Abanye babo baye bafunda ezintlanu ukususela ebuntwaneni, kodwa baye bazuza ubuncinci ebomini babo. Ezinye iinkwenkwezi ezivela esibhakabhakeni azibambeli, kodwa zikhulile - ziya kwiinqununu. Kutheni ukuqala okubalulekileyo ekufikeni kwentsha akusoloko kukhokelela ekuphumeleleni ekukhuleni kwabantu abadala?
UMLUNZI WOKUBHALWA KWABAKRISTU
Umnqweno wokwenza yonke into ebomini kudla ngokuzalwa rhoqo kwixesha elivisayo. Lo ngowomnye wabonakaliso obuninzi bobuncinci. Inkwenkwe enamandla okanye intombazana ekhulayo ikhula, wonke umntu uyamdumisa, uyamhlonela, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuzibonga. Ufuna ukwenza konke okulungileyo kunabo bonke abantu - okanye kungenjalo.
Ngoko umntu uyabanjwa njengabanye abantu abalindele. Wonke umntu ulindele ukuphumelela kuye, kwaye uzama okusemandleni akhe, akakwazi ukukwazi ukuphumelela.
Kodwa ebomini, kukho ukungaphumeleli. Azingamangalisi, kodwa asikho isizathu sokungena kwixinzelelo, ukuphula. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuya kwenzeka kubantu abane-syndrome yomfundi ohloniphekileyo abangenamava okufumana ukulahlekelwa, ukulahlekelwa kunye nokutshatyalaliswa.
Umfundi onjalo ohloniphekileyo kwimpilo yabantu abadala uyayilumkisa kwaye akanakubeka ingozi ekuthathethweni umthwalo wenkokeli: uyathanda ukuba ngumncedisi wenkokheli, ingcali, umhlalutyi. Akakwazi ukwenza izigqibo phantsi kweemeko zokunqongophala nokugqithisa ulwazi okanye ukuphazamiseka kwayo: umfundi obalaseleyo kufuneka ahlalutye yonke into, cinga nge ...
Umfundi ohloniphekileyo akakwazi ukuhamba ngaphaya komda wobuchule bakhe, kuba uyakoyika ukusombulula ingxaki ngokungalunganga. Yena, njengetram, uhamba ngeendlela ezivulekileyo kwaye akanakuzimela ngokuzimeleyo kwelinye icala okanye kwelinye icala.
UBANI UXHUMBA I-CHAMPAGNE
Enye into yindoda emithathu: uyazi kusukela ebuntwaneni yintoni inhlanhla embi. Ewe, ngokuqhelekileyo wayengenakuyicombulula ingxaki, kodwa wafunda ukuphuma, ukunciphisa okwesikhashana isimo sakhe, ukujamelana nokuthotywa kwaye ujabulele ukunqoba. Oku kwenza ukuba aguquke kwaye azinze ngengqondo.
I-Troychnik, engayazi i-ford, ibukhali ngesibindi emanzini, ayesabi ukuya kwindawo apho kungekho mntu ukhona khona, akayi kukwazi ukuhamba ngaphaya komda wobuchule bakhe, kuba akayikrokreli indlela yokungazi ngayo. Umntu onesidima somntu ogqwesileyo uphuma kwimiphumo yesigqibo ngasinye kwaye, engazi indlela yokusombulula ingxaki, akayi kuthatha isigqibo sakhe.
Njengoko u-Ivanushka, umntu owayesendoda eneminyaka engama-50 ubudala, unqabile ngokunyaniseka ukuba angene kwi-couldron ebilisayo-kwaye uyaphumelela, kwaye umfundi ohloniphekileyo kaninzi akafuni ukuthatha ingozi - kwaye akayiphuzi i-champagne.
Umfundi ohloniphekileyo uyamoyika ukungena kwi shishini elitsha, kuba kuya kufuneka ukuba ubuncinane bexesha elifutshane ukuba abe yindlalifa, kwaye akunakukhathazeka kakhulu kuye. UTroitschniku akesabi ukubonakala ephaphathekile, akanandaba nokuba bacinga ntoni ngaye; yena uzimeleyo kuluntu.
Nazi ezinye iimpawu ezintathu eziphambili ezingenza umntu ube yimpumelelo: ukuzimela kwangaphakathi kwimibono yabanye, ukuguquguquka kunye nokuba khona kwinjongo.
UMZEKELO WOMBONON OF MUNHAHAUSEN
Ingaba umfundi ohloniphekileyo unokutshintsha ukusuka kwi-tram ehamba ecaleni kwendlela edibeneyo, ibe yinqwelo enamandla yonke engenazo zebuksuet nayiphi na indlela? Mhlawumbi, nangona kungabi lula. Kodwa unomncedisi - ikhanda lakhe elikhanyayo, ingqiqo yakhe.
• Into yokuqala into eyenziwa ngumfundi obalaseleyo kukuba ahlukane kwaye azijonge ngaphandle, ukuba athethe naye. Ukwenza oku, kubalulekile ukugcina idayari. Emva kokufunda iirekhodi zakho endala, ukukhupha, zama ukuqonda ukuba ungubani kwaye ufuna ukuthini. Kwiengqondo, loo nto idityaniswe nayo ibizwa ngokuba yi-reflection.
• Ukhetho oluthe xaxa lokujonga iifoto ezindala. Yiloo nto ndaye ndaye, kungekufana nale. Yintoni endiyifunayo, ndiyiphupha ntoni? Kutheni kungangasebenzi kum?
• Indlela yesibini ingxoxo kunye nomntu malunga nawe. Kungcono ukuba umnxibelelwano ungumbhali weengqondo.
Zama ukucinga kunye nokuba kutheni ungaziqondi.
• Indlela yesithathu kukuzibuza imibuzo ephambili: yintoni ephosakeleyo ebomini bam; Yintoni endivimbela ukwenza into engazange ndiyenze? Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukwenzela ntoni ebomini?
Ewe, ukuba uqala ukucinga ngezinto ezinje, kukho ezininzi izizathu ezilungileyo zokungazitshimi ngaphandle kwempampu. Kodwa ukuba uqonda ukuba ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli kunokukhokelela kuyo, kuya kuba namandla okuphucula.