Iindlela zokunqoba iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo

Uluntu lwethu oluphuhlisiwe luba luba ngakumbi, sinokukhathazeka ngakumbi. Ngaloo ndlela, ekuqaleni kwekhulu lama-20, izazi zeengqondo zathola ukukhathazeka okungenampilo kubo bonke abemi besixhenxe. Kwathatha iminyaka eyi-100-kwaye ngoku ehlelweni lweengozi ngokwenene wonke umntu! Izindlela zokunqoba iimeko ezixinzelelekileyo yinto ngamnye esiyidingayo.

Namhlanje ungaba phantsi kwengcinezelo yoxinzelelo kungakhathaliseki indawo yokuhlala, iminyaka, ubugcisa. Ngelo xesha, inqanaba lokuxhalaba likhula njalo, kodwa ukuxhatshazwa kwengcinezelo, oko kukuthi, ukukwazi ukujamelana nokukhathazeka, kunciphisa. Ukuphakamisa kakhulu intlawulo yeentsikelelo zentlalo! Indlela yokufunda ukujamelana nokuxhalaba?

Umntu ophazamisayo

I-Homo turbidus yinto ekhethekileyo. Ikakhulukazi ihlala kwimizi emikhulu nangaphezulu (imizi engaphezu kwamawaka ama-500), nangona iva nje itholakala kuyo nayiphi na indawo yokuhlala. Ufundiswa, ukhetha umsebenzi weengqondo kumzimba. Nangona kudla ukutya rhoqo kunye neentsuku ezimbini ngeveki, kubonakala kunxinzekile kwaye kubuhlungu, kudla ukukhalaza kwintloko, ukunyuka kwemizwa kunye nokulala okubi. Uhlala ecinga ngento ethile, uceba okuthile, uxhala malunga nento ethile - akunakwenzeka ukumfumana kwindawo ehlazileyo yombuso. Indoda eyoyikisayo iyayiqonda: into ephosakeleyo kuye - i-turbidus. Ngamanye amaxesha, ephelile ngokupheleleyo, unquma ukuthumela yonke into kunye nokutshintsha ngokupheleleyo ubomi bakhe. Uyavuya kwisigqibo sakhe ngeeyure eziliqela, kwaye ke ... uqala ukuxhalabisa: "Kufuneka sithumele yonke into?", "Ngokukhawuleza, kude kubekho, akukho nxi Ufanele udideke: kulula ukutshintsha i-homo turbidus ayinakukwazi ukuyenza - yenziwa ixesha elide phantsi kwefuthe lezinto ezininzi.

Yintoni esiyifumanayo? Yintoni esilahlekelwayo?

ISixeko "i-anthill". Ubomi kweso sixeko buhle kubaninzi - indlela ephathekayo yobomi, iintlobo zezinto zokuzilibazisa, uluhlu oluninzi lwabantu ababaziyo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-metropolis ngokwayo ingumthombo wokuxhalabisa. Iindlu eziphezulu, imibala emininzi, ininzi yemoto, nomvakalelo "wokulondeka kwesihlwele" - konke oku kuphazamisekile kwinqanaba elincinci. Kwaye nabantu. Kukho baninzi kubo kwisixeko. Kwaye umntu uhlala ephula umda we-50 centimeters: siziva sikhululekile kuphela ukuba kule mimida, kufuphi nathi akukho mntu okanye sisondelene kakhulu. Xa omnye umntu evela kwintsimi yethu, siyaqatshelwa, sidibanisa iinjongo zokukhusela. Kwaye kule nkxalabo kwaye silumkile sihlala iiyure eziliqela ngosuku. Kwi sitrato, esitolo, ezothutho. Ngaphezu koko, elowo kwalabo abafika kwimida yethu ufumana iimvakalelo ezifanayo: emva koko, siphinde saphule indawo yakhe.

"Umgibe" wentuthuko yezobuchwepheshe

"Hamba, bulela uThixo! Awukwazi ukuma kwindawo yokucwina ngeentaba," - sicinga, xa kuthengwa i-dishwasher. Ngokukodwa ukususela kumatshini wokuhlamba, i-vacuum cleaner, ivenkile ye-microwave isele ikhona. "Ungazichukumisi!" - Abahlali beJamani baxela ukuba ufunde ubomi beentsapho eziphakathi kwamanqaku embalwa ngemizuzu embalwa, awuyi kuhlamba izitya, uhlambulule iipatethi ngesandla, kodwa uza kuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla ekuncediseni abancedisi bakho ukuba ixesha lokukhulula liya kuba lincinci. Kwaye amava - ngaphezulu. Inkqubo ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba iingxaki ngokukhawuleza zingabangela ukuphazamiseka kwemihla. Umntu ohlala eqhuba imoto yakhe uya kulahlekelwa usuku lonke, ukuba akayi kuvele ngokukhawuleza ekuseni. Kwaye uxinzelelo olufumaneka kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke, nakwixhala: "Yintoni eyenzekayo kuye, ndoda, ndenze ntoni na, kwaye phi na ukufumana imali yokulungisa?"

