De Mummies, Ndicinga ukuba abaninzi benu bazibuze umbuzo: "Xa ixesha lokuya esikolweni - kutheni umntwana ekhala aze angamvumeli unina?" Iingcali zeengqondo, ngokuqwalasela le ngxaki eqhelekileyo, ziza kwezi zigqibo ezilandelayo.
Uninzi kunje umntwana wakho waya enkulisa okanye wayehleli nawe ekhaya. Emva koko uwela ngokukhawuleza kwindawo engaziwayo. Isikolo sibangela imeko yoxinzelelo. Umntwana akahlali kuphela kwindawo entsha, ujikelezwe yinkalo enkulu yabantwana. Mhlawumbi akanakho ukulungelelaniswa nombolo entsha yobuso. Ukulungiswa kwabantwana esikolweni kwenzeka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Baya kuchitha ixesha elithile ukuba bafunde ukutshintsha. Ngokomyinge, kuthatha iiveki ezi-5 ukuya kwezi-8. Ukuba umntwana wakho uhamba kakhulu, ukulungelelaniswa kwimeko entsha iya kukhawuleza. Abantwana baya kwiklasi yokuqala ngokukodwa kwiminyaka esixhenxe. Kutheni le minyaka ibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abaninzi? Ngelo xesha, umntwana uphathwe uxanduva olongezelelweyo, okwakungayazi ngaphambili. Isikolo sifuna ukuba akhule ngokukhawuleza, ngoxa unomdla kakhulu ekusebenzeni kwindawo ethile edieni. Le meko yezinto iphikisana nobomi bakhe. Enyanisweni, kunzima ukuziqhelanisa, ukuba ngoku imini yakhe ibonwe yiyure, umgcini-mboni akanakudlala, alale, adle xa efuna. Ngoku kufuneka akwenze konke oku ngexesha, kunye nemvume yotitshala. Ukuvakalelwa komsebenzi omtsha akufumananga.
Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuqala komnyaka wezemfundo akuyi kuba yinkinga enzima ebomini bokuqala, kodwa neengxaki zengqondo. Nawuphi na umama ukhathazekile ngengqondo yengane yomntwana wakhe. Ukuba umntwana uyakhala, akafuni ukuya esikolweni, akavumeli ukuhamba komama wakho, kufuneka uxhase ngokwengqondo umntwana wakho, uyibeke ngokufanelekileyo. Zama ukuzibeka kwindawo yomntwana. Kutheni ufanele uthanda utshintsho olwenzeke kuwe ngosuku olunye, uphendule ngokupheleleyo ubomi bakho? Kufuneka uye esikhungweni apho ungazi mntu, apho kungekho mntu owaziyo. Kulo nje izolo, yonke ingqwalasela yafunyanwa kuphela kuwe, kwaye namhlanje ngokujikeleza apho kukho nabanye abantwana abaninzi. Uhlala unikezwa nayiphi na indlela efuneka ukuyilandela. Zininzi izibambiso. Songeza apha iingxabano ezinokwenzeka, kwaye umfanekiso malunga nesikolo sakhiwe engqondweni yomgcini-mhlaba wokuqala. Umntwana kufuneka azitshintshe, kwaye ngexesha elifutshane kakhulu. Konke oku kufuna iindleko ezinkulu, zombini kunye nengqondo. Ngalesi sikhathi umntwana akalala kakuhle, uyakhula, unengqiqo ngexesha lokutya, ngamanye amaxesha uyakhala. Ukongezelela, umgcini-mhlaba wokuqala angazihlukanisa ngokwakhe, abonise ukukhusela kwakhe ngaphakathi, angafuni ukulandela isiyalo. Akayikuvumela ukuhamba ngengqondo yokungabi nabulungisa. Iimeko ezinjalo zomntwana kulula ukukhusela kunokutshintsha.
Zama ukuqala ukuphuhlisa kwangaphambili ukuzimela komntwana. Makhe aqale ukwenza nayiphi na izigqibo. Emva koko uza kuba nokholo. Ngeke kukhulise ukwesaba into engayi kuyenza, ukwesaba ukwenza amaphutha. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abaqali nantoni na elitsha, kuba abafuni ukubukeka bebuhlungu nakwimvelaphi yabanye abantwana. Ngako oko, ukuphuhliswa komntwana ngengqondo yokuzimela ekuthathweni kwezigqibo kuya kumnceda ukuba kube lula ukuba ube sisinyathelo esitsha ebomini bakhe, esibizwa ngokuthi: "isikolo." Zama ukwenza ulawulo lomhla womntwana. Makhe akuncede kule nto. Ukususela kwixesha apho kufuneka avuke khona, aqhube amazinyo akhe, asebenze, aphelise ngexesha lokulala. Qinisekisa nomntwana wakho xa uya kuhamba ngokuhamba, ingaba kuthatha ixesha elingakanani; ixesha elide angadlala imidlalo yekhompyutha; lichitha ixesha elingakanani lokubukela iTV. Kufuneka uphulaphule ngenyameko umntwana, uxolele ngeengxaki zakhe namava. Makhe ahlanganyele nawe iimvakalelo zamhlanje. Musa ukunyanzelisa umgcini-kuqala ukuba ahlale phantsi ukuze afunde izifundo. Wahlala edeskini kwisikolo sonke isikolo. Ngoku kufuneka aphumle. Dlala kwimidlalo esebenzayo. Ufuna ukukhupha iimvakalelo, ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kunye nokukhathala emva kosuku lwesikolo. Ungalokothi wenze umsebenzi wakhe ngomntwana. Umsebenzi wakho kukubonisa indlela yokuqokelela kakuhle iphothifoliyo, apho ubeka khona ifom yesikolo. Kodwa kufuneka enze konke oku. Umntwana akavumeli ukuhamba emsebenzini wakhe, ngoko kufuneka uvumelane nabo kwangaphambili. Zama ukungamgxeka ngokucacileyo umntwana. Khetha amagama ngendlela enjalo, ukuze ungamcaphukisi, musa ukumnciphisa umnqweno wokuqhubeka nezifundo zakhe. Khumbula, umntwana makabone kuwe ungutitshala, kodwa unina. Endaweni yokumfundisa, ncedisa. Ukuba uyakhala, zama ukuqonda intsingiselo yenkinga. Thatha uhlangothi lomhlobo wakhe, onokumthembela nangaliphi na ixesha. Nguwe owamisela umntwana ukufundisisa, kunye nesikolo sonke. Xoxa nomntwana oko akulindelayo esikolweni, ekufundeni, ekunxibelelaneni nabafundi afunda nabo. Ukuba iminqweno yakhe ayihambelani neyinyaniso, ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye ngokukhawuleza yenza izilungiso zakho. Kufuneka uyenze ngokukhawuleza, ukuze ungamthinteli umntwana wesifiso sokufunda.
Ukuphendula umbuzo: "isikolo: kutheni umntwana ekhala, ungamvumeli unina? ", Singathetha ngokuzithemba:" Into yonke isezandleni zakho. " Umele uvumele umntwana wakho ukuba aqonde: kungakhathaliseki ukuba uhlolisisa njani, uhlala ethanda ekhaya. Kwaye amabakala amabi awayi kuchaphazela isimo sakho sengqondo.