Kodwa amandla ayencinci, kwaye ubomi bubonakala bungenanto. Uphendule waba ngumatshini owenza imiyalelo yengqondo, kwaye walahlekelwa into ebaluleke kakhulu: yintoni eyenza uphile. Kodwa njengazo naziphi ezinye izifo, ukuxinezeleka kunye nezindlela zokuphatha esi sifo.
Yintoni ongayitholiyo ekudakaleni? Kakade, uvuyo! Uyekile ukuvuyela ukuba ilanga likhuphuka, livula okanye litsho, liphefumula kwaye, ekugqibeleni, lihlala nje. Yaye xa uxinezelekile, awunalo uthando olwaneleyo: xa uwedwa, awukwazi ukukhwela kwinqabileyo yehlabathi lakho, eliye laphela ekufeni. Kwaye unalo ukholo olwaneleyo: kuwe, kwikamva, ebomini nakubantu. Awuzange uqaphele xa ulahlekelwe yinto yonke. Ngomnye umkhosi wawushiya umzimba ngokukhawuleza, ihlabathi lalahlekelwa isikhalazo.
Ngaba ikhona indlela yokuphuma kweli lizwe lokudakumba? Kakade kukho. Okokuqala, kufuneka uke ukulwa nokudakumba nokufumana iindlela zokunyanga lesi sifo. Mkhangele njengomhlobo oza kunceda ukuvula amehlo akho kwinto ongayiboni ngaphambili, kodwa oko kwenzeka ngokwenene kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini. Emva kokuqonda ukuxinezeleka kunye nezindlela zokuphatha esi sifo, awuyi kuluxotha nje kuphela, kodwa uya kuba ngumntu osisilumko, onamandla.
Uvuyo
Uvuyo luyona nqanaba eliphezulu lokwaneliseka ngexesha lokudandatheka. Le mvakalelo ifumaneka kuzo zonke izidalwa eziphilayo: jonga indlela iimfuyo zethu ezifuywayo kunye nezilwanyana zasendle ziqhaqha. Kubonakala ngathi nezityalo ziyancuma xa zitsala iziqu kunye namahlumela elangeni. Zonke izinto ziphila ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yomgaqo wokwanelisa iimfuno zabo ezibalulekileyo kunye nokuzonwabisa. Iphulo likhonza umzimba njengesiqhelaniso kwinto yokuba isebenza ngempumelelo nangendlela efanelekileyo. Esi sisisombululo esisisiseko somzimba esikuvumela ukuba usinde. Kwaye akunakudluli: akukho zityalo okanye izilwanyana azama ukufumana okungaphezulu kunokuba zifuna. Yingakho i-paradox yoluntu okhuselekile wanamhlanje, ochaphazelekayo ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nezindlela zokuphatha esi sifo, ufuna. Yintoni eyenzekayo kubantu xa befuna ngaphezulu nangaphezulu ebomini?
Ukugqithisa okunjalo kuthetha kuphela into enye: ukuhlukanisa nomzimba wakho. Sayeka ukuva imiyalezo yakhe isitshela into elungileyo, into embi, xa yanele, kwaye xa sidinga ngaphezulu. Ngoko, balahlekelwa ukukwazi ukwaneliseka kwangempela ebomini. Ukungabi nandiphako yemvelo kwiinkqubo zokuba, siza ngeenjongo ezintsha ezongezelelweyo: Ndiza kuba (ndiya kuba njalo, ndiya kufeza oku, ndiya kwenza oku) kwaye ekugqibeleni ndiya kuyonwaba. Kwaye ekugqibeleni sidimazekile, kuba ngokwenene sizama omnye: sifuna ukuziva sinokuzonwabisa. Kwaye xa singenakukwazi ukufikelela kweli gama ixesha elide, ukuxinezeleka kuyasondela kwaye iindlela zokuphatha esi sifo zinzima kakhulu.
Akukho nhlobo inokuphila ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokubona ukwaneliseka: kwi-physiology, le yinkqubo yokuphucula ukuxhatshazwa. Inkqubo yokuphila isoloko isebenza ngomgaqo wokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuphumula, ukwamkelwa kunye nokwenza. Yaye xa enye yala maqhagamshelwano ewa, umzimba uhlangabezana noxinzelelo kunye nokudandatheka: zombini i-metabolism kunye neenkqubo zamandla ziphazamiseka. Sifumana kwisimo sengqondo yomzimba kunye nomzimba. Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukuzonwabisa okwenene akusiyo iinjongo zangaphandle, kodwa ngobuchule bokukwazi ukuhlangabezana nalo - ekumiseni uxhumano lomzimba wakho.
