, uTanya wayengozini. Emva kokuqulunqa i-genosociogram, kuthiwa ngo-Oktobha 7, ugogo-togo kaTanya, onomntu ofana nayo, wafa. "Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ukugqoka inqwelo phambi kwakho kuya kunceda ukunqoba i-lottery, kuya kuba. Ngokwahlukileyo, ukulindela kokungaphumeleli "ngosuku olusisigxina" luyichukumisa, "isazi sengqondo seTanin sachaza ukuba sisengozini ngo-Oktobha 7.
Ukuzingela iimfihlelo
Zama ukwenza i-genosociogram yakho. Ngokwenza oku, uya kuba nokufunda iimfihlo ezigqitywa ngasese kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana, cacisa izenzo zakho kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, utshintshe ubomi bakho. Emva kokuchongwa kwezixhumanisi kunye "nokuqulunqa" kwabo kuya kubaphatha! Unokwakha iprojekthi yobomi bakho ngokuzithandela kwakho, kwaye kungekhona kwintsapho yexesha elide.
Kuqala kuphi? Ukusuka kumabali omama noyise, ootatomkhulu. Bhala phantsi ubungqina babo uze uhlalutye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukulungelelanisa okudlulileyo ukuya kweyesixhenxe kweso sizwe, kodwa umsebenzi onjalo unganakulinganiswa. Ukucacisa iimeko zobomi bentsapho yakhe, nayiphi na iinkcukacha ziya kunceda: ubungqina bokuba ngabahlobo kunye nabamelwane, iintlanganiso kunye neengxoxo kunye nezihlobo ezikude, iincwadi ezingabhaliweyo, iincwadi zecawa, ukuya kwilizwe lalokhokho. Injongo eyimfihlo ingafihla kuyo nayiphi na into encinci: amanqaku, ukunikezelwa, amasayine phantsi kwesithombe. Dweba umthi wofuzo kwaye wenze zonke iziganeko ezibalulekileyo, uze uziqhathanise kunye naloo nto, kunye neengxaki ezifunekayo wena nabantwana bakho. Ndikholelwe, isisombululo sisondele!