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Ingaba unesayizi engama-48? "," Yiyiphi intsalane le bumnandi inemafilimu! "," Khangela, le ntombazana ayinayo i-cellulite elunxwemeni! "(Nayiphi na ibhinqa iya kucinga ngokukhawuleza:" Akunjalo into enayo "), "Umfazi wakhe ubuhle bumnandi" (umxholo othi sibona: "Akunjalo wena") ... Amadoda awona mithombo ephambili yezakhiwo zethu. Elinye ilizwi eliphosakeleyo, ukukhangeleka kwelinye icala, kwaye ukuzithemba kwethu kusondela ngokukhawuleza kwizibonakaliso ezimbi.
- Yintoni endiyenzayo? Okokuqala, kufuneka ufumane ukuba uzama ukuva into engekho. Amadoda ayidalwa yokuqala (ngendlela efanelekileyo yegama). Kwaye ukuba abaxeli ngokuthe ngqo: "Umele ulahlekelwe isisindo," "Andiyithandi ukuba unesifuba esincinci," okanye "Uneminyaka endala kakhulu" - ngoko ayithethi. Ukuqiqa ngo "Ulungile kangakanani u-Angelina Jolie" ebomini bokwenene ayinanto. Wena, ngendlela, ilawulwa nguBrad Pitt kunye nawo onke ama-blondes aphepheni ngokubanzi. Kwaye ke yintoni? Oku akukuthinteli ekuthandeni umyeni wakho?
Enye into ukuba lakho iqabane libonisa ukungafezeki kwakho. Ewe, okokuqala, akanalo ilungelo lokulimaza, kwaye kufuneka ubeke endaweni (imibuzo enjengokuthi "Andiyithandi na?", "Ucinga ukuba andinguye uhlobo lwakho? Utshatile? "ngokuqinisekileyo uya kumbeka ekufeni. Okwesibini, amagama akhe angafihla iingxaki zakhe. Unomona kuwe kwaye ngokukhethekileyo uyakukhathaza emehlweni akho. Okumangalisayo kukuba, kodwa kulo mzekelo kuya kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba uphelele kwaye uyavuya naye. Uya kubona: uya kutshintshwa ngokukhawuleza emehlweni akhe.
Ukulala kunye notshaba
Isondlo esondeleyo yenye yezona zibuhlungu kakhulu. Inkosikazi engathembekiyo akunakwenzeka ukuba ikwazi ukwenza umsebenzi oqaqambileyo ibe ngumntu ohambelanayo. Yonke inxulumene apha. Yingakho ukuba umntu wakho avumela izitethi ezinjengokuthi "Awunandichukumisi, ngenxa yokuba ungebi, ungenalwazi, ungenalo uthando", "andikufuni", "andinakukugqiba ngenxa yakho" kufuneka kukucabangisise. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Akuyimfuneko, emva kokuva omnye okanye enye inkcazo yomyeni wakho malunga nobuchule bakho embhedeni, khawuleza ujonge imiqulu yesibini neyesithathu yeKamasutra uze uqale "usebenze ngokwakho." Ubulili obufanelekileyo akusiyo isethi yokuzivocavoca umzimba okwenziwe kwinqanaba eliphezulu. Iimvakalelo ezibalulekileyo ngakumbi, imizwa kunye nomoya wobunye. Nangona umyeni wakho eza kuvumela ukuba akugwebe ngokwabo okanye ukusilela okuqhelekileyo ebhedini, akukho nto inokuthi ibe nantoni na yokuthetha. Xoxa naye ngeengxaki zakho, cacisa ukuba unobungozi kangakanani ngamazwi akhe, kwaye uzama ukufumana isizathu (ingqondo okanye umzimba) wokunganeliseki ngesondo. Ukuba oku akunakunceda, kwaye iqabane lakho aliyi kukuyeka ukufaka amabango kuwe - mhlawumbi, kuya kufuneka uthabathe amanyathelo amancinci. Iingqungquthela kumxholo wesini ziyingozi kubafazi. Kwaye iyeza elona liza kuba linye linyameko, lucacile, linyamekele kwaye luthande.
Amalente kunye nabalandeli
Kwimiba engama-30 ukutshintsha umsebenzi? Musa ukucinga ngako?! "," Ngaba unikelwa ukuba uqhube isebe? Awuyi kuphumelela! "Yeka!", "Uqhuba kuphela imoto!" Awukwazi ukuyifumana ngefowuni! "," Awunayo imfundo ephakamileyo nonke! " Ngoko cwaka! "Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha amadoda ethu ayazivumela ezo zivakalisi kwidilesi yethu. Ukulandela ama-stereotypes amiselweyo, bacinga ukuba singagqibekanga kangako, kungeyona ingqiqo kunye nexhepha.
