Emva kokuqhuba uchungechunge lwabadliwano-ndlebe, uSomiler uqokelele iinani-manani ezithandekayo: amadoda angabalulekanga kwezobudlelwane bezocansi baninzi, ngelixa "ukuzibophelela" kwintando yothando, ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kungumndilili weqabane lamathathu lonyaka. Ngokwuninzi lwabaphenduliweyo, bangathanda ukuseka ubudlelwane kunye nomfazi omnye kuphela, kwaye kuyaxhalabisa, kodwa le nqwenela ibangele ukuba bajonge "abangatshatanga", ukunyanzelisa ukuba batshintshe amaqabane.
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Inkcazo enengqiqo yembono yesithembu amadoda ngokwemvelaphi yinto ekholisayo: amandla omoya atshabalalisa bonke abameli besondo esinamandla, ngaphandle kokusasazeka, ukusasaza imbewu yabo, ukulandela injongo yokushiya inzala eninzi. Nangona kunjalo, usosayensi waseMelika uqinisekile ukuba ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kuye kwenza izilungiso zayo, kwaye ngoku ngoku amadoda ayaqonda ukuba ukulawula ngokufanelekileyo phezu kweengqikithi kudinga ukulawula inzala. Kwaye kulula ukwenza oku xa inzala yakho isondele. Oku kuchaza umnqweno wamadoda anamhlanje ukuba aphile kunye neentsapho zawo okanye, ngokugqithiseleyo, ukuba angathinteli ukudibanisa nabantwana babo, oko kwenzeka kuphela ukuba ulwalamano nomama womntwana lugcinwa ngakumbi.
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Ngombulelo uphando lwezesayensi, enye indlela yokucinga yayichazwa-umnqweno wokuthandana nabantu, ukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba baya kubangela ukubandezeleka kwethu. Ngokomzekelo, indoda iphosa malunga nomfazi ongenzi ipenny, ehlala ehlazisa kwaye ehlekisa; ibhinqa alikwazi ukushiya umthandi wesiselo esiphuzayo okanye umfazi obunzima .... Ngokutsho kwiprofesa yengqondo yengqondo yaseRichard uRichard Friedman, bonke aba bantu abaxhaswanga ngumnqweno wokungabi nantoni, kodwa "ngumvuzo" abawufumana kumlingane wabo. Okokuthi, ukuba ulwalamano oluhambelanayo lukhula ngokubhekiselele kwimeko eqikelelweyo, ngoko unxibelelwano kunye ne-bastard okanye isobho lenza kube lula ukufumana "amaxabiso" angalindelekanga ngendlela yokubonakalisa uhlazo, amagama anomusa kwidilesi yabo, ngesondo, njalonjalo. Ngengqondo, le "gingerbread" inamandla amakhulu, iyabangela uvuyo, ngokufanayo nakwabathi abadlali abakwazi ukukuxhathisa. Umdlali othandekayo uthatha kwi-casino umnqweno wokufumana esinye isabelo se-adrenaline ngenxa yokuphumelela okanye ukulahleka, kwaye iqabane lomntu ongenalulinganise kwakhona uphinde uxhomekeke kwintsebenziswano yangaphambilini nethemba lokufumana i-drive ukufumana "umvuzo" ongalindelekanga.
Ukuqinisekiswa kwezi nkcazo kuboniswa ngophando olwangaphambili lweengqondo zengqondo uGregory Burns. Abathathi-nxaxheba ekuhlolweni banikwa ukusela isiselo okanye amanzi. Ekuqaleni banikwa iziphuzo ngaphandle kokubopha ixesha, ngoko ke bafumana imizuzwana engama-10. Ngaloo tomograph, ababehlala bebukele ubuchopho bezofundo, baqaphela ukugqithiswa komsebenzi omkhulu we-cerebral, ngamaxesha awanikezelwa kuluntu, xa bengenalo ithemba "isipho".
Ngokutsho kukaRichard Friedman, abathathi-nxaxheba kubudlelwane "obungalunganga" bangabanjwa kwi-dopamine, okanye, ngamanye amagama, "i-hormone", ephuhliswa yingqondo ekuphenduleni ukubonakaliswa kothando. Wena, ukuba abantu abajwayele ukuhlekwa ngumntu ngokukhawuleza bakuva isimemezelo sothando okanye babe nesimo sengqondo esingaze sazilindele, ngoko iingqondo zabo "ziphosa ngaphandle" iholo elimnandi le hormone yolonwabo.
Kwaye umnqweno wokufumana ubuncinane kanye kunye neemvakalelo kwaye ufumane "isipho" esilindelwe ixesha elide esenza ukuba bashiye yonke into njengoko kunjalo, kwaye baqhubeke bebekezelela isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kubo. Kwaye kungenakwenzeka, ngokutsho kweengxelo zengcali, kwanokuqonda konke ukungalunganga kwimeko kwaye ukuqonda ukuba akufanele kube njalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba batshintshe into ethile, kuba kunzima ukulawula ingqondo xa kuqaliswa indlela yokufumana umvuzo ....