Indlela yokwahlula ukudakumba kwimeko ephosakeleyo

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba imvakalelo embi, ngokungafani nokudandatheka, ayiyona into ebonisa isifo, kodwa inxalenye yamava oqhelekileyo okuphila. Yinkqubo apho umntu abuyiselwa khona kwaye abuyiselwe ebomini emva kokulahlekelwa. Ukuba le meko kwaye idinga uncedo, akuyiyo yonke imeko yoxinzelelo. Indlela yokwahlula ukuxinezeleka kwiimeko ezimbi kunye nesimo sosizi kwaye kuya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.

Ukuphendula intlungu kuhamba kwiinqanaba eziliqela ekuphuhlisweni kwayo. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokufumana iindaba zokufa komntu othandekayo, loo mntu ufumana ukuphazamiseka kwaye, nangona ingqondo eqonda ukuba umntu ofileyo ufile, ayikwazi ukuyiqonda ngokupheleleyo kwaye ayive. Unako ukulungelelanisa imingcwabo kunye nokwenza imimiselo emininzi, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo liyamangalisa kwaye lenza ngokungathi umbane. Eli nqanaba lokutshitshiswa lihlala lisuka kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ukuya kwiveki.

Kwixesha elizayo, ukutshatyalaliswa kuthatyathwa yinkcazelo yokulahleka - kukho iinyembezi, ukuziva unetyala ("Ndiyintombi embi," "umfazi omubi," "ungamkhathaleli" ...). Umntu ugxila kwizinto kunye nezinto ezinxulumene nomfi, ekhumbula iziganeko ezinxulumene naye, amazwi akhe, imikhwa, njl. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho ukubonwa okubonwayo kunye nokuphicotha iingcamango - iingxolo ezidityanisiweyo, izithunzi eziseludongeni zibonwa njengamanyathelo okanye ukucaciswa komfanekiso womntu ofileyo, umntu ufumana iimvakalelo zokuba khona kwakhe endlwini. Ezi zihlandlo zivame ukuvela ngamaphupha.

KUBALULEKILE! Ukuvela kweendawo ezininzi, xa umntu eva ilizwi lomfi, ekhuluma naye, ebona, efaka ubungqina bokuba ngumlingani wesifo sentsholongwane kwaye ufuna unyango.

Iimeko zokudakumba, ngokungafaniyo nomoya obi, unesimo sangaphandle esifana nesenzo esivamile, esingenalo isifo sengxaki. Kuqhelekileyo kubantu abaninzi abaye bafumana ubunzima bokulahlekelwa ubomi, ngokuqhelekileyo ukufa komntu othandekayo. Ukuphendula intlungu kukuba yimpendulo yeziganeko ezinje. Kule nqanaba, kukho izibonakaliso ezifana nokudandatheka - ukunciphisa umonakalo, ukuzilahlwa kweemoto, ukulahleka kwesidlo. Eyona nto ibonakalisa inetyala ngenxa yokuba akuyiyo yonke into eyenziwa ukugcina ubomi bomfi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho uvakalelo olwenzela oogqirha kunye nezinye izalamane "ezingazalisekanga umsebenzi wazo." Ngexesha elifanayo, ubunzima beempawu ezingenakunzima kangangokuba umntu akafezekisi imisebenzi yakhe yasendlwini, akanakubuyela emsebenzini okanye aphephe ukunxibelelana. Ezi zibonakaliso ziphelile umyinge weenyanga ezi-2 ukuya kwezi-4 kwaye kufuneka zifakwe isisombululo ngaphandle kweenyanga ezi-5-6. Ubunzima bokulahlekelwa lulahleko, iimpawu ezixinezelekileyo ziyahamba, ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa kunye nomfi kuphelile, kwaye umntu uphinde abuyele ebomini.

Usizi kunye nokudandatheka akuyona into efanayo. Ukuba kwimeko yokuqala, onke amava ahlobene kakhulu nokulahlekelwa kwaye aqondakala ngengqondo, kwimeko yesibini, ukuhlaziywa kwengqondo ephantsi kudla ngokungaqondakali kwaye kungenakuqondakala kwabanye, ingakumbi ukuba umntu ukhululekile. Ngako oko, abantu abahlala besentlungwini bahlala bevusa imfesane kunye nokuqonda phakathi kwabantu, ngelixa besesimo sokudakumba - ukungabikho kokuqonda kunye nokucaphukisa.

Xa ufumana intlungu, umntu ongenanto akahluphekanga, ukugwetywa kwakhe kwizinto ezingabandakanyi ukulahlekelwa zichanekile kwaye zihambelana. Kukho intlonelo, inzwa yecala ayifumanekanga okanye ingabonakali, impawu ezikhohlisayo, akukho zizathu zokufa. Akukho ngcamango yokungabi nantoni, ukuvavanya ukungaqiniseki kwinto engadluli kwixesha elidlulileyo, kungabi yodwa kwikamva, umntu uyaqonda ukuba ubomi buqhubeka. Izimpawu zomzimba zoxinzelelo ("ilitye entliziyweni", njl njl.) Zincinci kakhulu, iimvelo azixinzelelekanga.

