Ukuthetha, ukuvanga, kakuhle, kunye nezinye izinto ezinjalo.
Kwangexesha elidlulileyo sasikwazi ukunxibelelana ngefowuni. Okokuthi, banokuthetha kuphela kumntu. Kodwa yonke into ishintshile. Kancinci, iifowuni zasekhaya zaqala ukubonakala, ngoncedo apho kwakunokwenzeka ukuthetha ngaphandle kwemida, kwaye ke, ii-fowuni. Kuya kubonakala, yintoni umehluko phakathi kwabo? Impendulo ilula - kwigama nokuhamba. Ewe, ewe, ngoku sinokuqhagamshelana ngefowuni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba imeko yethu ehlabathini. Kuyinto elula kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yeli hlabathi iguqule ngokupheleleyo. Abasetyhini bangabiza umntu ukusuka nasiphi na indawo kwaye nangaliphi na ixesha, njengabantu, nangona kunjalo. Kodwa kukho umehluko omnye kuphela. Abafazi, ngokwemvelo, bathanda ukuthetha. Unxibelelwano kubo, njengesiyilisi, abakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwayo ngosuku. Kwaye ngoku, kukho umnxeba, oko kuthetha ukuba kukho unxibelelwano ngaphandle kwemida. Into ephambili akuyi kukulibala ukuzalisa i-akhawunti, kuba yonke into ibiza imali.
Ngoku mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba: "Yintoni ekusebenziseni ukuthetha ngeefowuni nonke?" ". Kulula kakhulu, kuba isihloko sethu esiyinhloko sengxoxo ekhoyo yile mbuzo: "Unokuthi wambiza umninzi kangakanani umntu ukuze angakhathazeki? ", Emva koko siza kuxubusha umnxeba, yonke into edibene nayo, kwaye yintoni indlela yokuyisebenzisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni into ecasulayo indoda ethandekayo.
Ngoko, eli phepha ibali ekuqaleni kwetekisi liya kusinceda kwixesha elizayo.
Okokuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba ungathanda ukuthini ukuthetha? Kwaye akuyithandi ngomntu oyintanda, kuthethwa ngeefowuni ezilula. Ukuba akwanele, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unqwenela ukubiza umnqweno, zama ukuphazamisa, ukuthetha kunye namantombazana. Ulibale malunga nexesha malunga nalo. Xa kufika umzuzwana othile, kwaye wena, okanye yena, unesizathu esinzulu, ngoko uya kubiza. Le yindlela enye engayikukhathaza, oko kukuthi, ukuba ungabizi umntu. Kodwa, njengoko ubonayo, apha asinakulibiza iifowuni kuye, sithatha nje lonke ixesha, sithetha nabahlobo. Omnye usebenza ngale ndlela, kodwa umntu akenzi. Konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko yomntu.
Ngexesha eliya kuthi siza kunxaxha kwiindlela ezimbalwa. Umele wazi kakuhle into oyikhathazayo umyeni wakho. Ukuba oku akunjalo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza kuya kubakho utshintsho oluthile, uya kuluqaphela, kakuhle, ngoko unako ukubandakanyeka kwisikratshi, ngokuqinisekileyo ongeyithandi. Oku kuya kwenzeka njani? Ewe, cinga nje, umhlobo wakho wabiza njalo ubusuku nemini, kakuhle, ndikunqwenela ubusuku obuhle, okanye, ngokufanelekileyo, kusasa. Kwaye wenza njalo ngokusoloko. Ngoku khawucinge ukuba uya kuba nekhanda lakho xa eqala ukukhumbula iifowuni, ungabibizi? Yaye ukuba uyamthatha, akayi kuthatha ummkeli. Kukho into efanayo apha, ngoko ungagxumi ngokukhawuleza. Kungcono ukuthetha naye, ubuze ukuba awuyikhathazi. Xa ukhululekile ukuthetha kwifowuni? Kufuneka ufumane yonke into evela kuye. Kwaye ukuba uthetha, thetha ukuba uxakekile okwangoku, ngoko uxolo ngokumxelela ukuba kuya kuba ngcono kubo bobabini. Umele nje akuqonde.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukucaphukiswa kwamakholi kumadoda kuthethwa kakhulu. Kungenxa yoko, unako ukwenza inxalenye nentombazana. Ewe, kukho iimeko ezinjalo. Kodwa kungcono ukuba ungayifaki kwaye uyisombulule zonke iingxaki ezivela ngexesha lobomi bomtshato, kanye kanye. Kwaye ke unako ukufikelela kuwe ngaphandle kwelo.