"Ulwandle" olunolwazi

Kuyaziwa ukuba, amashishini amabonwakude nakwiindawo zokuhlala, aphakamileyo amazinga olwazi jikelele kubantu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho umda! Iingcali ezivela kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia, eBerkeley kwinqanaba lokufunda Yintoni eninzi Ulwazi? ("Uninzi lwazi?") Kulinganiswa ukuba enye iminithi yokubukela iindaba ezingathandekiyo zanele ukuba zibambe kwiimeko zokuxhalabisa kwiiyure ezili-12 ezizayo. Ngexesha elifanayo, uloyiko olubi luye ludonsa ngexesha elifanayo, ukudala umonakalo wokuxhoma: umntu akakwazi ukuzithela ngaphandle kwesikrini, nangona uloyiko kwaye lugcuke. Enye inyaniso: ngamnye umsebenzi weofisi ngosuku ufika ku-700 KB yolwazi, ngamanye amazwi 700 KB wokuxinzezeleka! Amathuba okuzifeza. Sisebenza ngaphezu kwabazali bethu, kwaye sizama ukufumanisa nje umsebenzi, kodwa umsebenzi owenzela umphefumlo, oya kudla kunye nokubonelela ngexesha elizayo. Kodwa ukuzola ... akusebenzi! Ukhuphiswano kwiimarike zabasebenzi lilingana ngokuthe ngqo kubemi: ngamnye unyaka kubasebenzi abatsha bavele kuyo - bonke njengalowo ozama ukuzinzela, ukufumana ulwazi olunzulu nangakumbi. Ingakumbi abasengozini ngabantu abaneminyaka engama-35-45 iminyaka. Kwaye kunikwe amandla amaninzi, kwaye kunzima ukukhuphisana nolutsha. Iikhosi zoqeqesho oluphambili, ubuchule bobugcisa obunxulumene nalo buyaziwayo kule nkalo yobudala ngenxa yomnqweno wokuba ubuncinci baqinisekise. Kodwa ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo ehambelana nokuxhalaba kusekhona xa abafundi befumana ubunzima bezoqoqosho okanye utshintsho kwintlangano efanayo.

Inkululeko yokukhetha

Umntu wanamhlanje akakhokhelwa nantoni na. Singaphila ngokuthanda kwakho kunye nabani na. Kukho imigaqo embalwa ebomini, kwaye abayikho ngendlela yokuthintela ngokukhawuleza, kodwa nje iziphakamiso. Kwaye kulungile xa umntu ekhululekile-ngoko unokuzibonakalisa njengomntu. Kodwa inkululeko ngumthombo omkhulu wokuxhalabisa. Kuba, ekubeni wena ukhetha oko ukwenzayo, uyaziphendula wena. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukhetho oluhle lukhulu, ngakwelinye icala akuyiyo indlu.

Uloyiko lonwabo

Olu luloyiko olubalulekileyo lwentombi. "Indoda ekhululekile, ibhinqa elingatshatanga" - ekuthunjweni kwezi ngongoma, sisekhona nanamhla. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayaqiniseka ukuba xa uba ngumntu wonke, akayi kubashiya. Kodwa le yindlela "evela kwedwa", ngelixa umendo womntu kufuneka uhambe kuye. Yiba nomdla kuwe - kwaye ukwesaba uloloya kuya kutshabalala! 2.

Uloyiko lokuguga

Kwi-ritiphobia - ukwesaba imibimbi - yenza ezininzi iinkampani zonyango. Enyanisweni, oku kusekho ukwesaba okufanayo: sisetyenziselwa ukukholelwa ukuba "indala = akukho mntu ufuna." Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ngokuqhelekileyo kuqhuba uphicotho lwempumelelo yomntu ebomini kunye nokulahlekelwa kwedumela, "- ngokwezinga eliqhelekileyo lokuxhalabisa, igama liphambi kwomeleleyo.

