Kodwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uqinisekile kangakanani ngeemvakalelo zakho, ixesha elide elingenalo ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo lunokuchaphazela umoya jikelele wobudlelwane, kwaye kubangela ukuba ungeva lukhulu emehlweni kweso qabane. Ngenxa yoko, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwintsapho kukho ukungquzulana nokuxabana, abatshatileyo banqumle ukunyaniseka, kwaye ngokukhawuleza, xa bebomi obuqaqambileyo, baba grey kwaye bodwa.
Ngoko, musa ukulibala malunga nokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho, kwaye uyazi indlela yokubonisa uthando ngomyeni wakho, nokuba uhlala kunye ndawonye ixesha elide.
Akulula ukuvelisa into enobungqina kwimibutho ehleliweyo, kuba akukho nto into ongazange uzame. Kodwa nangobulumko obukhulu, kukho ukhetho, kwaye akukho zimbalwa zazo. Kwaye ke, siqala ukwenza.
Sigxila kwiimvakalelo.
Kubalulekile ukuba sikhumbule into enye ekufuneka amadoda ayilingwe, rhoqo kwaye engazange ayeke. Kwaye unokwenza nangayiphi na indlela, kodwa iimvakalelo zakho ziya kuba yinto enyanzelekileyo kuzo zonke izenzo zakho. Indlela elula kwaye inokuthenjelwa yokwazisa malunga nothando lwakho kukuthetha nje ngawo. Ukutsho okulula amagama amathathu athi "Ndiyakuthanda" kulula, ngakumbi ukuba iimvakalelo ziyavusa. Ngokwenza njalo, qaphela indlela othetha ngayo, ithoni yakho, ukubonakalisa ubuso kunye nesenzo kufuneka uqinisekise oko kuchaziwe, kwaye ungayigxothi. Ndikholelwe, emva kweminyaka emininzi ukuphendula ngokuvuma okunjalo kumyeni wakho kuya kufana neyokuqala kwiintlanganiso. Bonisa uthando kumyeni wakhe, vumelani nje le ndlela - eyona ndlela iphumelele, enokuthi ihlelwe ngokukhawuleza ngokuthi "yinto engathandekiyo, kodwa enhle."
Siyakhumbula iileta.
Uninzi lwethu lufumanisa ixesha apho iindlela eziphambili zokunxibelelana zaziyiileta kunye neendawo zokuhlala. Ewe, kunye nohlu lweememori zowesifazane ngamnye, ngokuqinisekileyo kukho ubuncinane enye incwadi yothando, okanye inqaku elincinci. Ewe, ukubhala iileta kumntu osondeleyo, akukho ngqiqo, kodwa amanqaku amancinci amancinci angaba sisixhobo sakho esiyimfihlo. Basebenzise xa ufuna ukuthetha okuthile okanye ushiye isicelo, ngaphandle kokulibala ukubhala into elula kwaye iyamnandi. Abasetyhini abaninzi bathi iingcambu ezinjalo zisebenza ngakumbi kunokwinkcazo eyomileyo okanye isicelo. Kwakhona, akunakulungeleka ukusebenzisa amathuba enzululwazi kunye neteknoloji, kunye ne-SMS yakho.
Khumbula oko ifowuni yenzelwe.
Yaye ifowuni yaqulunqwa kungekhona nje kuphela kunxibelelwano njengoko kuyimfuneko, kodwa kunye nokubonisa uthando kumyeni wayo. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo into esiyifumanayo kwimodi yefowuni: indawo yabo esiyibizayo, ixesha apho baya kuba khona ekhaya, uluhlu lwemfuneko, okanye iimpendulo kwimibandela ecacileyo. Ukuthetha namadoda, abafazi bahlala belibalekile, ngenxa yobunzima beengxaki zasekhaya, bacele nje ukuba izinto zihamba njani, baxhamle ubunzima kunye nokudumisa impumelelo. Bonisa uthando lwakho, unokumema umthandi wakho kwisithuba sokutya sasemini, ukuba ivumela indawo yokuhlala, okanye ukuhamba emva komsebenzi. Ixesha elinjalo lisondele kakhulu, nangona emva kweminyaka embalwa.
