Umzobo wesifazane oqinileyo
Unomntu onenjongo, ugcwele amandla kunye namandla. Unokuzibonakalisa ngenjongo yakho iminqweno kunye neenjongo zakho, awukuthandi ukwenza ngendlela ejikelezayo, uhlala ukhetha indlela echanekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uzive kwaye ubone ukuba ubomi bakho buphantsi kolawulo lwakho. Uloyiko olukhulu kuwe ukwesaba ukubonisa ubuthathaka nokuxhomekeka komnye umntu. Ngoko ke, ngokuzithandela uthatha uxanduva lobomi bakho, kwakunye nobomi babanye.
Ebudlelwaneni obusondeleyo, nawe uthabatha indawo engahambelaniyo: yonke into okanye akukho nto. Ngoko ke, ukuba intombi yakho inzima kakhulu, kuba kufuneka uhlangabezane neendlela eziphezulu kakhulu. Akunjalo wonke umntu unokusondela kuwe.
Ngobudlelwane namadoda kusemvelo ukuba uthathe uxanduva kwaye uholele nawe. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuthandana uya kuba yinkokeli ekuthandaneni. Ucwangcisa iintlanganiso, uququzelele ukuzizonwabisa kwaye ulawule iminqweno yakho. Kwaye kukhangele kuwe amadoda anamandla anako ukwakha ubomi bawo. Emva kwakho konke, awunqweneli ukudibanisa ubomi bakho nomntu olahlekileyo kunye nobuthathaka.
Ngaba zikho intshaba?
Uvela kuni uncedo olufunekayo lokukhokelela, ukunyanzelisa abanye ukuthanda kwabo nokulawula abantu? Kungenzeka ukuba abazali bakudumisa ngokuphumelela ngokuqinisekileyo kunye nokubonakalisa iimpawu eziqinileyo. Kwaye ngoko awukwazi ukukwazi ukungazinzi. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ubonakalise ubungozi bakho nokungakhuselekanga, ngoko udumo lwabazali aluyi kuba kuwe, kodwa kumnye umntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abazali bakufanise nabanye abantwana. "Kutheni umhlobo wakho efundela" ngokugqwesileyo ", kwaye wena ...?", "Nanku umzalwana wakho uthatha inxaxheba kwiiMathematika zeMathematika, kwaye unayo ezintathu". Kwaye ukuba unodade osemncinci okanye umzalwana, oxolelwe into ongayithethi kuwe, njengomdala, ngoko inkolelo yokuba ihlabathi alikho ilungile kwaye liyimfuneko yokulwa indawo phantsi kwelanga iye yahlala kuwe. Kwaye kufuneka uqinisekise ubungqina bakho kwaye ulwe nobulungisa. Yaye yintoni eyiphumelele ngumsebenzi onje, kubalulekile ukukhusela. Ukukhusela ummandla wakho, ukukhusela amalungelo akho, ujwayele ukuvavanya nawuphi na umntu njengotshaba olubetha kwipropati yakho. Ngoko wena ukhuselekile kwiingxaki ngomfanekiso wesifazane ozimeleyo omeleyo.
Ukhumbule inkcazelo yamagama "I-Queen Queen"? Omncinane uGerda waqala uhambo xa uM Queenkazi we-Snow wathatha umntakwabo uKai. Intombazana yayingesabi ngenxa yeengxaki ezadibana nayo. Kwaye, nangona bekunzima kakhulu, akazange abonise igram enye yokungabaza nokwesaba. Ukunyaniseka kwakhe nothando kuye kwanceda unyibilike icebo entliziyweni yomntakwabo ...
Ubomi abuyinto yefilosofi ...
Kodwa ubomi buhluke kwindalo yefestile, ukuba kulo mnye umntu unxiba ngokuzimela kwakho kunye nensimi, kwizinto ezikuzo. Nezenzo zobugorha zifuneka kwimimandla yezempi, kwaye kungekhona kwihlabathi lanamhlanje nobomi boxolo. Kodwa uqhubeka udala umdlalo wobomi bakho, ulwela oko sele sele ukhona, kwaye ungaboni ukuba ngenxa yomzabalazo wemfazwe, ubudlelwane, ukunyaniseka, ukuthandana kunye nazo zonke izinto oye waqala kulo mlo. Emva kwakho konke, akukho nkosikazi yeSiqhwala ebomini, kodwa kukho okwenene, ethandwa nguwe oziva uxinzelelo lwakho, ukulawula, ukusola nokungaqiniseki. Yaye kutheni ukuze ahlale ebonisa kuwe ukuba uyakuthanda, ukuba unayo, kungekhona na? Kutheni kufanele afikelele kwimilinganiselo yakho, landela imigaqo yakho ngexesha afuna ukusondeza kuwe kunye nokunyaniseka. Kodwa awuyi kumshiya ithuba lokubonisa iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabo, ukungabaza kwabo kunye nokwesaba, awubamkeli kwaye uzigatye ngokungavumelekanga kwaye kungadingekile, ukuqwalasela le mibonakalo njengobonakaliso obuthathaka. Yaye xa ekushiya, uyacaphukisa: "Yintoni enye ayengenayo?". Kodwa nawuphi na umntu ufuna ukuziva unyanzelekile, obalulekileyo kunye nengqiqo. Kwaye ufuna kwakhona ukuba nguwe. Bambalwa abantu abathanda ukulwa nomfazi wabo othandekayo, ngokomthetho, bafuna ukufezekisa ukuqonda nokwamkelwa. Kwaye umntu obuthathaka uya kutshintshisa inkululeko yakhe yokuxhasa izinto eziphathekayo.
