Abanye banokuthi ngokukhawuleza bathi baxelele, luhlobo luni lothando ngokwakho-onke amandla anikezelwa kwintsapho kunye nomyeni wakhe. Kule nkcaso makhe ndixelele ukuba umfazi othanda umyeni wakhe akaze azibale yena ngokwakhe - emva kwayo yonke into, ukubonakala kwakhe kufuneka kuhlale kukuthakazelisa kwaye kuyithakazelisa, ukukholisa intanda, ukumnceda nokumnika isizathu sokuzikhukhumeza. Ewe, ukuba ungamthandi umyeni wakho, ke awukhathaleli ukuba ukhangeleka njani. Ukuba "ixhoba leemeko" kuhlala kulula kunokuba ube phezulu. Ngenxa yoko, ayikaziwa ozithandayo kakhulu: yena ohlala njalo, ngaphandle kwayo nayiphi na into, usebenza ngokwakhe kunye nokubonakala kwakhe, okanye ubani ohlonipha ubuqili bakhe, ebhekisela ekukhathaleleni intsapho. Ngoko, "umbingelelo" uhlala uphazamisa ubudlelwane nabantu. Indoda ijwayele ukuphumelela, umfazi-ixhoba okanye umhlobo-isilwanyana asithandi.
Abasetyhini ubudlelwane namadoda, ngokutsho kukaTracy Cabot, isazi sengqondo seMelika, sithinteka nokulindela kwakhe okungenangqondo. Abasetyhini ukususela ekuphupha komntwana kwesikhulu. Baqala ukucinga ikhefu labo elikhethiweyo, bamkele iimpawu ezithile zesimo, izinga leenkcubeko kunye nokukhuliselwa kunye nezinye iimpawu zomntu, kunye nezakhono ezithile zabasebenzi, iimpumelelo zezemidlalo, ingqondo-konke okucinga ukuba umntu oyinyani kufuneka abe nayo. Kodwa okwenene "isetyenzi somntu" sisoloko senzeka, ukuba akusiyo ekuphakameni, iyahambelana nomfazi "osemgangathweni". Xa isibini esivela kwingqungquthela kwi-cafe, ehamba phantsi kwenyanga, kwaye xa umntu ekhangela intombazana ngendlela encinane, ngoko ngoko uzama ukuyixelisa. Uluhlu lweempembelelo luqala ngokukhawuleza luvele kwaye lukhulise ngexesha lokuhlalisana. Ubudlelwane buya kuhlahloka, kwaye emva kwenkcazelo engaziwayo, uthando luyalala. Ngubani na omele, umntu? Ngaba awuzange uhlangabezane nezilindele zakho? Mhlawumbi bekufanelekile ngexesha lokuphulaphula uluvo lwangunina, udade, iintombi zamantombazana - bayazi ukuba bhetele kwaye banako ukuvavanya indlela uhambelana ngayo. Abantu abakujikelezile amehlo abo ngabantu abakhethiweyo bakho "awayi-zamyleny, kwaye ngokuphambene noko - ngokunyanisekileyo. Ngamanye amagama, ungalindelanga ukuba umntu wakho uya kuphelela. Kananjalo ungalindelanga ukuba uya kukwenza. Akuyena wonke umntu, nokuba uyakuthanda kakhulu, uya kukuvumela ukuba uziphathe kakuhle, ulungelelanise nezinto ozikholelwayo. Ngaphandle koko, uya kucinga ukuba wenza iphutha kuwe kwaye ekugqibeleni epholile. Khumbula ukuba uthando aluxhomekeke ekubeni yeyiphi ebini epheleleyo ngakumbi. Ngamnye wenu uyingqayizivele kwaye ngandlela-thile, uya kugqithisa enye. Unokuthanda ngokwenene indoda, ukuba ube nolwazi ngakumbi kwiindawo. Kwaye mhlawumbi wakuthanda ngenxa yalo!
Umzuzwana olandelayo ovimbela abafazi ebuhlotsheni babo namadoda-ulindele ukuba onke amanyathelo olwalamano lwakho aya kwenziwa nguye. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba indoda idinga impendulo, ilinde ukulandelana. Ukuba ubonisa ubumnyama ngenxa yobume bakho okanye ukratshi, ngoko umntu uyisibonakaliso sokuba akayithandeki kuwe. Emva koko okhethiweyo wakho uya kuzama "izintelezi zakho" kwelinye idlule, nangona wena, kunokwenzeka, uza kulindela uxinzelelo oluninzi. Khumbula - amadoda aqhayiya. Ukuba usemncinci, le nsizwa inokukwazi kwaye izakuzama ukwenza "ukuhlaselwa okutsha". Kodwa amadoda aqolileyo aya kuzama ukuthatha umhlalaphantsi-kuba abafazi abangatshatanga baninzi kwaye bafumana umngane ngakumbi kunomhlobo. Ngamanye amagama, ungamkeli umntu obonisa iimpawu zokunaka kuwe - funda indlela yokuzithabatha kakuhle, bonisa intsingiselo yakho, uze ufumanise ukuba yintoni.
