Uvakalelo lwexhala luyaziwayo ngamnye kuthi, kungekhona ngetyala. Kodwa phi umda ongezantsi phakathi kokusabela okuqhelekileyo kwingozi engabangelwa ngumzimba wokuzimela, kunye nokuzityhazela kwabanye kunye neziganeko zobuxoki? Ixhamlo, ukuxhalaba, ukwesaba kunye ne-phobias yimixholo yengxoxo namhlanje.
Ngokuqhelekileyo uxhalaba luyasabela njani kwiimeko ezinzima. Kule meko, kuyinto engokwemvelo kwaye eqhelekileyo. Inyaniso kukuba ingqondo yokwesaba, kunye nokubonakaliswa kwayo nayiphi na imvakalelo, yinto ebalulekileyo yokuphila. Kwakuyimvelo ngokwayo, yafezekiswa ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Emva koko, ukuba akukho nto ixhala kunye noyiko, ngoko umzimba awukwazi ukulungisa ngokukhawuleza nokusabela kwisongelo esasuka ngokukhawuleza. Kwimeko apho singenaso ixesha lokulinganisela yonke into kwaye sicinge, xa kungekho xesha lokucingisisa kunye nokuhlalutya ixesha elide, umsebenzi wezandla zendalo yokuzigcina uyabandakanywa. Inceda umzimba wethu ukuba usebenze kwi-algorithm ecacileyo, eguqulelwe iwaka leminyaka, apho yonke into ibhalelwe umzimba, njani kunye nento enokuyenza, kwaye le nkqubo isebenza ngokucokisekileyo ("ukuba unako ukuwina, okanye usebenze, ukuba unamandla unamandla").
Uloyiko lokuba sihlakulele
Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka, ukuxhalabisa kwethu kudlule kakhulu imeko, ngokubhekiselele kuyo. Emva koko le meko inokusiphazamisa kakhulu kwaye ibuhlungu ngokugqithiseleyo umgangatho wobomi bethu. Kule meko, sithetha kakade malunga nokuxhalaba, kodwa malunga nokwesaba. Uloyiko luyinkcazo engakumbi kunye neenjongo kunokuba uxhalabise, oluqhelekileyo. Ukuxhalabisa kunokuthelekiswa neqela lokuqaphelisa kwangaphambili, elikhokelela umzimba kummandla wokubambisana. Ukubambisana okunjalo kuya kuhamba kunye nokunyuka kwetoni ye-muscle, umsebenzi owandisiweyo wezitho zangaphakathi kunye neenkqubo ezijongene nokugunyazwa okusebenzayo kokukhusela umzimba (intliziyo, imithwalo yegazi, imiphunga, ingqondo, njl. Ukwesaba, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kunokuthelekiswa nomqondiso "Qaphela! Sihlaselwa! Zisindise, ngubani ongakwazi ... ". Ngamanye amaxesha ukwesaba kunesiphumo esiyingozi kumzimba, ingqondo kunye nentando yomntu. Into ebuhlungu kakhulu kukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo thina ngokwethu siba "boas" kunye nokuthuthumela ngobutyebi "onogwaja".
Okwangoku, ukwesaba, ukungonelanga kwiimeko zangaphandle, kukuthi, umkhwa omubi, owenziwe kunye nenkxaso yenkqubo efana neenkqubo eziqhuba kwikhompyutha. Kunoko, luhlobo "lwegciwane lekhompyutheni", lugxothwa entloko "ngabathengi abanokuzikhethela", okanye "kulinywa" apho ngolawulo lwalo. Umntu uzalelwa ngaphandle kokwesaba. Umntwana omncinane akanakoyika ukuchukumisa umlilo okanye inyoka, ukukhubeka, ukuwa, njl. Uloyiko olufanayo luvela kamva, kunye namava athobileyo. Ngoko sijonge, endaweni yokuhlala, sinandipha ubomi, "apho ubeka khona" kwaye "ungeke uhambe njani." Ukusuka kubahlobo abatsha silindele ukukhohlisa okungcolileyo, kubahlobo - ukukhohliswa, kubathandekayo - ukugwenxa, ukukhutshiswa kunye nokuxothwa, kwi-ice - inquable fall. Oku, ngendleleni, kunokubangela ukuwa kwangempela, njengoko izihlunu ziphelelwe yintswelo zitshutshiswa kwaye zithotyelwa kakuhle, kwaye ingqondo iyazama ukuphumeza inkqubo engalunganga. Ukuba uzimisele ukufumana into okanye uhlobo oluthile lwesiphene, ngenxa yokuba ufuna enye into okanye umntu oyikayo, qi niseka: uya kufumana le ntaba kwioli.