Yaye umyeni wam uyathanda ...
Ngamaxesha amaninzi sibheka le binzana xa sithetha nabahlobo, kwaye sinokuthi sinqabile kangakanani le nto "kunye nothando lwam" ebomini. Kodwa eqinisweni, le ndlela iya kuba yinyaniso ye-100% kwaye iphumelele ekuboniseni uthando lwakho. Nciphisa imemori yakho, kwaye ukhumbule uluhlu lwemisebenzi oyithandayo. Emva koko, khetha ezifanelekileyo kakhulu, apho kusoloko kukho into engekhoyo, kwaye uncedise le mpazamo encinci. Yilungiselela umntu omthandayo ngeveki efanelekileyo, ngexesha apho angakwazi ukuzinikela ngokugcwele ngokupheleleyo kwimisebenzi ayithandayo. Ewe, ukuba ucinga ngeemfuno zakho, ngokokuphela kweveki leyo ayiyi kukwaziswa kuphela ngumyeni wakho, kodwa iya kunika into enokuzibini.
Umzimba usebenza.
Umzimba uyisona esona sigqibeleleyo nesona sihle sinikezelwe ngokwemvelo, ngoko kutheni ungayisebenzisi? Ngokukodwa, ukuba emva kokuphela kweeminyaka uye wafunda ngokwaneleyo indoda yakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyazi indlela yokumnandipha. Ukongezelela, loo mizuzu iya kuba yinto evuselelekileyo yokuvuselela ebomini bakho ubukho bothando, isizathu sokuba yedwa, kunye nokuzithoba ngeengubo zangaphantsi ezintsha. Ngemva kwentsuku yomsebenzi onzima kunazo zonke, umyeni wakho akayi kunika i-tender tender, i-massage elula, kunye nokuqhubela phambili. Nokuba ungabonisa njani uthando kumyeni wakhe, lungcono kunalo ulwimi lwemizimba yakho? Unganqikazi ukuthatha inyathelo, ukuba ufuna ukunyusa intsha ebusweni bakho obusondeleyo, okanye makhe sikwenze kumntu wakho, umphumo unokuba mnandi kakhulu kubo bobabini.
Indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ...
Ewe, ewe, yile ndlela elele kwisisu. Kuyinto enhle ukunyusa indoda yakho ethandekayo - enye yezinto zokuqala, imisebenzi yasekhaya yowesifazane ngamnye. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha unokwenza isidlo sakusasa seentsapho. Ezi zihlwa ziyakwenza ixesha, kwimeko ethile ebalulekileyo kuwe, okanye ihlelwe ngokulula, kungekho sizathu esikhethekileyo. Amalungiselelo enjalo aya kuba mnandi kuwe, ithuba lokucinga, njengento yokulungiselela izitya, kunye nokuhlobisa itafile kunye negumbi. Ukuba umntu wakho akanandaba nekhishini (ewe, kwenzeka), musa ukumnciphisa ithuba lokupheka nawe, ngakumbi ukuba imenyu oyikhethayo idinga ukunyaniseka okukhethekileyo. Kuphekwe kwaye udliwe kunye, ukutya kuya kuthathwa ngumthandi wakho njengento yokwenyaniso yokwazisa uthando. Into ephambili kukuba, emva kokutya okumnandi, ungalibali .., kodwa malunga nale nto sele isele kwicandelo elilandelayo.
Dumisani .
Into ephambili akuyi kukulibala ukudumisa umyeni wakho ukuba wayenxaxheba ekuphekeni okanye ubuncinci ekucoceni izitya ezingcolileyo. Kwaye ke, musa ukulibala ukudumisa amadoda akho, nantoni na eyenzayo. Nangona into engenziwanga njengokuba ungathanda, yonke into efanayo, kuqala ufumane into yokudumisa, kwaye ke yithi kuphela "kodwa". Indoda ecinga ukuba iyimfuneko, inentsingiselo kunye neyodwa, iya kuba ilungele ukuguqula iintaba.
Thanda amadoda akho, kwaye uya kufumana iindlela ezilikhulu neendlela enye zokubonisa uthando.