Uloyiko lokungcatsha

Kwaye akukho ziqinisekiso zokusola, kodwa kunjalo kubonakala ngathi: umntu unalo ... Cinga ukuba iqabane lixhomekeke kumxhelo, waqhekeza kwaye ngoku ubalela kuwe kuphela. Ubomi abupheli apho, ngaba? Cinga malunga nantoni, njani kwaye nini kufuneka uyenze. Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukulahleka kweemeko "ezintle kakhulu" kuyathuthuzela. 7. Ukwesaba ukugwetywa Okungaziwa "Yintoni abantu abayiyithethayo?" Ubomi obumetyhefu abukho wesini esilungileyo. Umvelaphi walo - kumfazi owenziwe ngumbutho wendima "ethobelayo", "intombazana entle", eqala njengomntwana. Kwaye nangona umntu ekhulile, kubalulekile kuthi ukuba sifumane imvume yabo abasondeleyo.

Uloyiko lokugula

Abasetyhini baninzi kunamadoda athathwe kwi-hypochondria (ukwesaba kwempilo) kunye ne-iatrogenia (ukuxhalabisa okubangelwa ngamazwi kagqirha). Isizathu sivakalelwa, uvakalelo, ukutyekela ukucinga. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Njengomthetho, imizimba yethu inikeza izibonakaliso ezilumkiso kwangaphambili - kufuneka nje uphulaphule, ufike izigqibo uze u tyelele ugqirha.

Uloyiko lokukhulelwa ... okanye ukungabikho

Enyanisweni, malunga noku ... ukungathandabuzeki. Kwimeko yokuqala, uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumlingani luvimbela umba wokukhulelwa kweso sifundo ukusombulula ekuhlaleni kobudlelwane. Kwaye okwesibini, ukungathandabuzeki ngokuzala kunokungabaza ngokubaluleka kobuqu bakho. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ukwandisa ukuzithemba!

Ukwesaba iigundane ... kunye nezigulane, amaxoxo, izulu, iindwangu, njl njl.

Enyanisweni, kwiimeko ezingama-90% oku akuyiyo yonke into, kodwa indlela yokwenza ulwalamano lwabesetyhini, eyenzelwe ukugxininisa ubuthathaka kunye nokukhuseleka kwayo kunye nokuvuselela i-knight kunye nesithinteli kumntu. Ewe, imvelaphi ye-10% eseleyo ye-phobias ibingelwa ngabantwana, kwaye iingcali zengqondo zibandakanyeka kuzo.

Uloyiko lwekamva

Ngokusoloko kwaye kungekho sizathu esihle sokukhathazeka ngekamva kubonakala kubantwana abancinci abangakakwazi ukulawula ubomi babo. Ukuba ukwesaba okunjalo kufumaneka kumntu omdala, uthetha nge-neurosis echukunyiswa ngumxinzelelo obunzima, okanye i-infantilism. Kwimeko yokuqala, kungcono ukubuyela kwingcali, kwaye okwesibini kubalulekile ukukhula!

Ukwesaba ukungasebenzi

Uloyiko olusandul 'ukutshatyalaliswa, olwalubuye lubuyisele ukwesaba kobukhohlakeli bokulahlekelwa ngumgcini wesonka. Ngokudakisayo: abafazi baninzi kunamadoda abesaba ukulahlekelwa yimisebenzi yabo. Kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuba abafazi, njengemanani, kuboniswa entsha ngokulula. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Phinda ufunde eli binzana. Uzola.

Ukoyika abantwana

Olu loyiko lubangelwa ngumzulwana wesisu, ngoko akumele ulwa nalo. Ukuxhalabisa iintsana, ukukhuselwa kunye nenkxaso yabo yinkalo yendalo yowesifazane. Akulungile xa kungekho nhlobo. Olu loyiko luqhuba ngamandla ekuphuhliseni uluntu. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayifumananga nemilinganiselo ephezulu, ekuthintela wena kunye nesizukulwana esakhulayo ukuba siphile.

Ndingathini ukuyeka ukukhathazeka?

Into engcono ongayenza kukuba uye kwidolophana elahliwe kwaye uhlale kwindlu yangasese ngaphandle kwenduduzo. Kwaye kwakuya kuba kuhle ukuba iilumpi zazihlala ezihlathini eziseduze. Oku akusiyo intloni: ngakumbi umntu unenkxalabo yokuxinzelela, izizathu ezifanelekileyo zokufumana, ngaphantsi kokukhathazeka "ngokungenanto". Kodwa ukuba ukhetho olunjalo aluyikufanelana nawe, yenza okungenani utshintsho olutsha ebomini bakho.