A Million Tricks
Xa ukwesaba, uxhala kunye noloyiko luba namandla kakhulu kwaye luhlala lubizwa ngokuba yi-phobias. I-Phobia (ukusuka kwi-Greek phobos - ukwesaba) yinto eqhubekayo kunye nengenangqiqo yezinto, izenzo okanye imeko. Abantu abane-phobia batya ukwesaba nangomnye ucinge ngeemeko okanye into eyikrakrayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo baziva bekhululekile kwimeko apho bakwazi ukukhusela le nto kunye nengcamango malunga nayo. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwaba bantu bayazi kakuhle ukuba ukwesaba kwabo kungafanelekanga kwaye kuninzi.
Musa ukucinga ukuba oloyiko lugxila kuphela "kwiengqondo." Ngamnye wethu unemimandla ethile, imeko okanye izinto ezibangela umdla kunye nokuzonwabisa. Oku kuqhelekileyo, xa ezinye izinto zisicasula ngaphezu kwamanye, kunokwenzeka ukuba izinto eziyoyikrakra ziya kuvela kwizigaba ezahlukeneyo zobomi bethu. Kunokuba ukwesaba oku qhekeza ngokungafani neefosbias? Yintoni, umzekelo, umehluko phakathi kokwesaba okwenyama kweenyoka kwi-phobia? Ulwahlulo lwezizwe ngezizwe lubonisa ukuba i-phobia inamandla kwaye iphikelela, kwaye umnqweno wokuphepha into okanye imeko ikhulu. Abantu abaneentlobo ze-phobias bavelele ekuxhatshazweni okunjalo kangangokuthi abanakukwazi ukulwa - ukwethuka, ukuxhalaba, ukwesaba kubamba. Oku kunokuchaphazela kakubi impilo yobuntu okanye yobungcali bala bantu. Ngokomzekelo, ukwesaba ukuhamba ngeenqwelo ezindiza kwi-moya okanye ukuhamba kwindlela yangaphantsi kunokukwenza ubomi bunzima kakhulu. Ukongezelela, ukuqonda ukuba ngenye indlela "ulwaphulo", "akuthandi wonk 'ubani," akanalo nxaxheba engcono kumntu obhekene nesifo, ekhulisa iintlungu zakhe.
Kwi-psychotherapy, iqela elibizwa ngokuba yi-anxiety-phobic disorders likhethiweyo-xa ukuxhalabangela kubangelwa yedwa okanye iimeko ezithile okanye izinto ezingekho yingozi ngelo xesha. Ngenxa yoko, ezi zihlandlo zivame ukugwema okanye zithwalwe ngoloyiko loloyiko olunokuthi luhluke ngokunyanisekileyo ukusuka kwintlungu ephazamisayo. Ukuxhalabisa abantu kungagxininisa ekuveleleni komntu ngamnye, kubonakaliswe entliziyweni okanye kwintlungu yokuphelelwa amandla, kwaye idla ngokudibanisa nokufa, inokwenzeka yokulahlekelwa ukuzithiba okanye ukunyaniseka. Kwaye ukuxhalabisa akuyeki ekuqondeni ukuba abanye abantu le meko ayibonakali yingozi okanye isongela. Ingcamango eyodwa kuphela yeemeko zesimo se-phobic isoloko ibangela ukuba uxhalabe kulindeleke.
Nangona i-phobias iyanciphisa kakhulu umgangatho wobomi, ixhaphake kuluntu lwethu. Ngokweziphumo zangoku, iipesenti ezingaphezu kwelishumi zoluntu kumazwe amaninzi ehlabathini zixhatshazwa yi-phobias ngokukhawuleza kwaye ukuya kwimizuzu yesibini yabemi baye bafumana ubunzima obungaphezulu okanye obungaphantsi kobuchopho ebomini babo. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba abafazi banama-phobias angaphezu kwama-kabini njengamadoda.
Ukwesaba okuthandayo
Kuloluhlu lwamazwe ngamazwe lwezifo ziqhelekileyo ukuhlula i-phobias kwiindidi eziliqela: i-agoraphobia, i-phobias yentlalo, i-phobias ethile, i-panic disorder, i-disorder disorder disorder, njl.
I-Agoraphobia-ukuba iguqulelwe kwi-Greek verbatim, ithetha ukuba "ukwesaba kwesikwere seemarike." Iingxaki ezinjalo zihlangene kwaye zichazwe kwiGrisi yamandulo naseYiputa yaseYiputa. Namhlanje igama elithi "agoraphobia" lisetyenziswe ngolu hlobo: ngoku luquka ukwesaba nje kuphela izikhala ezivulekileyo, kodwa kunye neemeko ezikufutshane nabo, njengokungena kwesihlwele kunye nokungakwazi ukubuyela kwindawo ephephile (ngokuqhelekileyo kwikhaya). Ngaloo ndlela, ngoku ixesha liquka isiqhelo esipheleleyo se-phobias: ukwesaba ukushiya indlu, ukungena kwiivenkile, ukuqhuma, kwindawo eziqhelekileyo okanye ukuhamba ngeetreni, iibhasi okanye iindiza.
