Enyanisweni, uluntu lwethu alukho ngentando yesininzi. Bobabini nababhinqa bavame ukufuna ubudlelwane obunzulu obuhlala njalo. Ngaphandle kwezinto ezingaqhelekanga, azinakulungelelaniswa kwiingcaphephe zanamhlanje. Kwaye nangona kukho ukwahlukanisa iminyaka yonke, kwaye kukho imishado embalwa, bambalwa abajolise kwixesha lesini lesini.
Ngenxa yeso sizathu, kubalulekile ukuba ungabonakali ukufumaneka, ukuzimela nokuzingca. Ngokukhawuleza uya kudibana neqabane lakho, kwaye ngenxa yobungqina obungenasidingo, awuyi kubona ukuba lixesha lokubonisa ubungqina bentliziyo yakho.
Makhe siqwalasele ezinye iingongoma malunga nomcimbi, indlela yokubonakalisa kumntu olungele ulwalamano olunzulu.
Isihlandlo soqhelana nabo
Ungabi nesibindi uze uthi ufuna nje umntu onokuya naye kwiqela okanye ulala ngesondo. Nangona ngoku ifashini, ayiyi kukunika iimvakalelo ezintle. Amadoda angathembeki kwabasetyhini abafikeleleke kwaye bazimeleyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo bayaqiniseka ukuba izifebe kuphela zilala kwaye zikhohlwe ngomntu. Nangona kunjalo, iinjongo ezinzulu zokuvakalisa ekuqaleni akufanelekanga - unokuyikrokra umfaki sicelo ukuba abe nolwalamano nawe.
Kuthetha ntoni ngezinto zokuzilibazisa
Unokuthanda ngokunyanisekileyo amaqela anomsindo, ii-nightclub kunye nee-discos. Kodwa nje ungagxininisi le mibalelo. Ayikho imfihlo abantu abaya kuyo kumaqela ukuba bafumane abaqhelana nabo. Kwaye nokuba unomdla ngokunyanisekileyo kuphela kumculo, ukudansa kunye nokunxibelelana okuthandekayo, ukuxhatshazwa kwamadoda kukusebenzisana nawe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba ufuna ukukholisa indoda ukuba ilungele ulwalamano lweminyaka emininzi okanye iinyanga, musa ukukhawuleza ukumxelela ukuba uyathanda ukuxhoma.
Indlela yokujongana nayo "yangaphambili"
Ngamanye amaxesha amabhinqa anqwenela umnqweno wokubonakalisa ukuthandwa kwabo ngesini esahlukileyo. Bacinga ukuba zibuhle obuhle, ezikwazi ukuphula iintliziyo. Umntu uyaziqonda ngokuhlukileyo. Ucinga ukuba ukuba ibhinqa lihlala liguqula amaqabane kwaye liyakubonisa le nto, ivele iqokelele ukunqoba. UWilly okanye ngokungenakuzibandakanya, uqala ukuba neentloni, ukukhwele ngenxa yokukhawuleza kunye nokuxhalabisa ukuba intombi yakhe ayilungele ulwalamano olunzulu. Kwaye nangona echaza inkululeko yobundlobongela ngamazwi, uya kuhlala ekhanda entloko ukuba akayi kuba nawe ixesha elide, kuba akafuni okanye akanakulwa namaninzi amaninzi okanye ahlangene nabo.
Indlela yokubonisa ukukhula
Ukungafani kunye neengxowa kufuneka ziphonswe kwidilesi edele yetafile, kwaye wenze ukubheja ekuvuthweni. Inguqu elula yempendulo kumbuzo wendlela yokubonisa ubungqina ukuba ulungele ulwalamano oluqinileyo kukukwazi ukuba ngumdala. Oku kuthetha ukukwazi ukufaka iinkalo ezinengqiqo kunye nengqiqo kulwalamano, ukukwazi ukucinga ngokucacileyo, umnqweno kunye nethuba lokuthatha uxanduva malunga nezigqibo ezithile, ukukwazi ukugcina ilizwi lakho. Oku akuthethi ukuba umnandi kwaye umnqweno wokuzikhohlisa ufanele usuke ebomini bakho - kungekhona. Ngamaxesha abalulekileyo kunye namaxesha amanzima umntu kufuneka akwazi ukubonisa ukukhula, wenze izigqibo ezinolwazi. Kwaye into ephambili kukubonisa.
