Ukuba umyeni wakho unabantwana ukusuka emtshatweni wangaphambili, kufuneka ubeke ingqalelo kwezinye iingcebiso zeengqondo zentsapho. Ekuqalekeni, imeko ibonakala ibulula ngokwaneleyo: uhlala ngokwahlukileyo, awufane udibane. Kodwa emva kwexesha, phakathi kwakho nomlingane wakho unokuvela imibuzo ephathelele kubantwana abasemtshatweni wangaphambili kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ungabavumeli ukuba baphikise ubomi bakho kunye.
Kunzima kakhulu ukuseka uqhagamshelwano kunye nolwalamano oluhle nomntwana. Emva kwakho konke, ekuqaleni ucinga ukuba uyithaba, ngenxa yokuba uluvo lwakhe uthatha uyise othandekayo kwintsapho. Yaye nangona kungenjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kukwazi ukukholisa umntwana ochasene naye. Ngokuqinisekileyo, intsapho nganye ineemeko zayo, ezimele zidibaniswe ngokwahlukileyo kwaye zichaneke. Kodwa kukho imigaqo emiselweyo malunga nombuzo wendlela yokuziphatha nomntwana womyeni kumtshato wokuqala.
Umyeni nomfazi-oguqukayo, nabazali-rhoqo
Khumbula ukuba umntwana akaqondi into eyenzekayo njengabantu abadala. Kubo, ukurhoxiswa koyise kwintsapho kuyintlekele enkulu kwaye kuyamangalisa. Ingqondo yengane yonk 'iminyaka iphendulela ngendlela eyayiyo kweso siganeko: xa unyaka unyaka umntwana uya kukhangela into engekho nto, kwiminyaka emihlanu kuya kuhlawula ilahleko ezincinci, kwiminyaka yobudala-ukuqhawula kwabazali kuya kuba yintlekele yangempela.
Into ephambili kukuba umntwana aqonde ukuba abazali basengabazali bakhe, kuphela umfazi nomyeni baqhawule umtshato. Mkholise ukuba ukuba uyise uyashiya intsapho, akuthethi ukuba akasamthandi. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ufumane ezi nkcazo kungekuphela komama wakhe, kodwa nakumfazi wakhe omtsha.
Musa ukuvumela bonke
Ungavumeli nanye indlela umntwana wakho umyeni wakho konke, mhlawumbi uya kuhlala ekhanda lakho. Abantwana kunzima kakhulu ukunyamezela ukuqhawuka kwabazali babo kunyaka wokuqala, kwaye abafuni ukumkela umfazi omtsha kayise. Bahlambalaza, baxhomekeke kwi-antics, banokuthi bahlale bodwa, bathule. Kwaye akufanele ukwesaba ukuthetha ngala maxesha. Kwaye into ephambili kukuba ubaba athathe imicimbi yezemfundo, ngakumbi ekubeni unelungelo lokuqonda lo mntwana, kodwa awukwazi. Imizamo yakho yokuchazela umntwana ukuba yenze njani okanye ngokuphambene nayo iya kubonwa njengento yokuhlaselwa kwaye oku kuya kubangela ukuba ulwalamano lwakho kunye nomyeni wakhe wangaphambili.
Musa ukugweba, kwaye awuyi kugwetywa
Xa umntwana efika endlwini yakho ekutyeleleni, ungazami ukuthetha okanye ulawule unina kuye. Ezi zihloko zifanele zigcinwe ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana esendlini. Kwaye akuyona into yokuziphatha, nangona kufuneka kwakhona bakhunjulwe, kodwa ekuboneni amagama akho ngumntwana. Kuye kuya kuba yinto enzima kakhulu, icaphukise kwaye ingakhokelela ekungavumelani okukhulu kwintsebenziswano.
Bashiye bodwa
Akufanele uthintele uyihlo ekuxoxaneni nomntwana wakhe. Emva koko, uza kuza kubona uyise, kungekhona nawe. Ngeli xesha kungcono ukwenza ibhizinesi lakho, ubashiye bodwa. Ukuba umntwana unobungane kwaye kulula ukudibanisa, unako ukudlala imidlalo kunye okanye uthathe uhambo oludibeneyo.
Iingcamango zobuqhetseba
Awunayo inceba kunye nomntwana ukuze ufihle into ethile kwintsapho. Oku akufanele kwenziwe kwinqanaba, okanye enye. Ungalokothi usebenzise indlela: "Masiye kwi-cinema (ukuhamba, kwikhafefe, njl.), Musa ukuxelela uMama ngako." Ngendlela ebonakalayo ingenangqondo, unikezela umntwana kwindawo ethile yemfihlelo, ungammangaleli nje ukugcina imfihlelo, kodwa ukuxoka. Oku kukubambelela ecaleni lakho, ngenxa yoko unokudideka kwaye akayi kuqonda indlela yokuphendula kwimeko enjalo. Ukongezelela, oku kunokudala umva wecala kwelinye icala, eliza kuba negalelo elibi ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo yakhe.
Ukunyaniseka ngaphezu kwazo zonke
Khumbula ukuba umntwana makangenakunikwa ngeso sizathu isizathu sokuba avunyelwe ukusebenzisa (umzekelo, amnandi, ama-chips, i-soda). Oku kuphathwa njengemzamo engalunganga yokuphumelela isimo somntwana. Umntwana unokufumana uluvo lokuba ungcono kunomama wakho, kuba uyalela, kwaye uvumela yonke into. Enyanisweni, iya kuweleka njengendlu yamakhadi kwaye inokwenzeka ngokugqithiseleyo (ingakumbi xa kuvela iingxaki zempilo ngenxa yokusetyenziswa kwemveliso eyingozi). Ngoko ke, qiniseka kwaye uqikelele.