Kodwa umntu wanamhlanje uyazi kakuhle intsingiselo yegama elithi "uxinzelelo". Mhlawumbi uye wafumana "inzuzo" yakhe. Ukukhathala nokunyaniseka kuye kwaba yinto eqhelekileyo kuthi. Ukuqonda kwethu kuphazamiseka ngento engafanelekanga, enikwa iinkqubo ezithile zethelevishini kunye namafilimu, amaphephandaba kunye namaphephancwadi, ukunxibelelana nabantu njengengxaki kunye nokukhathazeka njengathi. Ingqondo yethu ayikwazi ukugaya ukuhamba kweenkcukacha ezahlukeneyo, kwaye iwela ekudakaleni nokuphelelwa lithemba, ukucaca kwengcamango kuyanyamalala, amandla okudala kunye nokuphefumlelwa kuphuphuma.
Sikhathazeka kule nto kwaye siziva sisinwe emzimbeni nangokomoya, silahlekelwa ukulala kwaye asikwazi ukuphumla size sikhohlwe ngobunzima bokuphila. Siyalela imizamo yethu yokulahla eli libi, sisebenzise uncedo lweendlela ezakhayo, uzama ngazo zonke iindlela zokuzonwabisa nokuphazamisa. Ngamanye amaxesha siyakwazi ukufeza injongo, kwaye sinokuziva sivuya ... ngexeshana elifutshane. Sizolile, kuneliseko ngobomi. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza konke oku kudlulayo, ukukrakra, kunye nokukhangela injabulo, uxolo kunye nokwaneliseka kuqala kwakhona. Saphinda siphishekele izinto ezintsha, iimvakalelo kunye namathuba. Siyavuma iimpazamo, ukuhlaziya, ukuqikelela nokuphupha. Ukuxinezeleka kunye nosizi. Ubomi buyadlula kwisivunguvungu esiqhubekayo.
Sinokuyifumana njani indlela yokufumana ukuzithemba, ukuziva ukuzithiba nokubuyisela ukuvisisana kwangaphakathi? Oku kufuna ukufunda ukuphumla. Makhe sizame ukuyeka, sibambe umoya kwaye siphumle. Vala iliso uze uvale amehlo akho. Masiphulaphule, zithini izandi ezisijikelezile, siza kuziva, kunye neentsikelelo ezizungezile, ziza kuphulaphula iingcamango. Makhe sibone ukuba ixesha elide sinokuhlala nje ngale ndlela kwaye sinandipha isikhundla sethu esingashenxiseki kwaye singenzi nto?
Unokuqiniseka, akuyi kuhlala ixesha elide. Ekuqaleni, kunokwenzeka, imzuzu nje kuphela, kwaye ke siya kufuna ukutshintsha imeko, kwaye entloko iya kubonakala ingqungquthela yeengcinga ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba sihleli ixesha kwaye sijonge iingcamango zethu, siya kumangaliswa ukuba zininzi zazo kunye nokuba zide zingasikhokelela njani. Ukuba sasiziva ngokungaqhelekanga ukuba "iingxoxo" zangaphakathi ezivela ngaphakathi komnye umntu, sinokuthi sinokugqiba ukuba lo mntu uyincinci. Kwaye loo mgca weengcamango ihlamba intloko yethu ngokungapheliyo, kwiphupha, singasivumeli ukuba sikhohlwe ngobunzima bokuphila, sizibonakalise ngendlela yamaphupha. Ukongezelela, kwiingcamango zethu, sisoloko sizayo, siphupha kunye nokucwangcisa into, okanye sisekudlulileyo, sikhumbula kwaye sihlalutya into ethile. Ngoku ke ingqondo yethu ihamba, ihlala ixubana nayo ngokwazo, ibule ubomi bethu kuthi, isithintele ukuba sinandiphe into esinika yona yonke imzuzu. Ukongeza kwinto yokuba ingqondo yethu ayiphumeli, isoloko ihleli, kwaye oku akunakwenzeka kodwa kuthintela impilo yethu, kuba yonke into esiyiyo ngaphakathi ibonakaliswa ngaphandle (njengoko ishoyo, zonke izifo ezisuka kwiimisipha).