Uthando
Ukuthetha ngothando, ixabiso eliphezulu lomntu, thina, ke, sithetha ngobudlelwane. "I" yethu inomdla wokuba unxulumane nomnye umntu. Le mfuneko enzulu ixhomekeke ngexesha apho sasisesizalweni sikamama, sixhunywe ngumkhonto owenziwe ngomzimba omnye. Amava okuqala ahlala emzimbeni wethu ngumgaqo obalulekileyo wobomi: uthando ngumanyano. Ndiyabulela umanyano womntu kunye nomfazi, ubomi obutsha buvela. Umanyano womama nomntwana uvumela ukuphuhliswa kwendalo entsha. Kwaye umntwana oye kwiminyaka emithathu uqikelele ngokunyanisekileyo ubumbano bakhe kunye nonina: ngokomzimba nangokwemvakalelo, ufuna ukunyamekela nokunyamekela.
Iingqondo zanamhlanje kunye nobulumko bendoda zincoma oomama ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu yokuqhagamshelana nomntwana kunye nokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakhe zemvelo, ngaphandle kokuthatha izigwebo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ngeli xesha umntwana akenzi ngokuthe tye, kodwa ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo ubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, ukuxhalabisa ngokugqithisileyo kwemivumba kungachazwa ngento yokuba xa ukhulelwe isibeleko sikamama sasise tonus okanye ukuzalwa kwakunzima. Kubalulekile ukuhlawula umntwana ngenxa yale mvakalelo ngothando kunye nokunyamekela, kungekhona ngezohlwayo nokungahoywa. Unina onothando, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhathazekile kangakanani, uyavuya ngokuthetha nomntwana.
Ukuthanda kukuba kube nye. Xa umama esondla umntwana, uthetha naye, uyaziphelela ngokupheleleyo kwaye uzive evuya. Kuphawulwe ukuba amandla omntu wokunika uthando ahambelana ngqo nenjabulo abazali abaye bafumana ekukhuliseni kwakhe. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntwana uyazithemba kuye nakubantu, enethemba lokuba unelungelo elingenammiselo ebomini kwaye alikho into ebonakalayo kweli hlabathi. Ukuba umntwana engamkelanga uthando, uya kuba nobunzima obuphantsi. Sekudala ungumntu omdala, uya kuzama ukufanelwa uthando nangayiphi na indlela: uya kuzama ukuba ngowona mhle, osebenza nzima kunabo bonke, oqinileyo okanye onokubuyiselwa kakhulu, njl. Emva kwemizamo emide, uya kuziva ukungafani kwemigudu kunye nezandla zakhe ziya kuphelisa-ukuphela kokufa. Yaye yonke into kukuba, okokuqala, uthando alufunayo aluxhomekeke kwiimpawu zakhe - akunjalo. Kwaye, okwesibini, ukungathembeki kwabantu, oku kuthetha ukuba ukungakwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nabani na sele sele ebhaliswe emzimbeni wakhe ngenxa yengxaki yabantwana. Musa ukubeka ityala kubazali, kuba bona ngokwabo babebanjwe kwiingxaki ezifanayo. Kwaye akunakunqwenela ukufunwa kwihlabathi lothando - lo mzimba uvimba kwaye uguqula bonke ubudlelwane. Kodwa umntu omdala unakho konke, kukho indlela yokuphuma. Kwaye ukuba asiyi kuziva kwaye sithande ubomi emzimbeni wethu, ngoko uthando lwethu ngabanye luya kuba ngumntu ongenalo.
Siya kulawula, sifune, sitshutshise, kwaye singanikeli uvuyo lobomi. Hlanganisa nomzimba wakho - kunye nothando olungenammiselo ngokuqinisekileyo luya kubuya kuwe.
