Ngoku izinto ezininzi zitshintshile, kodwa isithethe sokunika abantwana okhulisa ootatomkhulu kwiintsapho ezininzi sele saphila, kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba. Eyona nto ubuncinci ukuba urhulumente ahlawule oomama, kunokwenzeka ukuba uthenge i-diapers, kodwa indlela yokuphila xa iqabane liphethe umsebenzi ophantsi? Umvuzo omnye awunakwenzeka ukondla ubuncinane abantu abathathu, kwaye emva koko, umntu unabantwana ababini nabantwana abathathu, ukuba akunjalo. Oko kuya kubeka ingxaki yokunika umntwana ingqalelo kumyezo okanye oogogo nomhlalaphantsi.
Kodwa le meko ayifuni kuwo wonke umntu, kukho iindwendwe apho umyeni akwazi ukubonelela intsapho yonke ixesha lokuphumla kwekhefu. Kodwa eneneni, abanye abantu baye bayeka iingcambu zokukhulisa umntwana egxininini ngezandla zikagogo, ukungafuni ukuza kuba ngumfazi wendlu engumzali-uDunka Kulakov-unina wabantwana abasixhenxe. Kwaye kukho inqanaba lesithathu - bakhulisa abantwana babo ngokwabo, bengavumeli ukuba ootata-ntombi baphazamise kule nkqubo yokudala. Yiyiphi indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu kumntwana wakho, ngamnye umama unako ukuzimisela ngokwakhe, ekhangele umntwana ngokwakhe. Ngoko, makhe sihlaziye zonke iinkqubo kunye neengxaki zazo zonke izikhundla ezintathu.
Yenza ngokukhawuleza, ndandisondele xa sele abazali bekhulisa abantwana babo, kodwa kukho iimeko ezingekho. Ucinga ukuba yintoni into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni abantwana ngelixa lincinci? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzola kwakhe kwengqondo kunye nokukhuseleko. Ayikho imisebenzi emitsha yophuhliso, okuyihlabathi elingaphakathi lomntu omncinci. Zonke iingxaki zethu kunye neengqondo zineengcambu zabo ebuntwaneni, luhlobo lwesiseko, indlela esiyibeke ngayo ngokuchanekileyo nangokuthembekileyo, kuya kuxhomekeka kwimpilo yomntwana wethu. Unomama onothando kwaye uyakwazi kuphela ukunika umntwana konke ukufudumala nokuthandwa akufunayo kule minyaka. Kodwa kukho iindidi ezingasebenziyo zisela oomama kunye nezinye iindidi ezingakhathalelekanga ngehlabathi eliphambili kunye nophuhliso lomntwana wakhe, kunjalo, ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ugogo ugqithise kakhulu, umntwana uya kuba ngcono kwaye akhululeke ngakumbi isizukulwana, kunokuba ngabazali abangaphumeleli.
Xa intsapho ingenayo imali eyaneleyo, kuyona ndlela yokulinda umntwana ukuba abe ngumntu ophantsi okanye ongaphantsi ozimele (unokuhamba embhodleni, adle yena, angatsho oko akufunayo), kwaye emva koko unembeza onokuthula unika i-kindergarten. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bonke abantwana bahlakulela ngokungafaniyo, umntu uza kuba neli xesha ngaphambili, omnye umntu kamva, umlinganiselo oqhelekileyo uhlala kwiminyaka eyi-1.5-2.
Ngokubhekiselele kumbono owamkelekileyo wokuba umfazi wesifazana ukhawuleza ixesha kwaye angenakuthandeka kumyeni wakhe, oko kungento engenamsebenzi. Bafazi abathandekayo, baqonde, konke kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ukuba ubungenakukhanya kunye nobuchule ngaphambi kokuba umtshato, qale ukuhlakulela ngoku, akukho zindlela zokwenza, kakuhle, ukuba unayo yonke idatha yendalo kunye nokuthakazelisa, kholwani mna, abayi kuphuma kuwe naphi na.
Oogogo, oomkhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo, bahle, kodwa nango bona ngabantwana bethu kwaye abayithinteli imisebenzi yabo. Baye bakhulisa abantwana babo, nabo, bahlala umhlalaphantsi, bafuna ukuphefumula umncinci kumbasa wobomi, ukuhlala ubuncinane kwiminyaka yokugqibela kwabo kunye nokuzijabulisa kwabo. Ngaphezu koko, oogqirha sele benqinele ukuba abantwana abahlala kwisizukulwana esidala banokugula. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, iimpawu ezinjalo zobungqingili ziba ngumxhala, ukungabikho komdla, ukungabikho komdla-ukungena kwisigxina, njl. Nesi sizathu sokunyusa ingqalelo, ukukhumbuza ukunyaniseka, ngenxa yoko umntwana ekhula ngokukhawuleza aze aqonde izinto ezibalulekileyo. Ukunyumba okungunaphakade, ngoko kwakushushu, ngenxa yoko umntwana uphaphaza kwaye akayi kuhamba apho, ungenzi, ungadli, njl njl. ku nga phezulu.
Oogogo nomkhulu banokuhlakanipha kunathi, kwaye banamava amaninzi ebomini, ngoko bacinga ukuba bawazi kuphela ukufundisa kakuhle isizukulwana esincinane, ngamanye amaxesha ukulibala ukuba amaxesha awafani. Ewe, asikwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kweengcebiso zabo, kodwa, njengoko bethetha, i-spoon efanelekileyo ilungele ukutya!
Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana wakho uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nonogogo nomkhulu, zama ukufumana ingcamango ebuhlotsheni bakho ukuze ungafanele uxoxane kamva phambi kobantwana, ekukhuliseni kwabo kubaluleke kakhulu.