- Yintoni endiyenzayo? Musa ukuphulaphula nabani na, kholelwa kuwe kwaye uye kwiinjongo zakho. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi uyazifuna ezi zinto okanye ezo zifundo, umsebenzi omtsha, imfundo yesibini - uhlala phi umntu, nokuba yindoda ethandekayo nomyeni othandekayo, uyazi ukuba awuyi kuphumelela? Nangona kunjalo, into eyona nto ungayenzayo iqala ingxabano eyokuphela ekuxabaneni. 11e ukubonisa ubungqina babo kwiitoni eziphakamileyo okanye uzame ukumtyhola umlingane ngokuphendula. Kumele uchaze umyeni wakho kutheni kubalulekile ukuba uye emsebenzini, ukuqonda imiyalelo kwiTV okanye ukufunda isiFrentshi. Imifanekiso "Ndifuna inkxaso yakho." "Ndingathanda, ukuba ukholelwe kum", kunokwenzeka, uya kuphoqa umyeni wakho ukuba abonakalise kwaye atshintshe umbono kunye nendlela yokuthetha nawe. Akumnandi, xa uhlala usika amaphiko akho. Le nyaniso. Kwaye kufuneka uyixelele kumyeni wakho. Mhlawumbi uloyiko lokuba uya kusuka kuye xa uya emsebenzini okanye ube ngumntu ozimeleyo. Zama ukumqinisekisa ukuba oku akuyi kwenzeka.
Kulo lonke ihlaya
Njengoko uyazi, kukho inyaniso. Kuyafana nakwiimvakalelo zomyeni wakho ezingathandekiyo. Kakade, musa ukuthatha yonke into ebunini bexabiso. Emva koko, izizathu zokuxelela umyeni wakho kumyeni wakho unokuba yizigidi (umzekelo, waxhatshazwa ngumoya, kwaye uyazama ukukugxotha ububi, okanye uzama ukukugodla, okanye uthatha indawo yokukhusela kwaye uyaphendula ngokuhlaselwa kwakho, kungekhona kunika intsingiselo ebalulekileyo yamagama). Nangona kunjalo, ukukhuphela into yokuba ingxabano yangempela ifihla emva kweengxelo ezingathandekiyo zeqabane, akufanelekanga. Cinga, unokukhubekisa umlingane? Mhlawumbi ukuhlasela kwakhe kwavela emva kokuxabana okukhulu? Okanye emva kokuba ubhekisele kuye iziphoso zakhe, wagqiba ekubeni akhangele ngakumbi? Ukongezelela, zama ukuhlalutya nokuvuma ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba kukho ubuncinci inani lenyaniso ngamazwi akhe. Mhlawumbi ngokwenene kufanele ube nexanduva elikhulu, ungazitshitshisi kwizinto ezincinane, okanye, umzekelo, hambisa ukutya kwaye ubhalise kwi-gym. "Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba izigwebo zomyeni wakho aziyize, mbulela ngokunyamekela ukusilela kwakho nokucela inkxaso (" Uthande, ndincedise ukuba ndizilungiselele, ndifumane umsebenzi, ndijongane nomnxeba "). Enyanisweni, kulungele ukuchaza ukuba uyavuma ukwamukela ukugxeka kwakhe kuphela xa kubonakaliswa ngendlela efanelekileyo. Khumbula: akumele ubekezelele ukunyaniseka nokuhlambalaza. Nangona, ngokwenene, indoda yakho ilungile. " Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba ukufunyanwa kwephulo komyeni akupheli kwaye kuthinteka ngokoqobo into yonke (indlela odla ngayo, indlela ohamba ngayo, indlela othetha ngayo), mhlawumbi uya kufuneka ucinge ngokubhekisele ukuba ufuna umlingane ongahloneliyo kwaye, ngokudabukisayo ; Akayithandi.
Kufuneka uyenze?
Amadoda afana nesibheno kwisimo somsebenzi. Kwaye ngoku sele sisetyala ngenxa yesidlo esingasilungiswanga, ukudibana nabahlobo kunye nokungabikho komnqweno wesini. Nangona kunjalo, ukumangalelwa ngokukrakra, njengomthetho, ukufihla ezinye zeenjongo zemfihlo zomntu. Musa ukuxakeka ukuba ... Umyeni wakho akafuni ukuba uye esikolweni sokuqhuba, esithi le nto kukuba awuyi kuphumelela. Uloyike wena (okanye akafuni ukwabelana ngemoto). Umyeni wakho uyamangalela ukuba uye waya kwintlanganiso kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo kwaye akazange apheke isidlo sakusihlwa - unomona nje. Umyeni uthi le mini ayifanelekanga kwaye ayihambisani nobudala bakho - uyesaba ukuba amanye amadoda aya kukunaka. Umyeni wakho uthi "uqhekeza umonakalo" - akafuni nje ukuphuma ngokwakhe kwaye ulindele ukuba wenze konke kuye.