Ukufihla kwabantu ngumgangatho onokubakho okuhle nokubi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunzima ukuthetha nabantu abafihlakeleyo kuba akunakwenzeka ukuqonda oko bacinga ngokwenene nento abaya kuyenza. Nangona kunjalo, ukunyaniseka ukuba umntu akufanele athembeke?
Nabanye, bobabini ngokwabo
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abafihlakeleyo bangabalondolozi abafihliweyo beemfihlelo. Inyaniso kukuba abanye benza okufanayo kunye nabo ngokwabo. Ngoko ke, ukuba bangathethi nto malunga nobomi babo, naziphi iimfihlakalo kunye ngokuthe tye, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo abayi kuthetha ngeyakho. Abantu abafihliweyo bathule, ngoko ke akudingeki ukuba babelane ngolwazi rhoqo. Ngokuphambene noko, bazama ukunikela ngokuncinci kwabanye kubomi babo kwaye bazame ukufunda okuthile ngomntu. Kodwa ukuba usondela kwi-vysyami uze utshele into kumntu oyimfihlo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kugubungela umlomo wakho. Abantu abanjalo baphulaphule kakuhle. Awukwazi ukulinda iingcebiso okanye iingcebiso kumntu onjalo. Ukuba bathetha njalo, ngoko ke kuncinci kakhulu, kwimeko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi kunye namadoda abatsho nto. Ngoko ke, ukuba ucinga ukuba kukufanelekile ukuba unikele imfihlakalo kumntu oyimfihlo, unokukwazisa ukuba kuya kwenziwa uluntu, kodwa alindelanga naluphi na uncedo kunye ne-tadalee ukuba umntu akaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo kwizakhono zakhe kunye nokukwazi ukukunceda.
Ubonakala bukhohlisayo
Abantu abafihlakeleyo bahlala bebukeka bebubi kwaye banobuhlungu. Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Loo mntu uhlala exutywe kwiingcamango zakhe kwaye kuye akubalulekanga kakhulu ukuba adibanise noluntu. Nangona abantu abaninzi banomhlobo kwaye bajikeleza kwiinkampani. Abayithathi nto nantoni. Abathandi bokuzonwabisa kunye neebhokisi zengxoxo, ezahlukileyo ngokufihlakele kwabo, ngaba, ngaphandle kwemithetho. Abantu abaxhamlekileyo abanokwazi nje ukuba bangathuli njani. Kodwa ukuzola kunye nokucamngca kubonakala kubonakala kuyimfihlo. Nangona kunjalo, ungacingi ukuba abantu abafihlakeleyo bangendawo emhlabeni wonke kwaye balungele ukuhlasela ngokuthe ngqo nangaphandle kwesizathu. Ukuphuma ngaphandle akuyona nto impawu ebomphefumlo. Abantu abafihlakeleyo bangaba nobubele, bathembeke, baqonde uvelwano kunye nokuqonda. Kufuneka nje ufumane indlela yokufikelela kubo kwaye ube ngumntu osondeleyo. Ngezihlobo ezinjalo abafana kunye namantombazana bahlala bebonisa ngokwahlukileyo. Bayakwazi ukuhleka, kunye nokuthetha, njalo njalo. Kodwa ukuba umntu onjalo ngokukhawuleza uyaba lusizi okanye aqale ukukrakra, akudingeki uzame ukumkhubaza okanye ukumbuza malunga nalo mba. Olu hlobo luya kubangela ukuphendula okungalunganga. Kungcono ukushiya abantu abafihliweyo bodwa, ukuze i-onyx ikwazi ukulungisa iingxaki zabo.