Kwaye, hayi, akukho psychoanalyst uyakwazi ukuphula le ngqumbo. Oku kuphela ngokwethu: kufuneka sifunde ukuphumla. Ngendlela, kuqinisekiswe ukuba abantu abakwazi ukuphumla, abavumelani noogqirha, ngokungafani nabanye.
Ewe, lixesha lokuqhubela phambili kwizenzo ezakhayo. Ekubeni kungelula ukuba kufinyeleleke kwisimo sokulingana kwangaphakathi njengoko siphelile, siya kuhamba kule ndlela ngokufanelekileyo, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo, mhlawumbi asiyi kufumana impumelelo. Okokuqala, siza kuba nexesha elincinci lokuphumla kwishedyuli yobomi bethu obumatasa (imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku lanele), nangona siqinisekile ukuba asipheli ixesha lokukhulula. Khawucinge nje ukuba eli xesha libhekiselele ekusilahlileni imeko engafanelekanga kunye neyingozi yengqondo kunye nokuncedisa ukufezekisa isimo sengqondo sokuzonwabisa kunye nesonwabileyo, kwaye ke ixesha lokukhulula liya kufumaneka ngokukhawuleza. Vumelana ukuba ukuba sihleli kwikhompyutheni, silele embhedeni kwiTV okanye kwifowuni kuphela isigxina seyure, akukho nhlekelele iya kwenzeka.
Ukuzilolonga, naluphi na ixesha lomhla olufanelekileyo, kubalulekile ukuba oku kuhlale kwaneleyo, kwaye kungekhona kwimizuzu. Ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo umkhwa omuhle uya kukhula, ngaphandle kokuya kuthi siqale ukuhlaselwa, njengokungathi asinakuyitshida amazinyo emva kokutya. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuziphucula siza kubona ukuba ubomi buphucula kuzo zonke izikhokelo. Abahlobo kunye neentsapho baya kuba nomdla, akukho kwiholide nokuba sisityelele.
Kodwa masingahambi phambili. Ngoko, sithole ixesha, ngoku, ukuze siphumelele kwiindawo ezimnandi zokuphumula, akudingeki ukuba usungulwe nayiphi na into ekhethekileyo. Kuphela isikhala esincinci, esinokuthula, umbhoxo omncinci kunye necandelo lomhlaba. Kubalulekile ukuhlala kwindawo ekhululekile kwimva. Intloko ifanele ibekwe phakathi kwentamo ukwenzela ukuba ubude bentamo bolule, kwaye isangqa singaphantsi kwebunzi. Imilenze idinga ukukhululeka, iinyawo "ziwa" emacaleni, zivula indawo yokukhonkxa. Izandla zivumeleke ngokukhululekile kunye nomzimba kunye neentende. Zibhuqule ukuze i-axillary cavities ivule kancane, kwaye amahlombe aphumle. Masishiye yonke imibuzo yethu yansuku zonke emva kombindi wegumbi, sikhohlwe malunga nezicwangciso zethu kwaye sitshintshele ukuba uzive apha kwaye ngoku, siya kuzama ukuzisa umzimba wethu, ukuphefumla kunye nokuqonda ukuphumla. Sifaka amehlo ethu kwaye sivakale isikhala esisijikelezile, size siphendule indlela umzimba uhlala ngayo emgqeni, ukufikelela kwesi sikhundla sikhululekile. Ziva apho umzimba wethu udibana nombhoxo okanye umgangatho. Kukho konke. Oku kubalulekile, ngenxa yokuba ukungahambi kakuhle komzimba kunika ukungahambi kakuhle kwengqondo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngaba kukho umnqweno ongenakunqwenelekayo, umzekelo, ukukhangela impumlo yakho, akufanele uzinqande kunye nobunzima ngale ndlela. Ukwenza ubuncinci beentshukumo, susa umqobo kwaye uqhubeke nomsebenzi wokuphumla.
Ngokwenene siya kuhamba kuwo wonke umzimba, siza kujonga kwiindawo zayo ezahlukeneyo (imilenze, iingalo, isiqu, ubuso) kwaye siya kuzama ukuqeda zonke iindawo ezininzi. Ekuqaleni, ngezinye iinkhathi iingqondo zethu ziya kuphuma kwizinto zokubona, kodwa oku akufanele kusihlazise. Sizibuyisele ngokuzinzileyo kwaye ngenjongo yokuyibuyisela emzimbeni wethu size siqhubeke siyijonga. Ngoko ngokuza umzimba wethu uza kukhululeka kwaye ekugqibeleni ufunde ukufikelela kweli lizwe ngokukhawuleza, njengokungathi ukuchithwa kwindawo.