Sebenzela ubudlelwane
Ngenxa yokuba ulwazi lweengqondo luye lu fi kelele kwiminyaka yamuva nje, kwanamadoda asemacaleni kwengqondo awazi ukuba ubudlelwane obukhulu kufuneka bakwazi ukusebenza. Kuthetha ukuthini-ukukwazi ukunqoba iingxabano nokungavumelani, ukukwazi ukuthetha ngaphandle kokwesaba iingxaki ezikhulayo, umnqweno wokuqonda umlingane, ukwabelana naye ngeminqweno yakhe kunye nezinto ezithandwayo. Musa ukumbathisa imaski yomntu ongeyena mntu, kunye nomfanekiso wowesifazane ohlala efuna ukunakekelwa nenkxaso - oku kuya kunomsindo. Zama ukuvumela loo mntu ukuba ulungele ukusebenza kuwe, malunga nobudlelwane, uthetha naye ngezinto eziyinkimbinkimbi, ukulungele ukunyamezela iingxaki kunye nokuphuhlisa.
Ubulili kunye nobudlelwane obukhulu
Uluhlu olukhulu lwemiba ekhathazayo ngabafazi, ixhala ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqala ubomi obusondeleyo. Abanye baqinisekile ukuba sivumela isondo ngosuku lokuqala. Abanye bazimisele ukulinda ixesha elide ngaphambi kokumanga kokuqala, de kubekho ukusondelana kokomoya. Ayikho impendulo engafanelekanga. Kufanelekile ukuzama "ukuziva" isimo sakhe sengqondo kule nto. Kukho kuphela "kodwa": amadoda ngokwenene ayenzileyo ngaphezu kokusibonisa. Bazakhela ngokwabo i-daredevils kunye neenkululeko eziqinisekileyo ukuba akunakulungele ukulibazisa ngokwesini kunye nokuqala kobudlelwane obutsha. Nangona kunjalo akufanele uzuze umkhwa walo mdlalo, kuba ngumdlalo, awuyiyo inyaniso. Amadoda amaninzi asemnandi ama-squeamish kwaye ayakrokrelwa ngamantombazana afikeleleke kwaye afanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, akunakulungele ukulibazisa ngexesha lokuqala kwezesondo zokuqala, okanye nangaphezulu.
Ukongeza kuzo zonke iziphakamiso eziqhelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ukuba wonke umntu uyedwa. Unemibono yakhe, iingcamango zakhe malunga nendlela umfazi oziphatha ngayo, ejolise ebuhlotsheni obude. Ngoko ke isikhundla esona siphumelele kunoma yintoni na ukuthetha kangako, mamela ngokukhululekileyo ekuqaleni kwencwadana. Le ndlela ilula ukuphumeza: amadoda athanda ukuthetha ngabo, izimvo zabo ebomini, bathanda xa bephulaphule ngenyameko kwaye benomdla. Akukho nto inzima okanye engavamile kuyo ukuba "uhlolisise" encinci, ukuqonda oko akufunayo, oko akufunayo, into eyikisayo, yiyiphi inzondo ayinayo. Emva koko, unokuvula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ungazithengisi. Oko kukuthi, ungadlala, ubuyekeze - awufanelekanga. Umsitho we-charm, esiwubekayo ekuqaleni kwendibano, ekugqibeleni uya kugqithisa, kwaye unokuhlala kwindawo ephukileyo. Sekunjalo, abo baqala ukuthetha abancinci baze baphulaphule ngakumbi, banenzuzo enkulu kwiibhokisi zeengxoxo ze-narcissistic. Baya kuqonda ukuba ngaba lo mntu kufuneka aqinisekise ubungqina beenjongo nangaphambi kokuba le ngxaki ibandakanyeke kulwalamano.