Ixesha alitshintshi abantu kuphela, kodwa kunye nabantu, ixesha elininzi linokuchaphazela kunye nobudlelwane kubini. Khumbula u-2001: ngaba ubani othe wacinga ukuba isibini segolide saseHollywood Brad Pee noJennifer Aniston sasihlukana ngokupheleleyo kwaye singenakwenzeka? Kwaye u-Liam Gallagher we-Oasis kunye nomdlali we-actress uNicole Appleton uya kuba kunye? Uninzi lwethu, ewe, zama yonke imihla ukuhlalutya ubuhlobo babo kunye nekwenkwenkwe ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda: kodwa ngaba siya kuvuya kunye? Kodwa kaninzi olu hlalutyo lusekelwe ezintweni ezibonakalayo zifana: Ngaba uyazihlonela izimvo zethu, ingabe ulungele ukuxhasa ngexesha elincinci, nokuba uyafuna ukutyelela ugogo kwaye ufuna ukuba nabantwana. Kodwa asiyikubona into efihliweyo, kwaye ngokwenene inokudlala indima enkulu kwixesha lethu elizayo. Ewe, siyaqonda ukuba umtshato, ukuzalwa kwabantwana kunye nomsebenzi uya kutshintsha kakhulu ukulungelelaniswa kwemibutho kwintsapho yethu eselula. Nangona kunjalo, akukuphela nje oku kuya kuchaphazela.
I-Fatalism kunye ne-adrenalineKuthetha ukuthini oku? Bambelela! Iminyaka elishumi ezayo ubomi bakho buya kufana ne-roller coaster. Kwaye oku kanye nifuna ntoni: ngamnye wenu uxabisa i-adrenaline ngaphezu kokuzinza. Esikhundleni sokuyeka kwaye uqale ukucombulula iingxaki, ukhetha indlela yokunyusa: bavumeleke, okanye ... Kukulungele ukutshisa kunokugqithisa - Isiqubulo sikaKurt Cobain sisetyenziswe ngothando.
Kutheni uza kuba kunye? Uyakuxhamla kwixesha elifutshane: ukuya kwinqanaba le-volcano. Ukuxabana, ukuma kwintlambo ye-volcano, yakha, yima i-crater ye-volcano, ulale ngesondo kwi-crater ... Ukuba ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka kwe-adrenaline ubunye kunye nothando, ukuvutha komsindo akuyi kuphela ngokukhula. Emva kwakho konke, umnqweno wokuxabana uya kuba ngumnqweno omkhulu wokudibanisa.
Kutheni ungawaphula? Ukuba into efihlakeleyo ngothando oluqinileyo, aluqinisekanga, ulwalamano lwakho lusengozini. Iingxaki ongazinyiyo ziya kubuya kwakhona. Kwaye uvavanyo olona lukhulu luya kuba ngumzuzu xa ekugqibeleni omnye wenu uya kukhula, umlutha uya kufuna ukuzonwabisa.
Ungakusindisa njani uthando lwakho? Ekuqaleni uqala ukuthetha izinto ezinzulu, ngcono. Yilowo nalowo makenze uludwe lwezinto ongenakuzicingela ubomi bakho ngaphandle. Bonisa iinkalo zobomi - abantwana, umtshato, izicwangciso zomsebenzi. Yinyaniseka, ungacingi. Emva koko uze uqhathanise iileta zakho. Ewe, imbono yabantwana kunye neengxaki ezinxulumene nazo zingonakalisa isimo sengqondo. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukuchitha ubomi bakho kunye nale ndoda, kufuneka ufunde ukuvulelana.
Ingqondo kunye neemvakalelo
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Phumla, iminyaka eli-10 ezayo kwinkampani iya kumisa le ndoda kakuhle. Okokuqala, ulwalamano lwakho luyisiseko esomeleleyo esinamandla: uyakwazi ukuthetha nokuthetha, ungesabi ukuphakamisa izihloko ezinzulu. Okwesibini, phakathi kwakho akukho ukhuphiswano kunye nomnqweno wokubonisa enye into engcono, kwaye yinto enhle.
Kutheni uza kuba kunye? Uncedise ukunyaniseka kunye nembono ebonakalayo yezinto: ubona ubunzima bokubona ubunzima, kwaye ngenxa yoko abayi kuze bamangaliswe. Ukongezelela, iifolothi zefowuni zibe ngecala, njengoko ezininzi izibini zikhetha ukwenza - kungekhona indlela yakho.
Kutheni ungawaphula? Ukhanuko lwakho lokucwangcisa lunokubangela ukuba unomdla wokuba ulinganiselwe ubomi, ukuba akukho nto enomsebenzi oza kwenzeka kuyo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, wena okanye iqabane lingakwazi ukuvukela ukuvumelanisa kunye nokuhamba.
Ungakusindisa njani uthando lwakho? Uya kumangaliswa, kodwa ... kufuneka ufunde ukuxabana okwethutyana. Yenza into ngokukhawuleza, yenza ngaphandle kokungaboni ngamabomu, kwaye ezinye izinto akufanele zixoxwe ngazo (kufuneka kubekho imfihlelo kumfazi). Khumbula ukuba abantu ababini abanakuze (kwaye abayi kuchitha) ubomi babo bonke emlenzeni - izinto ezingalindelekanga zeqabane azakukuvumela ukuba udideke. Kwaye ufunde ukunyamekela. Uzijwayele ukufumana oko ufuna, kwaye imanyano yakho yinto oye wayifuna. Kuzo zombini zimbono ezizukisayo, kwaye oko ngokwayo kuyinkuthazo eyenza wenze yonke imizamo ukuqinisekisa ukuba "intsapho" enjalo ipholile.
Kutheni ungawaphula? Uyakwazi ukufumana izigqibo zeziphoso ezingaphezulu. Kodwa awuyena genie ephuma kwibhotile kwaye kungekhona umfazi onyana, ngoko kunokuziphindaphinda: "Andiyi kuvumela iingxaki ezinzulu", zithi: "Ukuba iingxaki zivela, siya kuzixazulula."
Uluhlu kunye namandla
Kuthetha ukuthini oku? Ekhanyayo, uphumelele, uqaqambile kwaye uyedwa, kodwa kunye uyinamandla apho kungekho miqobo. Kwaye nokuba omnye wenu ulawula ngaphezu komnye, awuyi kukhulula ukungahambi kakuhle ukuya kwesibini.
Kutheni uza kuba kunye? Abantu ababini abanamandla-banqwenela ndawonye - kuhle, kodwa kunzima. Omnye wenu uya kunxinwa ngelinye ilanga ngokubonisa omnye ukuba naye, akayi kuthunga, ukuba uya kucinga: akufuneki sifumane iqabane elisekhohlakeleyo ebomini? Kwakhona kukho ingozi yokuba iqabane elilawulayo lifumana yonke into ayifunayo.
Ungakusindisa njani uthando lwakho? Kufuneka ube liqela: funda ukuvumelana, melana kunye nentaba, ukuba kuyimfuneko, khanyise ngekanye, kodwa ke. Yaye khumbula ukuba ungumfazi-oko kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukukhuselwa, ukuxhaswa, ngamanye amaxesha uxelela indoda yakho malunga nale nto ngokuthe ngqo. Funda ukubonisa ubuthathaka, ungazami ukuba yindoda yensimbi. Awufuni iminyaka eyi-10 kamva ukuba uqaphele ukuba iqabane lakho lidibanise uthando nothando? Ukuba unako ukususa imaski yomqhubi, uya kubona ukuba awuthandwa ngenxa yento oyenzayo, kodwa ukuba ungubani.