Iyintoni umphumo weemvakalelo eziphazamisayo?
Mhlawumbi iimvakalelo ezimbi azibi kakhulu? Mhlawumbi le yimizwa yendalo ebonakalayo kuthi ngokwemvelo ngokwayo? Uze uzilahle phantsi na? Ngelishwa, izibalo zichasene. Ukususela kwimvakalelo embi, umsindo, umona, abantu balahlekelwa ngabahlobo babo abasenyongweni, iintsapho ziyahlukana, iingxaki emsebenzini. Kwaye ububi nobukrakra buhlala njani emphefumlweni ekukwenzeni ukuxolela, nokuba ulwalamano lwalugcinwe. Ngamanye amaxesha sifuna ngokusemthethweni ukuxolelwa okanye samkele ukuxolisa komnye umntu, kodwa ukusalela entliziyweni kusekho. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Ihlabathi esiphila kuyo lizele izilingo. Mhlawumbi obaluleke kakhulu kubo banomnqweno wokubeka ityala lokusilela kwethu, ubunzima bezinto kunye nokungahambi komnye umntu. Sizama ukufuna ulonwabo nokuchuma ngaphandle kwethu, silindele ukuba baya kusinika, sivuyise, senze sivuyiswe. Kodwa abo bacinga njalo, balinde ukucaphuka, ukudumala, indlela yokungcatsha, ukugwetywa kwabahlobo kunye nokungathandeki ngezenzo zabo. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba sikhohlwe ukuba sinokubukela ihlabathi ngamehlo othando kunye nokuthembela, makube mkhulu kwaye uzuke.
Ngamanye amaxesha sinamathele kumvakalelo weshwele okanye intukuthelo, kubangela ukuba sinetyala kubazalwana esibathandayo. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba siyazi kakuhle okanye sizama ukuzikhusela kwiintlungu kunye ngexesha elifanayo abazi ezinye iimeko. Umntu uphila kwaye uyakwazisa ememori iziganeko ezingamnandi okanye amagama omenzi wesono. Kwaye akunakwenzeka kuye ukuba iingcinga ezimbi zihlala zimbuyisela kwixesha elidlulileyo, ziphazamise izicwangciso zakhe zexesha elizayo, zithintele ithemba eliqaqambileyo, ungamvumeli ukuba enze indawo yolonwabo olutsha. Umntu akayiqondi ukuba intukuthelo okanye umona oye wahlala emphefumlweni wakhe uvuselela iimvakalelo ngokusebenzisa isangqa esibi - umsindo, ukwesaba, intlungu. Yaye le yindlela ehambileyo yokungabikho kwempilo, kwaye nawuphi na umdala: ukuxhatshazwa kweentlungu kudala, ukujikeleza kwegazi kunye noshintsho lwethambo lwe-tones, i-immune system icatshiswa.
Ungesabi ukugweba abanye
Esinye isizathu sokuba ngamanye amaxesha kwenza kube nzima ukuxolela umntu okhubekileyo ukwesaba. Okanye, uloyiko lokuba, xa sithethelele umntu osilimazayo, siya kuba sisidenge, kwaye abanye baya kuthiba. Kodwa simele sikhumbule ukuba ukuxolelwa akusizathu sokuziphatha komntu. Kunoko, ukuzimisela ukubheka ngenceba kwizinto ezenzekile. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo umntu ohlambalazayo okanye othukayo ubuthathaka. Ewe, awufanelanga ukuhlambalaza, ngoko ke kufuneka ufumane amandla ukuze ukhulule ngokwakho emaketanga enentlungu.
Zikhulule kwiimvakalelo ezimbi, umsindo, inzondo kunye nomona. Musa ukugcina ububi emphefumlweni nangenxa yale mvakalelo, ngaphandle kwakho, akukho mntu uhlaselwa. Ukuxolela emphefumlweni kubalulekile, njengoko kwenzekayo endlwini ufuna ukucoca ngokubanzi. Xa kukho nayiphi na udoti olungadingekile uphonswa ngaphandle ukwenza izinto ezintsha, ezifanelekileyo. Kwimeko yethu - iimvakalelo ezintle kunye neemvakalelo ezivuya.
Ndixelele ngento yonke eencwadi
Ngoko masifunde ukuxolela abanye kunye nathi. Njani? Kwaye uzama ukubheka oko kwenzeka ngaphesheya. Yintoni onokuyifunda kule meko? Ngamaphi amathuba angalindelekanga, ubuchule obusweleka emva kokuba umntu ethe wangcatsha okanye akuphumelele? "Akukho mntu owaziyo okulungileyo, into embi," kusho ubulumko baseMpuma. Ngoko, mhlawumbi, akuyimfuneko, ukuyeka ubomi, ukunyamekela ngomona, inzondo nokuzikhusela?
Ukuzikhulula kwiimvakalelo ezimbi zikunceda kakhulu unobumba. Ulwaphulo olunjalo olungavamile lunconywa ngabafundi beengqondo kwaye lusetyenziswa ngokubanzi ekusebenzeni. Bhala ileta kuwe, uqale ngxelo yezinto zonke eziqokelelweyo. Ungabi namahloni ngamazwi nangemvakalelo, kodwa akukho mzekelo ungathumeli ileta kwaye ungavumeli mntu awufunde. Imiphefumlo ivakalelwa kakhulu ngokuthe ngantoni. Ukuthemba ubomi ukuze kukuncede kulo msebenzi omhle, uya kufumana indlela yokudlulisela ulwazi kumphefumlo womoni. Bhala ezinye iileta, apho uzakufumana amandla okuvuma ukuziphatha komnye umntu, ukuba uvumelane nomsindo kunye noyiko. Kwiyesibili, ileta yesithathu, isimo sakho sengqondo siya kuhlaziywa kwaye silingane. Ngexesha elithile uza kufumana ukuba ukhululekile, ukuba elidlulileyo alisayi kuphazamiseka. Ukuba nentukuthelo, intlungu, umona uye wadlula. Ukuba ukhululekile kwaye uvulele amathuba amatsha kunye nolwalamano.
Hlonipha kunye nawe. Kulula ukukhulula umphefumlo wakho kwiimvakalelo ezimbi, umsindo, intukuthelo, umona. Uqhubeke. Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba abantu bexesha elidlulileyo babiza okanye babhale ngokukhawuleza. Okanye, ngokuchasene, ngokukhawuleza baya kuhamba kude kwaye bade. Ubomi nje bukunika ithuba lokwakha ubudlelwane bomgangatho omtsha.