Ufihlakele kwaye uziqhenyce
Abantu abafihlakeleyo bahlala beqhayisa ngokungazenzisiyo. Baziqhenkcele ukuba abayithandi kwaye abafuni ukucela uncedo, nangona bafuna kakhulu. Abantu abafihlakeleyo bafihla iingxaki zabo kuba bacinga ukuba abanalo ilungelo lokunyamezela abo bantu .Konge koko, abaxhamli xa umntu eyazi ngamava abo kwaye uzama ukunceda. Umntu ozidlayo uhlala efuna ukunquma yonke into ngokwakhe. Ukuzenzisa kwakhe ngamanye amaxesha akukhokelela kwimiphumo emihle, kodwa lo mntu akanakwenzeka ukutshintsha iindlela zakhe zokuziphatha. Abantu abafihlakeleyo abavame ukuthetha ngenye into, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba bangathembi. Abafuni nje ukunyanzelisa zabo iingxaki. Loo mntu unako ukugonya, ukuba ufuna ukuba ungakhathazeki. Nangona, ukuba siqhubeka sithetha ngokuzikhukhumeza kwe-unspoken, kuyafaneleka ukuphawula ukuba ngokwemigaqo yokuthembela kula bantu kubunzima ukuthatha into ethile. Akunamathuba okuqamba amanga kunabo bonke abantu, kuba bathetha amancinci kwaye akudingeki baphume kwiimeko xa umntu engagubha ngokugqithiseleyo ingqungquthela, aze azame ukulahla amagama abo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu ofihlakeleyo kumbuzo wokuba wayekuphi ngeCawa kusihlwa kwaye kutheni engaphenduli ifowuni ezintlanu kwixesha elilandelayo, wathi uyenza imisebenzi yakhe, kodwa akafuni ukuxelela oko, qi niseka, kunjalo. Ukuba umntu ofihlakeleyo wabiza indawo apho wayekho, ngoko kuyinyaniso. Inyaniso kukuba akayi kuthetha nto, okanye uthi inxalenye ye nyaniso. Ngoko ke, umntu akafanele akrokrekise abantu abanjalo ngamanga aze alindele ukukhohlisa. Ukufihla lohlobo lwabantu aluchaphazeli abo basondeleyo. Aba bantu abayakhohlisi abo bathandekayo kwaye abazami ukwenza oko. Abathethi nto nantoni nje kuba bawucingi nje ukuba olu lwazi luba luleke okanye umntu ofunekayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu wakho osondeleyo unqunywe ngokufihlakeleyo, akudingeki uzame ukufumana ubuxoki ngamazwi akhe, ugcine umkhondo wabo, njalo njalo. Yithemba oko akutshoyo. Yaye ukuba engathethi nto, vele uchaze ukuba wena, umzekelo, udinga ubuncinane ukwazi ukuba ungubani. Makhe angatsho oko akwenzayo kunye naye, kodwa ubuncinci uxelela indawo yakhe. Abantu abafihlakeleyo, ngokwenene, baqonda. Ngoko ke, ukuba uchaza yonke into ngaphandle kweephene kunye nokumangalelwa, umntu onjalo uya kuqonda kwaye azame ukukwenza ukuze ungaboni, kwaye isikhala sakhe asikhathazeki.
Amatyala ekliniki
Kakade, akusoloko ukufihlakeleyo kukubonakaliswa kweempawu ezithile. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba abantu abafihlakeleyo abangekho ngokwaneleyo ngokwengqondo okanye nangengqondo. Kule meko, akukho mbuzo nawuphi na umthemba kuyo yonke into, ekubeni loo mntu unjengawe, uyaziphazamisa. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntu ufihla konke okusemandleni kwaye akunakwenzeka, kuba uloyiko nje ngeentshaba ezingaziwa kwaye ezingenakuqondakala, ngoko unokuhlakulela i-paranoia. Umntu onjalo akakwazi ukuthembela nayiphi na ingcaciso ekhethekileyo, kuba unokuyichaza ngokuchanekileyo, okanye akwazi ukuguqula ngokupheleleyo. Kwimeko enjalo kukulungele ukuphendukela kwingcali, kuba ukubonakaliswa kwemfihlo kungakhokelela ekusebenzeni ngokupheleleyo, ukuziphatha kakubi kwizihlobo kunye nokunye. Iparanoia ihluke ngokufihlakeleyo ngokuqhelekileyo kukuba umntu uyaba neentloni, ukhathazekile. Akakwazi ukuhlala ehleli, kubonakala ngathi umntu uyamjonga. Kulo rhu lumente, umntu angaqala ukufihla impahla yakhe, ebiza ngokuba yixabiso, nangona kunjalo zizinto ezincinci eziqhelekileyo, ungaphenduli iifowuni, uzitshitshise abantu abangenakubungozi kuba iintlola kunye njalo njalo. Ukuziphatha okunzima ukudibanisa kunye nokufihla okokugqibela, kuba ukuba umntu ofihlakeleyo uthe cwaka kwaye akafuni ukungena kwiinkcukacha zobomi bakhe, i -paranoid iqala inzondo kumntu wonke, ifihle yonke into ize ifihle. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntu akanako ukumthemba umntu ngenxa yokuba ingqondo ayinakuxhatshazwa kwaye uyadinga uncedo lweengcali ezifanelekileyo, apho ucebisa ukuba enze isicelo ngokukhawuleza.