Zizungeze ngezilwanyana

Ekhaya nasemsebenzini kufuneka kube nemibala engaphezulu yemvelo. I-Green, beige, eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, i-yellow-and no "acid" imibala! Fumana "umyezo" kwifestile, okufuneka uyenze. Okunye ukuhamba epakini - uhlobo luvisisana noluntu lwangaphakathi. Ukusabalalisa iileta kunye nokubeka iintyatyambo kwifestile. Iingubo (nakwibala) idibanisa i-alamu, njengoko, ngokwenene, kwaye iifestile ezivulekileyo ngokupheleleyo. Izityalo, ngakwelinye icala, zidala umphumo wobumfihlo, kodwa kwelinye, zishiya ihlabathi livulekile.

MSEBENZI WENKCAZO

Kuwumsebenzi - ukufaneleka akuthatheli indawo (nangona iyanceda, kuba nayiphi na into eyenza umkhiqizo we-serotonin, kwaye inqanda uxhalaba). Umzekelo, hlamba ngesandla (kodwa ungaqalisi ukuhlamba ngokubanzi!). Isifundo sifaneleke ngakumbi kubasetyhini: amanzi ngamalungu ebhinqa. Okanye ukucoca imithi kweli lizwe - ukuhlala emoyeni omtsha kunika umphumo wokuthoba othobekileyo.

Yidla ixesha elide, elithandekayo

Upheke kancane. I-Slimfud ithandwa kakhulu, kwaye abaninzi banokubhiyozela umphumo wokuphucula impilo. Ubuncinane kanye ngeveki, kunika ukutya okulungileyo: khetha iresiphi yasekuqaleni, uthenge iimveliso, uzilungiselele. Ixabiso lezondlo zalezi zitya liphezulu kakhulu, kwaye ixabiso leengqondo likhulu ngakumbi: bazisa intsapho kunye kwaye banike umqondo wokuzinza. Akukho khekhe lokuthenga linokuqhathaniswa nesidlo sokuzenzela, ngakumbi ukuba onke amalungu entsapho athatha inxaxheba ekulungiseni.

Thatha umzekelo kubazalwana bethu abancinci

Jonga indlela 'iintsapho' ezihlala ngayo izinja. Bahlala bexhaphaza, baxake, bame. Yenza okufanayo. Ukuthintana komzimba kubangelwa ngabantu abasondeleyo (abanomdla, abafudumele), ngakumbi okhuselweyo ngamnye uvakalelwa. Iingcali zengqondo zikwazi nokuba nomfanekiso ocacileyo: 7 ixubusha usuku kubantwana kunye nabantu abadala. Nangona kunjalo, akukho nto ingabikho ngaphezulu.

Yongeza ngesondo!

Hayi "Ndixhalabile kukuba andinandaba." Ukwabelana ngesondo ngenye yezilwanyana ezikhuselayo. I-Orgasm ivimbela ukuphuhliswa kwengcinezelo kunye nokuvela kwe-neurosis, kuba kukukhutshwa kweemvakalelo ezimbi. Ukongezelela, ngexesha le-orgasm, i-oxytocin ikhutshwa, i-hormone yokuphumla nokuthula.

Cofa kwiqhosha lakho le-alamu

Oko kukuthi, ukunyamekela kakhulu ukunyamezela: ukuxhalabisa, ukuvakalelwa ngakumbi. Musa ukulila iinyembezi kwaye ungabathuli abo bafuna ukukhala - oku kuyenzeka. Xoxa ngesiganeko kunye nabathandekayo bakho, ukuthetha ngakumbi malunga namava akho, urhulumente, ukuchaza indlela kunye nantoni na okwenziweyo. Phinda ibali lakho amaxesha amaxesha 5. Sekunje kwibali lesithathu, uxhalaba luya kunceda.

Ukuphazamisa kwiindaba ezimnyama kunye neendaba

Cinga nje ngemibala yonke indlela iiprogram ezinjalo zidalwa ngayo. Emva koko, awufuni neze ukuba yingxenye yale shishini. Kwaye uvala iTV. Olunye ukhetho: jonga oko kwenzekayo njengento yembali. Ngaba ucinga ukuba ixesha lethu liyingozi kakhulu? Enyanisweni, kwakukho iimbambano, izifo, iimfazwe. Ziziphi izinto ezixhalabisayo ngoku ziyinxalenye yebali. "Yaye iya kudlula," - la mazwi kaKumkani uSolomon aya kukunceda ukuba uthathe izinto ngokuhlakanipha kwaye uncinci.