Vera
Ukuthetha ngokukholwa akunakuncedo, unokukuva nje. Yisiseko saluphi na unqulo. Kodwa igama elithi "inkolo" liguqulelwa ukusuka kwisiLatini ngokuthi "ukuhlanganiswa". Ngenxa yoko, ukholo luyinto esithatha ngaphaya kwemida yobukho obuhlukeneyo kwaye idibanisa nento enkulu kunye nephakade. Wonke umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi na inkolo yonqulo, entliziyweni uyasiva isidingo sokungafi. Asikwazi ukwamukelwa ngcamango yokuba le mizuzu emfutshane yobomi yiyo yonke into esinayo, kuba ubomi buba nenjongo. Sifuna ukukholelwa ukuba oku akunjalo. Kodwa oko kungenziwa njani? Ukungena nasiphi na isithethe senkolo akukhothi ngokukhokelela ekubonakaleni kokholo. Ukuthatha ukholo kwiimpawu zangaphandle akunakwenzeka - lo lubuchule obunzulu. Kwaye akusiyo into yokuba kwiinkonzo ezininzi, ngokukodwa iinkonzo zaseMpuma, ingqalelo ehlawulwa kakhulu emzimbeni. Amava emisebenzi yomzimba efana ne yoga, ukucamngca okunzulu, i-qigong, njl., Kubonisa ukuba ukusebenza kunye nomzimba, sivusa ngathi ngokwemvakalelo emangalisayo yokuphila komntu omnye ogqithisa imizimba yazo zonke izinto eziphilayo. Kwaye siyifumana into engaqondakaliyo - ukholo. Ukwenza oku, akufuneki ukuba ungene kwi-jungle yeendlela ezisempuma: ukwanele ukukhulula umoya ophefumlelweyo kwaye uphulaphule umzimba wakho.
Phefumula
Yintoni ekuthintela ukuphulaphula umzimba wakho? Ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwengqondo yokuqala, kunye nokwesaba ukufumana ngokupheleleyo uluhlu olupheleleyo lweemvakalelo ezivela kumntu (ukusuka kwintlungu kuya kwintlungwini), izibilini zomzimba zenziwa emzimbeni, ukuxinezeleka kunye nezindlela zokunyanga esi sifo akulula. Imisipha ye-spasmodic ayivumeli ukuphefumla ngokukhululekile ukuhamba emzimbeni. Kodwa ekuphefumlweni okufihlakeleyo imfihlelo yobomi. Ukunikezela ngamandla kwiinkqubo ze-metabolism, oko kukuxhasa umlilo wobomi.
Ngokomzekelo, abaninzi abantu abavalelwa ukuxhamla kwamandla kunye nemilenze yabo, bazive bengenasiphelo kwisisu nangesifuba. Ngako oko, ukuphefumla komntu oxinezelekile kungenangqondo kwaye kungacaci. Isinyathelo esibalulekileyo ekubuyiseleni kuya kuba yinto yokuqonda ukuba unokufumana indlela yokuphuma kwengcinezelo kwaye ufumene iindlela zokunyanga kwesi sifo, uqhagamshelane nomzimba wakho uya kukunceda. Oku akulula ukwenza, kuba bekukho ukungaphumeleli kunye nentlungu.
Kodwa akukho ndlela enye . Kuphela ngokuyikhulula amaqhina adibeneyo, umntu unokukhulula umphefumlo aze aphinde abuyele amandla. U-Alexander Lowen, umsunguli weyeza elinobuchopho, unikeza izivo zokuzilolonga umntu azenzele yena, ukuze ahlangane kunye nomzimba wakhe. Ukufumana impembelelo entle, kufuneka usebenzise rhoqo. Ukuba uziva uxhalabile ngexesha lokusebenzisa, zama ukuhlalutya kwindlela yokujonga ngayo abantwana bakho kwaye uqhubeke noqeqesho lwakho. Ukuba kukho umnqweno wokulila: kuthetha ukuba uya kuphila. Xa sele udibene nomzimba, kwaye uthembela ukuhamba kwamandla obomi, unako ukusinda naluphi na usizi, intlungu kunye nokudandatheka.
Ukudandatheka kunye neendlela zokuphatha esi sifo: ukunyanga umzimba kuya kubangela ukuba umntu ahambisane. Ukuvakalelwa kukubaluleka komzimba wakho, sinomuva wokudla ubomi obusoloko buso. Isinika amandla kunye nempilo, inika uvuyo, uthando kunye nokholo olunzulu, kunceda ukunqoba ubunzima bokuphila, ukudandatheka.