Masihambe ngezitrato kwaye sibukele ngenyameko kwimifanekiso eyahlukeneyo yobomi bentsapho.
Udweba lokuqala. Abazali bahamba phambi komnye nomnye, kwaye baphantse bajonge kwaye baxolelane. Unokucinga ukuba aba bantu abangaziwayo bahamba kunye. Wonke umntu ucinga ngaye kwaye akafuni ukuxelela abanye ngeengcinga zakhe. Kubonakala ngathi awakhumbuli nokuba emva kwabo, ekude kumitha engamashumi amathathu, ngumntwana wabo. Ingane inokudabukela emva kobazali bayo okanye ibenokuzibhokoxa njengokuba inako: kuthatha imfucuza eyahlukileyo endleleni, ukukhaba amatye. Ukuhamba yedwa kuye kuye kuyaqhelaniswa, kwinto yesiko abazali abangayifumani kuye, kwaye ukuba uya kuza kubo kunye nombuzo othile kakhulu, baya kukhwaza kuye baze bacele ukuba bangaphazamisi.
Umfanekiso wesibini. Abazali nabo bahamba ngokuhlukileyo phambi komntwana, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo bafumanisa ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo, bengabi neentloni ngabadlulileyo, nangaphezulu nangona kunjalo, ngomntwana wabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali abayikhetha amagama ekubonakalweni kokungabikho komnye nomnye, inkulumo yabo igcwele iziqalekiso kunye nokunyaniseka. Umntwana usabela njani kwimeko engendawo kangaka? Akayikuhlawula ngakumbi abazali bakhe! Oku kuphakamisa ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha kayise nonina iyenzeka kuye kwaye ekhaya iya kuba ubungqina rhoqo kwimpikiswano yabo. Kwaye abazali abaqapheli ukuba umntwana ohlala phantsi kweemeko zengxaki yokuhlala ephazamiseka, uya kubandezeleka xa ekhulile xa ephazamiseka, ephazamiseka. Ukuba isimo sengqondo esiphezulu sabazali sisondela kwintsana, ngoko unokufumana ubunzima bezinto ezinzima okanye ukuba ngumntwana "onzima" kwixesha elizayo.
Udweba lwesithathu. Umama udonsa ekhaya uyise onxilayo. Kwakhona umntwana uhamba emva kwaye akukho mntu uyamkhathalelayo. Kule meko, inkwenkwe iyazi ukuba kuyona nto ingcono ukuhlala kude nabazali, kuba ubaba onxilayo angabetha. Le meko ithetha ngokungahlali kwintsapho. Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi liyingxenye encinci, ebonakalayo yintlungu enkulu yentsapho, apho umntwana ehlupheka kakhulu.
Kwimiba emine. Omnye wabazali uhamba ngokwahlukileyo, becinga ngento ethile eyayiyo, engayinaki ngokupheleleyo abazali ababini bahamba kunye kunye nosana. Kule meko, omnye wabazali unxibelelwano olungcono nomntwana, banokuthetha ngento ethile, bahleka, kodwa omnye umzali akafuni ukungena kumnandi, okungahambi kakuhle kakhulu ngaphandle. Umntwana akazami ukuthetha nomzali wesibini, kuba uyazi kakuhle ukuba akayi kulinda into enhle kuye, ngaphandle kwegama elithi: "Ndiyeke."
Udweba lwesihlanu. Umama, utata kunye nosana bonke babamba izandla. Bahleka, baxubusha ifilimu abambonayo kwi-cinema, ukubonakala kwabo kuyonwabile kwaye bayonwabile. Utata unako ukuthwala umntwana emagxeni akhe, okuvelisa uvuyo oludala. Ukuba kwakukho uninzi lweentsapho, uluntu lwethu lwaluya kuba nolwazi oluninzi lwabantwana bezitalato, abantwana abancinci kunye nabaphuli-mthetho kunye nabantwana bezintandane ezinamahlwempu.
Ngaba uye waphawula nayiphi na inkcazo yecala lakho losapho? Ngoko uyazi, utshintsho kwintsapho yakho luthembele kuwe kuphela kwaye ulonwabo lwabantwana lusezandleni zakho kuphela. Akunzima ukuzama ukwenza intloko yentsapho, ukuthobela wonke umntu kunye nayo yonke into kuye. Sidinga ukufumana amaphulo okuqonda kunye namanye amalungu. Umzabalazo wamandla kwintsapho ayifanelekanga, nokuba ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali kungenza ingozi enkulu kwi-psyche ekhuselekileyo yengane.
Yithanda intsapho yakho kwaye uhambe nayo yonke imbopheleleko ekukhuliseni umntwana wakho. Kwangathi uxolo, uthando kunye nokuqonda kuqhubeka kwintsapho yakho!