Abanye bakholelwa ukuba abafazi abaphazamiseki ubudlelwane babo namadoda ngokugqiba. Sifanele siqinisekise ukuba le ngxelo ayikude nenyaniso. Ibhinqa elinelisekile elipheleleyo, elilungisa kakuhle ngamaxesha onke litsala indoda. Into ephambili kukuba ukudibanisa neentambo ezipheleleyo kwakukho inqeni. Ulolu hlobo lwengqondo engqondweni kaMama Wendalo aluyi kushiya umntu ongafuniyo. Umxholo wokugqiba uvutha. Emva koko, amanye amantombazana nabasetyhini bayakholelwa ukuba abanamdla kubantu kwaye bonke ubudlelwane bagcinwa kwinqanaba lokudlala ngothando, besaba ukubonisa umzimba wabo. Kodwa ukuba umntu uzalisa nawe, kufanele ukuba yinto ethile yokuthetha. Kwaye inqaku elithi "indoda ithanda amehlo akhe" iya kuchaneka ngokuchanekileyo kwingqalelo yothando, hhayi uthando. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umfazi omhle uvalela kwisiqingatha esinamandla somnqweno wokuba nawo, kwaye ubuncinane kanye. Indoda elumkileyo ethanda indlela ecacileyo yobomi ayisoze yathatha umfazi omhle onendawo kwindawo leyo. Kodwa abesifazana balula, abanomdla omhle kunye nobumnene banokubopha indoda kuye ixesha elide. Ngesizathu esithile, imizekelo kunye neenkwenkwezi azivolanga. Yintoni enokuba yimbi ngaphezu kobukhwele besilisa. Ikhwele linokuchazwa nokuxilwa, nokubetha, nokuzingca. Ngoko, ukuba awunayo inqwenela 90-60-90, vuyisa. Ukongezelela, ixesha apho iifom zeMerlin Monroe okanye iVenus yeMilos ziza kuphinda zifike kwifashini azikude. Kodwa amaGrike ayesazi kakhulu ngomzimba! Ewe, asinakathetha ngeentombazana "ezinjengama-asidi", ngokungazitshiyo emnyango. "I-Kiselny" isisu kunye nemilenze efanayo akunakwenzeka ukuba kubangele inzala kwinani elikhulu lamadoda, kwaye umfazi unzima kangangokuthi akukho namandla kwaye unqwenela ukuba nomdla kubantu. Kodwa kunjalo bayayithanda nayo! Zama nje ukuba ungasasazi ukuba ungenasimo kwaye uzibukele.
Enye yezona mpazamo eziqhelekileyo abafazi abazenzayo malunga nolwalamano nabesilisa xa ziba zona ngokwazo - njengabafana kwi-skirt. Abasetyhini abanomntu wesilisa abazithatha inxaxheba kwindoda yabo, bajika umyeni wabo abe yidolli. Abanye amadoda baqala ukuxhathisa, kwaye ke bayeke izikhundla zabo, ngelixa abanye - bayavuya ukunyuka. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, lo mfazi wenza into engalunganga. Okokuqala, uphendulela umyeni wakhe ukuba abe "i-parasite" ngezandla zakhe, okwesibini, kunciphisa ukuzithemba kwakhe. Kwimeko yokuqala, umntu uhlala njengo-Alphonse, esebenzisa zonke izibonelelo. Ngelo xesha, akukho nto inqanda ukufumana inkosikazi kwicala kunye nokuba "indoda" yangempela kunye naye. Yaye, xa umfazi ephelile ngenxa yokuba yedwa "kwi-harness", indoda yakhe ethandekayo ayiyi kumvumela ukuba azinxulumene nantoni na. Yilapho iziqhwala ziqala khona. Kwimeko yesibini, xa umntu engayiva kakuhle, uqala ukukhangela umdla kumacala - apho uya kuqonda kwaye uya kuziva ngathi uyindoda. Mhlawumbi akazange alinde ngokwaneleyo ukushiya intsapho, kodwa akayi kukhanyela kwintombi yentliziyo.
Ubudlelwane buyakwazi ukuphangwa xa umntu ezama ukuwajonga ngexesha lesini. Ibhedi yomtshato ayilona indawo yokuxhamla. Ngokuphambene noko - umbhede uyakwazi ukudibanisa nokuze uqale iimvakalelo ezintsha.
Kwaye enye into - ungalokothi umlahle umfazi wakho. Nokuba ukhubekile kakhulu. Emva kwayo yonke into, kubonakala ngathi kunokwenzeka ukuba ulungiselele. Kukho nawuphi na, oku kuya kusindisa umtshato kwiinguqu ezinokwenzeka okanye ukunciphisa ubuncinci. Abafazi abazizilumko bayazi ngale nto.