Xa sinomuzwa wokuthi umzimba ukhululekile, siya kugxininisa zonke iingqondo zethu, siqaphele indawo yethu yangaphakathi kwaye siphulaphule iimvakalelo zethu. Siza kuzama ukuqonda konke ukunyakaza okuzifihlakeleyo emzimbeni: mhlawumbi siza kuziva indlela isisu, amathumbu kunye nezinye izitho zangaphakathi ezisebenza ngayo. Mhlawumbi siza kuziva ukuhamba kwegazi ngeempahla, i-pulse yakho, umsebenzi wentliziyo, ukuphefumla kwakho. Ngethuba elithile siza kujonga. Jonga ukuhamba emzimbeni, phumula uze ukhohlwe ngobunzima bokuphila. Emva koko siza kugxininisa ingqalelo ekuphefumuleni. Yivaka ukuhamba kwakhe emakhaleni, emqaleni, esifubeni, esiswini. Jonga nje ukuhamba komoya. Ngendlela kwaye kuphi na ukuphefumlelwa kwethu, njani kwaye kuphi na ukuphuma kwethu.
Siya kuzama ukugcina ingqalelo kwizinto ezihamba ngokukhawuleza kwaye zihamba kakuhle, ngezikhathi ezithile zibuyisela amehlo ethu kwinto yokubonwa. Siza kuzama ukulala, nangona kuqala kuthi kuthi oku kwenzeka, xa iingqondo zethu ziphuma, ziyacoca kwakhona. Masingabi sijwili, siya kuqhubeka siqhuba rhoqo, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe siza kufunda ukuhlala kwimeko ebonakalayo, ukuzola, ukungaboniyo, ukuzithobela ngokwethu, ukufumana ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu kunye neengcamango zethu.
Ngexesha, siya kubona ukuba ihlabathi lizele imibala. I-Lethargy kunye nobuvila, intlungu kunye nokudabuka kuya kubangela ukuba kubekho uvuyo kunye nethemba. Siya kubeka ingqalelo ngakumbi kwizinto esizenzayo, siza kuphila ngokwenene, sichitha ixesha elingaphantsi nelingaphantsi kwamaphupha malunga nekamva elicingelayo okanye ukukhumbula elidlulileyo. Njengoko siqhubela phambili kwizifundo zethu, siya kuqaphela ukuba siyeka ukusabela kwiimeko kunye nabantu abadabukisayo baze basiphatha kakubi ngaphambili. Izixhobo ziya kuqhubeka ukuphuka, umthwalo womsebenzi ekhaya kunye nendlu ayiyi kuba ngaphantsi, kodwa siya kufumanisa ukuba konke oku kuchaphazela kakhulu ngaphaya kwexesha, xa sasicasulwa, sinobukrakra, sinoxhala kwaye sigxininisekile. Siyeke ukuxhamla kwizinto ezincinci, kwaye kuya kuba mnandi ngakumbi ukuthetha nathi. Ewe, le miqondiso yempumelelo ayiyi kubonakalisa ngokukhawuleza, kodwa asiyi kuzisola ngokuba siye kuloluhambo olude kwaye lunomdla ukuzifunda.
Wonke umntu kufuneka afunde ukuphumla nokulibala ubunzima bokuphila. Ukukwazi ukukhulula ngokupheleleyo umzimba wakho, ukumnika ithuba lokuphumla nokuphucula ngokupheleleyo-ubuchule obalulekileyo kubo bonke abantu. Nangona kunjalo, olu buchule lubaluleke ngokubalulekayo kwintlalo yabasetyhini abakhulelweyo, emva koko, ukuphumla ixesha elizeleyo kuyimfuneko kumama ozayo njengamavithamini kunye nokuzivocavoca umzimba. Ukongezelela, ukukwazi ukuphumla kunceda bobabini ngexesha lokuthwala umntwana, nangethuba lokubeletha, kwaye xa umntwana ezalwa. Ukuba ukhululekile ngokufanelekileyo, nawuphi na umama uya kuba nakho ukubuyisela amandla ngexesha elifutshane kwaye uzive ngathi emva kokulala okupheleleyo. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukhululeke ngokupheleleyo!