Umkhwenyana nomkhwekazi-duet okanye unxantathu?

Amabhinqa amabini kunye nomntu oyedwa - i-Bermuda Triangle ye-Everlasting, apho kungekho mnye umtshato owawugonywa. Yaye ukuba umfazi wesibini unina? Hayi, xa sitshatile, asinakucinga ukuba ngaba nendoda yethu sifumana izihlobo ezitsha esiza kufuneka sihlangane nazo, ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane obubi kunye nomamazala ngumbangela wokuxabana nomyeni wakhe, kwaye emva koko umtshato.

- Kutheni umama-mkhwenkwe uninzi lwamahlaya, kunye nomama kamama? "Ngenxa yokuba ayikho into ehlekisayo." Eyona ndlela, indlela engcono kakhulu ukuhlala ngaphandle kwabazali bomyeni, kodwa nangona oku akuncedi ukuphazamiseka ebomini bakho, nokuba yintoni ekumele uthethe xa ufuna ukungena kwintsapho entsha kunye nemithetho yakho njengendodakazi kamalokazana.

Kodwa akusiyo yonke into embi, ukuba ulungele ukulungele ukuba ungeyena mfazi oyintanda ehlala phambi kwendoda yakho, ubukho bomama-mkhwenkwe abubonwanga njengesithintelo esicasulayo kunoyolo lwakho kwaye ngokufanelekileyo ugxininise ekujonganeni nayo. Abantu besizukulwana esidala banokuzimelela, ngoko kukunika igunya lokwakha ubudlelwane, ukulungelelanisa kunye nokwenza izinto ezintle.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akufanele umthande umamazana wakho uze uyibize "umama," kodwa ucinge ngako - wazala waza wakhulisa indoda yakho ethandekayo, ngoko ubuncinane kufuneka uve uvakalelo lokubonga. Oku kufuneka kube yindawo yokuqala ebuhlotsheni bakho. Ukuba umama-mkhwe unomuzwa wokuthi unike unyana wakhe, uya kuziqhayisa ngovulo lwakhe kwaye akuphathe ngokufudumele. Ukuba ucinga ukuba wamthabatha kuye, akayi kuze akwazi ukunqoba emphefumlweni wakhe umsindo wokungafuni.

Ungaze uphazamise nomyeni wakho kwimpikiswano yakho kwaye ungavumeli imeko apho kuya kufuneka enze ukhetho phakathi kwakho noninazala. Kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba akayi kukukhetha - emva koko, uyazi umama ixesha elide kwaye kuye kubonakala kukhuselekileyo. Amadoda ngokuqhelekileyo amaninzi akhathalelayo kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo akhetha oko kusiko.

Ungazami ukubonakalisa ukuba "ufanelekile" wonyana wakhe, awuyi kudlula le mvavanyo "ezintlanu" nantoni na, kwaye uya kuphazamisa amaninzi amaninzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo ulunge xa ​​ekulungiselela kunye neentsimbi ezingaphezulu nangona nje ukuba unyana wakhe uya kuhlala ehleli emehlweni akhe njengomntwana omncinci, onokumnakekela. Kodwa akazange akutshatile ngenxa yokuba uyazi ukupheka ama-cutlets, akunjalo? Uninazala akayena umlingani wakho kwaye akaze athathe indawo yakho, ngoko unokuthi ukhumbule ngokuphakamileyo ubukhulu bakhe kwezinye izinto. Ungakulibali ukucela icebiso lakhe kwimicimbi yasemakhaya, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ungayinqamli umgca ukuze ungabonakali ungathethi kunye nomntu ongenako ukwenza isigqibo ngokwakhe. Yaye qiniseka ukuba ubonise impumelelo oyifumene ngayo, ngokulandela ukuhlakanipha kwakhe.

Izigaba ezahlukeneyo zempembelelo. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantu baseAfrika basenomasiko apho umamazala onentombi, kunye nomkhwekazi kunye nomkhwenyana banokuhlangana kuphela kwimikhosi emikhulu yemveli. KwiSolomon Islands, umkhwekazi nomalokazana ohlala kwindlu efanayo abanakwenza kuphela uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi ngexesha elinye, kodwa ngelo xesha bahlala kwintsimi yezoqoqosho. Abahlali baye bafumana isigqibo esisilumko, ngoko kutheni ungayilandela? Oku kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuba uhlala kunye. Amabhinqa amabini ekhitshini enye - engaphezu kokungacingi nantoni na. Kungcono ukucwangcisa kwangaphambili ukuba uya kulungisa izitya ezithile okanye iintsuku ezithile uthabathe ngokupheleleyo umsebenzi kumbhinqa wesibini. Into eyona nto ongayicinga ngayo kukuba udlale indima yeCinderella, ukwenza imisebenzi encinci yomamazala. Awusoze wakwazi ukunqumla i-karoti ye-borsch yayo ngokufanelekileyo kwi-millimeter.

Nangona ulawula ukuzimisela njengenkosikazi kwaye uphumelele ukuthembela koomama-mkhwenkwe, umzabalazo omtsha womzabalazo uphambili - kwimfundo "echanekileyo" yabantwana bakho. Nangona unamava amaninzi kulo mbandela, ihlabathi kunye neembono kwimfundo ziyatshintsha ngokukhawuleza kangangokuthi, ngandlela-thile, ayikho enye i-novice kunawe. Yaye ukuba unako ukubeka intendeni yobunkokheli bomkhwekazi kwimicimbi yokupheka, ngoko ke, ngaphandle kokungabaza, umntwana oyintloko, kodwa ngu-ugogo kuphela. Ngoko ukususela ekuqaleni kudingekile ukuba ucacise ngokucacileyo umda wempembelelo yayo kwaye uxoxe ngeyiphi indima eya kuthatha kwixesha lomzukulwana. Ngaba uya kuhlala naye ngoxa usebenza, okanye uthathe amaxesha ambalwa ngenyanga ngeveki? Ingabe ulungele ukugcina ulawulo lomhla kunye nokutya owenzele umntwana wakho? Okuthe ngqo, ngaphantsi kuya kuba neengxaki kwixesha elizayo.

Ewe, ukuba loo nto ayithembekanga ngokupheleleyo, khumbula ukuba naye uyindoda kwaye wayenomkhwenyana. Mhlawumbi, nangona kuya kuxolelana nawe. "Eparadesi akukho zihlalo ezimbini ezingenanto: enye yomama-mkhwenkwe omuhle, kwaye okwesibini umkhwenyana omuhle," kuchaza isaga saseMpuma, oku kuthetha ukuba ubuncinane abantu ababini banokubeka ityala lobuhlobo obungazalwanga. Kuxhomekeke kuwe nokuba uza kuba neqabane losapho kunye noninazala, okanye ulwalamano lwakho luya kuhlala luBlathamda unxantathu.