Ngaloo ndlela, iimeko eziqhelekileyo, ezingenalo-pathological of sorrow or just a bad mood. Ayifuni unyango, kodwa kufuna kuphela uvelwano, uncedo kunye nenkxaso yengqondo kwabanye. Ukuze akwazi ukujamelana nentlungu yakhe, umntu kufuneka enze umsebenzi othile wengqondo, abaphethwe yi-psychiatrists kunye neengqondo ze-psychotherapists ngokubhekiselele kwiimeko ezibuhlungu ("umsebenzi wokubuhlungu"). Ukwenza oku, kufuneka akhuphe izigwenxa kunye neziphene, uqaphele ngokucacileyo ukuba ubomi buphelile, uvuko alunakwenzeka kwaye ukwahlukana kwabathandekayo kulindele ngamnye wethu.

Ukuba enye yezihlobo zakho zibuhlungu, kufuneka uzame ukusondela kuye, mnike ithuba lokuthetha nokukhala. Musa ukumcebisa "ukuba ungacingi ngako", "ukuphazamisa", "ukuphosa yonke into ephuma entloko yakho", njl njl. - ayifanelekanga kwaye ayingozi nakakhulu, kuba ayithintela ukusabela kokulimala. Uhlala egxininisa imeko yesikhashana yengxaki yakhe. Ngexeshana (iiveki 1-2) umntu ufuna ukuphumla nokunciphisa umthwalo, utshintsho kwimeko luya kuba luncedo. Utywala kwiimeko ezinjalo kunceda kakuhle, kuba lunikeza inkululeko yesikhashana.

Kwimeko yosizi, abantu ngokuqhelekileyo, kuquka neengcebiso zoogqirha, baqala ukuthatha uxolo, "ukuzola." Musa ukwenza oku ngenxa yokuba ukuphazamiseka kukunciphisa "umsebenzi wokubuhlungu". Ukongezelela, ngokusetyenziswa kwexesha elide kunye nokungalawulwa, ezi ziyobisi zingabangela ukuxhatshazwa nokuxhomekeka. Kwezinye iimeko, impendulo yentlungu ingaba buhlungu xa umntu ehlala ekhonkxa ngakumbi kwaye kufuneka afune unyango. Oku kuboniswa yiimpawu ezilandelayo:

• enkulu kunesiqhelo, ubude bayo, xa isigaba sokuqala siphelela ngaphezu kweeveki ezi-2, ukusabela ngokupheleleyo-ngaphezu kweenyanga ezintandathu. Ukuba, emva kweenyanga ezimbini emva kokulahleka, kusekho uphawu oludityanisayo lwezonyango, kubalulekile ukuba uthathe ubukho bexesha elidityanisayo - uncedo longqondo wezifo zengqondo (i-psychotherapist) liyadingeka;

• omkhulu kunesiqhelo, ubunzulu bamava, xa behamba kunye nokuphephelwa ngokupheleleyo koqhagamshelwano nabanye kunye nokungakwazi ukubuyela emsebenzini;

• ukuthetha ngokuthe tye, kunokuba kusemthethweni, ukuya kwi-delirium yokuzigweba, oko kukuthi, xa ezi ngcamango zihambelana ngokukodwa kwaye umntu akayikuzikhupha;

• Ukuba umntu ubonisa iingcamango ezicacileyo ngokuzibulala;

• uhlobo lokulibaziseka lokusabela kwentlungu, xa kungenjalo ngokukhawuleza, kodwa emva kwexesha elide emva kokulahleka.

Ukuba ubona ukubonakala kwayo nayiphi na impawu engentla apha, ukusweleka, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ufune uncedo kwisifo sengqondo okanye, ekungabikho kwakhe, isifo sengqondo. Impendulo ye-Atypical to grief ifuna kakhulu ingqondo yengqondo, xa isigulane siphinda "sidluliselwa" ngamava adlulileyo kwaye sinika ithuba lokusabela kubo.

Ziziphi iimeko apho zikhona izihlandlo zentlungu ephindaphindiweyo?

• Ukuba ukufa komntu othandekayo kwakungekho ngokungazelelwe kwaye kungalindelekanga;

• Ukuba loo mntu wayengenalo ithuba lokubona umzimba womntu ofileyo, mxelele kuye kwaye ubonise intlungu ngokukhawuleza emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu (ukufa xa kukho iinyikima, izikhukula, inkunkuma yemikhumbi yaselwandle, ukuqhuma, njl);

• Ukuba umntu ulahlekelwe yilahleko yabazali ebuntwaneni;

• Ukuchaswa kweempatho zenzululwazi ezixhamla kwiimeko ezibuhlungu kunzima xa imeko yezantsi yezoqoqosho, ngokungabikho kwenkxaso yentlalo, yedwa, kunye nokuxhomekeka kotywala.

Uhlobo oluphambili phakathi kokudakumba kunye nomoya ongeyingozi kukubona kwehlabathi lenene ngumntu. Umntu osindayo kwiimeko ezininzi akadingi uncedo lwengqondo. Isiseko sokufuna uncedo sisisigxina (ubunzulu obuninzi kunye nobude bexesha), kunye nokusola ukuba kunenye ingxaki yengqondo eye yachongwa okanye iqhutywe yimbozi yengqondo.