Ingaba umfazi uyavuya xa engenabantwana?

Umbuzo awunjalo nokuba umfazi ongenabantwana unokuvuyiswa, kodwa ukuba kukho abantwana abangenabantwana nabanolwazi. Kwaye kukho ezininzi zazo. Ngokuphathelele intshukumo ye-chayldfri kutshanje iyaziwa. Inani lababini nabaphikisi bokulahla ngamabomu ithuba lokuba ngabazali landa. Yintoni le - ukuhamba kwe-Childfree? Oku kuya kuxoxwa ngezantsi.


Kukho abachasi abaninzi bokungabikho abantwana ngokuzithandela ngokungqinelana neenkcukacha, kuba ibhinqa elingathandi ukuba nezingane libonwe ngathi njengento yobugovu, ngaphantsi komnqweno wokukhokela ubomi obungenasiphelo. Ngaba oku kunjalo? Kutheni ezinye iintsapho zitshatileyo zikhusela ngokunyanisekileyo isikhundla sabo sokungabantwana? Kwaye kutheni ufuna ukukhusela inkcaso, kwaye ungahlali ubomi bakho ukukholisa ukuziphatha kwakho kakubi?

Yaye uyazi ukuba ngokwemiqathango yokungabikho abantwana, abantu abaye bazala abantwana kwaye bayaxolisa malunga nale nto ingabizwa kwakhona? Ngaba bambalwa kakhulu phakathi kwethu? Hayi, kuninzi. Ngoko kwakungekho ngcono ukuziqonda kwangaphambili kwaye ungazami ukuthatha indima yabazali, ukuba awukakulungeli ngaphakathi ngaphakathi, kunokuba uthabathe ukucaphukisa kwakho kumntwana ongekho phantsi kobuhlwempu? Lo ngumbuzo obuhlungu, bambalwa banamandla okuzivuma bona baye bakhawuleza ngokuzalwa kweendlalifa, ukuba ndifuna ukuhlala "kum," kodwa ngoku andinako.

Imigaqo ephambili yabathandi be-chailfree

  1. I-Rescheniene bezala abantwana, bayamkela ngokugqithiseleyo, akukho mbi ngaphezu kwesigqibo sokuzithandela sokuba nomntwana. Omnye uyifunayo, abanye abakwenzi. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokukhetha.
  2. Abasetyhini (kunye namadoda) abangenayo abantwana bayenza isigqibo malunga nokungabikho kwabantwana, ngokusekelwe kwiinkalo ezininzi. Ngokwabanye, ukungabi nokuzala kunokunyaniseka ngakumbi kunenkukhu, kungabi neemali ezifanelekileyo zokutya okuqhelekileyo, amathoyizi, umbutho wokuzilibazisa kunye nentlawulo yemfundo yomntwana wakho.
  3. I-Childfree (ngokuchasene nenkolelo eninzi malunga nabo) ayinalo lonke ulwalamano kubantwana babantu. Baxhulumana ngokuzithandela kunye nabantwana abancinci, nabancinane kwiintsapho zabahlobo, kodwa abanenjongo yokuvelisa umntwana. Emva koko, ukuthanda into epheleleyo akuthethi ukuba uthetha le "nto".
  4. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yokuxhamla nokuthetha nabanye abantwana, abafazi banquma ukungabi nabantwana babo. Umzekelo, ootitshala okanye ootitshala.
  5. U-Childfree uphika ukutyholwa kobugovu, njengoko behlala benethuba lokunyamekela iqabane labo okanye malunga nezilwane ezifuywayo. Ukongezelela, kunokwenzeka ukuqwalasela ingcamango "yokuzingca" ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, abantu abanabantwana ngokuyinene baxhamla ngokwenene - benza ngokuvumelana neminqweno yabo kunye nemvelo. Kutheni i-Childfree ingenalo ilungelo?
  6. Umnqweno wokubeletha umntwana akusiyo yonke into "ukungasebenzi phantsi kwenkqubo yofuzo", uphawu lwe "ukuguga" kwesintu okanye uphawu lokungabikho komntwana. Oku budenge. Abantu baphila ngokuvisisana neemfuno zabo zangaphakathi kunye neenkolelo zabo.
  7. Abanye abesifazana i-chajldfri bayalumkisa impilo, ubuhle kunye nesithandwa sezesondo, ezibangelwa ukukhulelwa nokubeletha. Iingxaki ngomgudu, zitshintshile zibe yi-formazhodi engabonakaliyo kwaye zabonakala zingaphezu komzimba - oku akusikho nto abayathanda ukuya ebomini.
  8. Ezinye zezingane ezingenanto zingacingi nje ngehlabathi elijikeleze kakhulu, ukunika ubomi "le ntshukumo" kumntu omnye. Akukho mntu unokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uya kuhlala ubomi obulisekileyo kunye nolonwabo emva koko. Kwaye ukuba ihlabathi likhohlakele, imeko yezoqoqosho ayizinzile, ijikeleze ukungaqiniseki kunye nokungahambelani - kuya kuba nzima ukuba ngumntwana onoyolo.
  9. I-Childfrigomogut ihlakulele kunye nesi sikhundla: ihlabathi lethu liphezulu kakhulu, kutheni kusengabantu? Kwaye ngoko i-ecology sele iqhubekile kwi-seams. Okokuthi, akukho ukuzingca, kodwa, ngokuchaseneyo, ukukhathazeka kwehlabathi jikelele kuluntu.
  10. Ubomi buhle, buninzi kwaye bunomdla. Ukuba nomntwana ngumnye wemibala kule palette, kodwa kungekhona isiseko sobomi-ke yibalo i-chillyfri. Ixesha kwaye ngoko ke akunakwanele ukuba i-courier, ukuhamba, umyeni kunye nezinto ezithandayo, kunye nomntwana ngamanye amaxesha kuzakukhuphaza imeko.
  11. Childfricheschitayut ukuba amalungelo abo ahlala ephulwa ngumdla ogqithiseleyo wabangaphandle "kwingxaki" yokungabantwana. Ngamanye amaxesha noxinzelelo lukaRhulumente luvakalelwa. Yaye ukuba unokuthi uvumelane kunye nezihlobo, awukwazi ukubeka umlomo wakho, ukuthetha. Nalokhu kuyimfuneko ukuphulaphula ngcikivo ngalunye: "Uyintoni na ukudonsa nezingane?", "Uza kuba nini iindlalifa?". Ukuphazamiseka kwimfihlo, kunye nabachasene nale ndlela banokuqonda ngokupheleleyo. Wonke umntu uyazikhethela ukuba kufuneka aphile njani.
  12. Ewe, kukho ezininzi zezi ngxabano, ukuba ufuna, unokufumana ezininzi izichaso. Nangona kunjalo, bekungekho sikweni ukuba singagxininisi isikhundla senye icala - abantu abafuna okanye bafuna ukuba nabantwana. Kukho uninzi kuluntu lwethu. Kwaye zilapha zabo iingxabano.