Kutheni abantu abavakalelwa kukuba banolwazi, ukuxhala, ukwesaba kunye ne-phobia, besoyika ukushiya ikhaya ngaphandle kokuhamba nabantu, basebenzise izithuthi zikawonkewonke baze bavele kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo zikarhulumente? Ngokuqhelekileyo bayesaba ukubonakala kwimo yabo yeempawu eziphazamisayo (apho abantu abanjalo banxulumene nosongelo kwimpilo okanye ebomini), njengesizondlo kunye nesimo sengqondo esinqabileyo, intliziyo yokukhawuleza, ukuphefumula ubunzima, ukuvavanya kwangaphakathi. Ukwesaba kukhuliswa ngcamango abayi kukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo ezinjalo kunye nelizwe elikhulayo okanye abayi kukwazi ukufumana uncedo lobugcisa ngexesha.
Kwimeko yangoku enkulu yenkxalabo, ukuxhalaba, ukwesaba kunye ne-phobias, abantu ngokwenene baxhamla kwizindlu zabo. Abakwazi ukuhlala emsebenzini, balahlekelwa ngabahlobo nezihlobo. Izigulane nge-agoraphobia zidla ukuxinezeleka, ziphuhliswa ngenxa yezithintelo ezinzima kunye nezibuhlungu ezibangelwa ukwesaba kubomi babo.
Yintoni ukuhlaselwa kwesifo?
Abantu abaninzi abanengxaki ye-agoraphobia, kunye namanye ama-phobias, amava anqabileyo kunye nokuphazamiseka ngokukhawuleza, okanye kunokoyika, kubiza ukuhlaselwa kweentlanzi. Njengomthetho, ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiko kubonwa rhoqo ngama-1-2 ngeveki, nangona amaxesha xa kwenzeka ezininzi ngeentsuku okanye, ngokukodwa, kanye kuphela ngonyaka akuqhelekanga. Abantu abaye bafumana ubunzima obu bunzima kakhulu bahlala befuna uncedo lwezokwelapha, becinga ukuba baye bahlaselwa yintliziyo okanye bahlaselwa yintlungu. Kule meko, emva kokuqinisekisa ukuba isigulane asinayo i-patatic pathology, ugqirha uyamthumela ekhaya, nje ukucebisa ukuphumla, ubuthongo, ukukhusela, kodwa oku akwanele ukuphelisa ukwesaba. Ngaphezu koko, kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiko kuya kwenzeka kwakhona kungekudala.
Emva kokufumana uxinzelelo olujongene nokuhlaselwa kwesoyiko, umntu kwixesha elizayo uzama ukuwuphepha, kwaye i-agoraphobia yakhe iya kwanda kuphela. Ukunyuka kwamanzi ukuze "kungafi" okanye "ukungabi nantoni" kukukhokelela ekubeni ingqondo kunye nokuziphatha ziphantsi kwesi sifo. Umntu uye wangena kwiimeko zokuxhalabisa kwaye i-phobia iqala ukunyanzelisa indlela yokuphila, umzekelo, ukunyanzelisa umntu ukuba ahlale ekhaya ngenxa yokwesaba ukuhlasela okutsha.
Umnqweno wokuphepha iimeko apho unokuyityhaphazela khona kunokunyanzela umntu ukuba akhokele ubomi obunjalo, njengokungathi ngaba kuhlaselwa kwenzeka imihla ngemihla kunye neyure. Uloyiko olunzulu lokuthumba luyaziwa ngokuba luloyiko lokulinda. Ukulwa noloyiko ngenye yexesha eliphambili lokuzifumana ngokusasazeka kwe-neurosis kunye ne-agoraphobia. Ukuqhayisa ukuhlaselwa kwesoyiko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bekwesabisa kangakanani, ukuqonda ukuba abayiyo yonke into yesifo sokukhathazeka kwezempilo, okanye i-harbinger yokugula kwengqondo, kunceda kakhulu. Ukuhlaselwa kweentlanzi, nazo zonke iintliziyo zakhe kunye nezinye izinto, ukuphendula okunyukayo kwimizimba yengqondo okanye yomzimba, kwaye akukho mntu ukhuselwe kulo. Yaye nangona ngexesha lokuhlaselwa kweentloni kuvela imeko ayimnandi kakhulu kwaye ngokuzenzekelayo kunzima kumntu, ngokwayo, akabonakali nengozi yangempela kwimpilo. Ukuhlaselwa kwe-panic attack, ehamba novuyo, ukuxhala, ukwesaba kunye ne-phobia, ayikhokelela kwiinkathazo, ukulahleka kolawulo okanye ukuzihlaziya.