Kuthetha ntoni na amaphupha akho ashulayo?
Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokuxhatshazwa ngumntu owayengumfana okanye owayengumyeni. Oku akuthethi ukuba awufuni ukulibala, okanye ukuba unomdla kuye okanye uyamthanda. Uninzi kunokwenzeka, kusekho iingxaki ezingaxilongokiyo phakathi kwam nawe. Mhlawumbi unomsindo ngaye kwaye waze wavumelana nezikhalazo. Le mpazamo ecacileyo ekuphulaphula ubudlelwane bakho - njengokuba kunjalo, ayigqityiwe ekugqibeleni. Kukulungele ukwenza umsebenzi wokungafani kwintlanganiso ukwenzela ukuba ekugqibeleni ufumanise yonke imibuzo uze uvumele ukuhamba omnye kunye kunye nonke.
Ukwabelana ngesondo kwindawo kawonkewonke okanye ukuba uthathwa ngokulala ngesondo. I-leitmotif eyona mvelaphi yemvelaphi enjalo ixhala. Oku kungabangela iingxaki ebuhlotsheni bakho nomhlobo wakho, okanye ukwesaba ulwalamano lwesondo, okanye olunye ukwesaba. Cinga ngezinto ozoyikhathayo malunga nenhliziyo. Ungakwazi ukujongana nokwesaba ngokwakho, yenza, kodwa hayi-uye kwintsimi yeengqondo.
Isondo kunye nomfazi ohlukileyo. Amanye amabhinqa ayesaba ukuba amaphupha anjalo - uphawu olucacileyo lokulala ngokwesini. Enyanisweni, oku kwenzeka kakhulu kunqabile. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa elibonakala kuwe ephupheni, lenze ube nomona ngokubonakala kwayo, ukuphumelela komsebenzi, ukukwazi ukuhlala kubantu. Amaphupha akho "amabhinqa" afanekisela umnqweno wokunyuka kwinqanaba lakho "iqabane", ukuba abe njengalo.
Ukulala ngokwesondo kunye nomnye umntu okanye umhlobo. Iphupha elinjalo alithethi ukukhanga kwakho kumntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, loo maphupha enqabileyo ashukunyiswa yi-banal boredom, okanye awukwaneliseki ngento ethile ebomini bakho, okanye utyumkile nomsebenzi wakho (ukuba ubona osebenza naye kumaphupha akho). Ubundlobongela kumaphupha anjalo, njengomthetho, ubuye bethande kwaye kunobunye.
Umntu onesifiso socansi
Umyeni wakho (utshatile u-45% wabasetyhini). Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuluphawu lwabafazi abasandul 'ukwenziwa abahlala ndawonye emtshatweni ixesha elifutshane. Ukuba utshatile ixesha elide, ngoko ukucinga ngezesondo kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwendoda kuthetha ukuba uloyiko lokuzikhulula ngokupheleleyo. Ufuna into oyifunayo, kodwa awukwazi ukulibiza kumyeni wakho. Mhlawumbi uziva unetyala phambi komyeni wakho ngento ethile. Ungesabi, zama! Abaninzi (ukuba kungengabo bonke) bendoda baya kuvuyiswa xa ulahla iqhinga kwaye unikezela into entsha kwisini. Makuyeke, emva koko, indawo yokukhulula inkululeko nentlawulelo.
Umntu owayengumthandi (23% wabasetyhini) ubonakala kwiingcamango zabantu abanomdla abahlala bexhala. Kodwa loo ngcamango ayithethi ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obudala (musa ukwenza le mpazamo!). Ingumzamo wokuphinde uphinde uzive ngeemvakalelo oye wazifumana ngexesha elihle. Kubuhle kakhulu ukubuyela ngexesha lokuthanda izinto - ngoko ungaziphiki umsebenzi wendalo.
Izidumi (15% yabasetyhini) ziphupha ngabo bathanda isiqhamo esinqatshelwe. Ufuna ukuba nento engenakufikeleleka ebomini. Kwaye, akukhona nje ngabantu. Kulula nje, awufumananga umntu "wakho" kwaye uyimbuyisela kwisifiso sakhe ngomfanekiso wakhe.
Umntu ongaqhelekanga (15% wabasetyhini) kwiingcamango zesondo ezibonakalayo kulabo abaye bahlakulela ingcamango kwaye bafuna i-adventure. Kwakhona kwaphawula ukuba abo bafazi ababona iimfesane zabo abangaziwayo banomdla kakhulu.
Uthanda nini ukwenza uthando?
Ekuseni, kuphela emva kokuphahlazeka. Ukhululiwe kakhulu, uqiniseke kuwe kwaye ungathandabuzeki kwedatha yakho yangaphandle. Ukukhululeka emva kokuba abalingani bokulala bazele amandla, kodwa kunokuba bangabonakali kwiingcamango zabo. Kodwa isondo siya kuba nesithakazelo kwaye sisebenze-ucinga ngale ngxelo yakho.
Ngaphambi kokulala. Wena ungumfazi osebenzayo, uthanda ukulandela izithethe. Ubusuku bobusuku bubonisa umtshato wakho osheshayo, oyedwa. Kwakhona kuthetha ukuba ukhetha ubomi obuhlelekile.
Phakathi kwimihla. Uyingqayizivele yothando, intsha. Wena kunye neqabane lakho "hamba ukuhamba" ukubhukuda ngokusesikweni ngoku, ukuphazamisa amaqhinga kwaye ungayithobeli imithetho. Ukhululekile, uqobo kwaye unomoya ovukelayo. Abantu abanjalo baphendulela umhlaba wethu, njengebango leengqondo ezinkulu.