Iibango eziphambili eziya ku-chayldfri

  1. Bahlakulela abantwana, bakha uluntu, amaqela kunye nemibutho. Musa ukumemeza kwihlabathi lonke ngokungafuni ukuzala abantwana. Awufuni-awenzi, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokwakha oku kwiimpawu ezizenzekelayo.
  2. Bahlala bexhatshazwa ngokukrakra ngabanye abantu babantu - kwiindawo zikawonkewonke, kwizithuthi, kwi-cafe. Abantwana ngokwabo bavutha nje abanye baxhatshazwayo.Asamkelekanga, iimvakalelo zabo kufuneka zikwazi ukukhusela.
  3. I-Childfrryavlyayut nechutkost nangakumbi noodade babo, abazalwana kunye nabahlobo bakhulume okokuqala ngabantwana babo. Abakwazi ukubona abantwana njengenxalenye yobomi (nangona bengabakho). Benqwenela nokuba nje bahlale kunye nosana, bona iifoto zabo, eziyingozi kakhulu kubazali babo abanothando.
  4. Uninzi lwe-chayldfri enamandla kakhulu kule ndlela ibonakalisa ngokucacileyo ukusetyenziswa kwengqondo kwexesha elide. Ngokomzekelo, umoya okhuselekileyo wasemakhaya kwasebuncinaneni, ukungahlali uthando okanye ezinye iimeko ezibuhlungu. Aba bantu abazi indlela yokuthanda abanye okanye ngokwabo.
  5. Ngenxa yabalandeli, inani lokukhupha izisu landa. Ukuba isibini esitshatileyo asifuni ukuba nabantwana, kwaye ukukhulelwa komzimba kuyaphela, lo mfazi uya kukhishwa isisu. Kukho ukungafani phakathi kwezikhundla ezingenamntwana kunye nemigaqo ethile yezenkolo.
  6. Umntwana osemncinci umama omncinci njengowesifazane oqhenqileyo, onobuqili, onobuwula, obambe iVuma kuphela yintsimbi kunye ne-diaper. I-Childfri isebenza "ngamabali amaxhala" malunga nempilo, ukutsala kunye nobomi besondo obulandelayo obusetyhini ozala umntwana.
  7. I-Childfriyslishkom iphikisana ngokugqithiseleyo ukubeleka nokuphumelela komsebenzi (ukulinganisa ngokupheleleyo ukuphumelela empilweni). Ngokuqinisekileyo ukuzalwa komntwana ngokukhawuleza kukukhangela ukulahleka kwezakhono, ulwazi kunye namathuba okufumana umsebenzi omhle emva kweeholide ethile.

Ewe, zonke ezi ngcamango zembono zinelungelo elipheleleyo lokuba khona. Ngoku ukuba uye wafunda okungakumbi imilingo kunye nabachasene nabo, unokuyiqonda kakuhle enye yazo. Into ephambili kukuba ungathethi, ungaxhomeli amalebula uze ungakhohlwa ukuba wonke umntu ukhululekile ukuhlala ebomini bakhe njengoko ufuna. Kwaye njengoko kuvela.