Ngaloo ndlela kuvela ukuba utyalo-mali kwiintsebenziswano zemikhosi, ukwethusa ngakumbi uya kulahlekelwa olu lwalamano kwaye unamandla kwaye ukwenene ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawulwa kwimeko. Ngaphantsi kwamandla aloo loyiko, ukwandisa ulawulo kwaye uphumelele ekuchaseni ngakumbi kwintanda. Xa uvakalelwa ngale mpendulo, uyayiqonda njengento yokungcatsha nokuqinisa ukulawula. Kwaye kwenzeka okude nje iqabane lakho likulungele ukulwa nawe. Yaye xa ekugqibeleni uyakhathala ukulwa, uya kukushiya yedwa kunye neemimoya zomoya ezidalwe ngcamango yakho. UAsam uya kukhangela uthando kunomfazwe.
Yintoni abantu abayityelela umfazi oqinileyo
Ufuna ukudibana nomntu oya kubonakala ngathi: unamandla, unesibindi kwaye unamandla. Kwaye udibana naye. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akayi kukunyamezela ukulawula kwangaphandle. Yaye ukuba uthe wangena kulwalamano kunye naye, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane obunjalo emtshatweni osemthethweni aze aguqule indlu yakhe emfazweni.
Kwesinye iimeko, unako ukutsala "u-henpecked" oqhelekileyo. Akayi kukhanyela ubunkokheli bakho obungenasimo, kodwa uya kulahlekelwa yonke imbopheleleko yolwalamano, ikusasa kunye nobomi bakho kumagxa akho. Uya kukuvumela ukuba ubeke iliso ngalinye inyathelo, uthathe zonke izigqibo, kwaye zonke iimpazamo zakho aziyikusola. "Andizange ndifumane umsebenzi omhle, kuba wena ..." - uthi, elele embhedeni kwaye eshiya ibhiya. Yaye bonke ubomi bakhe kuya kufuneka 'umdonsa' kunye naye, mhlawumbi nakwiye. Kodwa ngaba ufuna i-ballast?
Imithetho yokuphila kwihlabathi lanamhlanje
Umthetho omnye. Zama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni uthatha uxanduva malunga nento eyenzekayo kuwe, nangona ungabandakanyekanga ngqo. Ukuba uyazi indlela yokwenza ngcono, akumele uyenze. Khumbula oku!
Umthetho omibini. Zama ukubheka ihlabathi ngokungafaniyo. Yonke into edibanisekile, yonke into ibhalisekile, kwaye kukho, ngaphandle kwakho, eminye imikhosi "yonke" yokulawula. Lo ngamandla okuphela kwendalo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo kwihlabathi isele "ihleliwe" yendalo. Kwaye akudingeki utshintshe nantoni na.
Umthetho wesithathu. Zama ukuyeka ukulawula komnye umntu. Yithini umahluko phakathi kwenu, luhlobo luni lwesigqibo oyithandayo? Eli lakhe liva. Hlonipha indoda yakho.
Emine. Umgaqo "wobomi ngumzabalazo" udla kakubi. Yonke into oyifunayo, iya kufika kuwe. Kwaye akusoloko ufuna ukulwa. Ukufa kulungile, kuhlawulela wonke umntu oko kukuthi. Ukuba omnye umntu ucela umntu wakho, mhlawumbi oko akusiyo inketho yakho. Ngenxa yokuba indoda yakho iya kuba yakho kuphela. Yaye ukuba wenza iphutha kwaye uqale ukuphumelela oko ungakufunanga, ngoko uya kulahlwa yakho. Emva koko, akukho mntu unokuya ngeendlela ezimbini. Kwaye, ngokukhetha enye, ngokuqhelekileyo indlela engafanelekanga, silahlekelwa ngabanye.
Umthetho wesihlanu. Zama ukwakha ithemba kwabanye abantu, zombini ngokwemigaqo yokuthembeka, kwaye ngokunyaniseka. Akunabakhohlisi "abaqeqeshi" abaninzi kwihlabathi. Ewe, mhlawumbi umhlobo wakho akazalanga naliphi na isithembiso esinikwe yona. Kodwa akufanele ubhale phantsi njengotshaba emva koko.
Umthetho wesithandathu. Ukwandisa umbono wakho wehlabathi, kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba akanalo amathoni amnyama kunye amhlophe, kwaye abantu abahluli baqine kwaye banobuthakathaka. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba amandla omfazi ulala ngokuthe ngqo ekubuthathaka kwakhe. Ngoko musa ukufihla emva komfanekiso wesifazane ozimeleyo omeleyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kwaye unganqikazi ukucela uncedo kwiimeko ezinzima kuwe. Oku kuya kukunika ithuba lokubona imeko yakho ngamehlo kwabanye abantu.