Kwaye ngoku, masibuyele kwiindlela. Ngoko, ngoku uyazi ukuba ungathatha ixesha lakho lokukhulula kunye nezinye izinto, ngaphandle kokuba ungathintana njani nomthandayo. Yintoni enye ongayenza ukuze ungabi nako ukubiza umntu? Kukho ukhetho olulodwa. Kwabanye kunokubonakala ngathi uyisidenge, kodwa kunjalo. Khumbula ukuqala kwinqaku, apho sathetha malunga nento esiyisebenzisa ukuthetha kuphela kumntu. Ngoko kunjalo. Zama ukushiya ifowuni ephathekayo ekhaya, okanye ususe inombolo yayo kwiluhlu loqhagamshelwano. Oku kuya kusebenza kuphela ukuba awukwazi inombolo yakhe yefowuni kwimemori, eya kuba yimeko efanelekileyo. Kule meko, uya kuba nethuba lokubiza kuphela xa uhlala ekhaya. Unokuxelela umyeni wakho ukuba unomfowuni ophukileyo, kakuhle, okanye into enjalo. Ukuseka ubudlelwane nomyeni wakho, njengoko oku kuya kuqinisa umtshato wakho, okanye ulwalamano lwakho.
Kukho enye inqaku, kodwa ayikhuthazwa ukuyisebenzisa. Unokuyeka ukumemeza, ngokubanzi. Hamba umgaqo. Makhe akubizele kangcono kunokuba uyenze kuye. Musa ukumbiza, nje ngesinye isizathu esibalulekileyo, xa sifika ebomini nasekufeni. Kodwa khumbula, kule meko, indoda yakho ifuna ukwazi kakuhle, kwaye ke iya kuhamba kumgaqo, kwaye ngoko ubuhlobo bakho buphela kuphela.
Enyanisweni, indoda ayiyi kubakho kwisikhalazo esinamandla, ukuba ngokukhawuleza umxelele ukuba akafuni ukukukhathaza. Unokufumana ukuhluka kweentlanganiso rhoqo kunye naye. Unokuya naphi na yonke imihla. Kule meko, iifowuni ziza kubakho kuphela, kwaye uya kukwazi ukunxibelelana nezinye izihloko naye kunye nomntu. Ngoko kuya kuba lula kakhulu, kokubili kuwe nangenxa yakhe.
Into ephambili kukuba ufumane ixesha elifanelekileyo kubo bobabini. Khetha indawo efanelekileyo apho unokuxoxa ngayo yonke imiba, jonga nje kunye nezinye izinto onokuzenza kunye.
Kufuneka uziqinisekise kwaye uqonde ukuba kufuneka ukhulume kuphela kumntu, kwaye kungekhona xa ufuna. Ngomntu, unxibelelwano lwemehlo, unganxibelelana. Uninzi olunamathuba angenamkhawulo. Yaye yintoni umnxeba? Uthetha kakuhle, konke oko. Zizichukumise ngezibonelelo zentlanganiso yakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuyeka ukubiza umnqweno wakho rhoqo.
Siyathemba ukuba inqaku lethu likuqinisekisile ukuba kulula ukuba ungakhathazeki nendoda. Njengoko ubona, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezisisiseko. Ukuba ungathethekiyo, i-intsebenziswano yazo yileyo yokugqibela. Oko kukuthi, unokubiza kuphela ukucwangcisa i-aphoyintimenti, okanye esinye isizathu esibalulekileyo, kwaye-ke zonke iingxoxo kumntu.