Okokuqala, amantombazana nabasetyhini abazibuza yona lo mbuzo akulula. Emva koko, abaninzi banomyeni wabo, baninzi sele benabantwana kwaye bahlala ubomi babo obalinganiselwe, benza umsebenzi wentsapho, kwaye bayavuya. Kodwa kukho namantombazana athile abatshatileyo ekuqaleni okanye nje umntu ongathandwa. Kwaye uyavela! Lowo udibanisa naye, kwaye mhlawumbi akuninzi, kodwa uxhumano olunye luye lwahlala. Lowo oye waba mhle ngakumbi, unenkalipho kwaye unomdla. Akunandaba nokuba udibana naye kwaye phantsi kweziphi iimeko. Mhlawumbi akakuboni. Kwaye waqala ukukhupha imifanekiso kwixesha elidlulileyo. Nangona ulwalamano lwakho aluzange lube luhle (ngokusekelwe kwinto oye waqhekeza ngayo), kulukhumbule ixesha elihle, zikhunjulwe, njengoko zihamba zijikeleza ipaki, zidansa kwi-disco, zikhululekile kwimvelo, zahamba uhambo, njl. . Yonke le nyukayo iyakhwela entloko yakho. Uzibamba ucinga ukuba ucinga ngako ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Uze uzibuze kwakhona kwakhona, yintoni omele uyenze xa utshatile uze udibana nomthando wangaphambili?
Makhe sicinge, kutheni ungakulibali umthandi wakho wangaphambili? Makhe sicinge ngezizathu ezinokwenzeka zezi:
® Ukhunjulwa kweenveli ezishiye kwixesha elidlulileyo ngokuqhelekileyo ziba "bhetele kangcono" kunokuba zikho emva kwexesha. Izibhengezo zanyamalala kwenye indawo, kwaye ixesha elihle liba luncedo. Kwaye kunye nolwalamano lwangoku, yonke into engalunganga kunye neyona nto ihamba ngokufanayo. Konke okulungileyo, ngesizathu esithile ngokukhawuleza sikhohliweyo, kodwa iingxaki zihlala phezulu. Ngokukodwa xa sicingisisa ukuba iingcinga malunga neliveli elidlulileyo liqhubeka.
® Ulwalamano olutsha aluhambisani nawe ngandlela-thile. Into engalunganga, kwaye awukwazi ukuyijonga. Ngenxa yoko, kufihla emva kwezi zikhumbuzo zangaphambili.
® Uvuyo olukhulu. Oku kuhamba ngokuqhelekileyo kwengcamango yabasetyhini. Ucinga ukuba uyedwa, kwaye emva kwakho wayengekho omnye. Ushiye impembelelo enzulu emphefumlweni wakhe, kwaye akukho namnye ongakwazi ukubeka endaweni yakho. Oo, yintoni i-balm elimnandi entliziyweni yakho. Kwaye kunomnqweno "wokuvuyisa" kuye, kuba uya kuba novuyo kakhulu, uya kukuthwala ezandleni zakhe. Kucacile ukuba, wayesaqonda ukuba wayelahlekile, kungekhona ukuba yakho yangoku, engakuxabanga.
® Ugqithisa kakhulu iinkumbulo zakho. Mhlawumbi yaba ngumkhwa? Kungenzeka ukuba kwimeko yakho uhlala udibana nesitalato. Kungenzeka ukuba oku kukuthintela ukuba ushiye ikhefu elidlulileyo kwaye wenze kube yimemori enqabileyo.
® Ngaba uyinyani lokwenene? Olu khetho lwenzeka kwakhona. Kule meko, usadinga ukuthetha nentliziyo yakho yangaphambili intliziyo. Emva koko, unokungaqondi kwakhona iimvakalelo zakho ezifudumeleyo, kwaye akafuni ukubuyela emva.
Ngoku sizame ukuqonda le meko ngcaciso engakumbi.
Ukuba utshatile kwaye udibana noluthando lwangaphambili, kwaye le ntlanganiso ibangele isithwathwa semvakalelo kunye neenkumbulo, kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba ngexesha elifanelekileyo ulwaphule. Kwaye kuthetha ukuba kwakukho isizathu salo. Ukuba udibene nexesha elide, kwaye sele usasabalalisiwe, kufuneka kubekho isizathu esibalulekileyo. Kuloo nto kufuneka ucinge ngako. Kwakhona, khumbula iimeko ezinzima zolwalamano lwakho, ukuthetha kwakho. Kukho ukuphakama okuphezulu ukuba xa iveli yaqalisa kwakhona, konke oku kunokuvuselela kwakhona kwaye awukwazi ukuzibandakanya kwakhona. Iingcamango neemvakalelo ezinjalo zivame ukuyeka umnqweno "wokubuyisela konke."
Zama ukuziqonda. Ngaba uyayithanda umtshato wakho, intsapho yakho, ingakumbi umyeni wakho? Ngaba uyazifuna?
Ngaba ufuna ukuhlaziya ubuhlobo bokuqala? Yintoni oya kwenzayo xa umthandi wakho wangaphambili ebonisa ukuba uqala kwakhona kwakhona? Ukuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo lo mbuzo, unceda ucacise umfanekiso.
Yintoni ongayenza ukuba udidi olunzulu luthando lwangaphambili? Okokuqala kufuneka uzame ukupholisa. Oku kuyimfuneko ukuze kuhlolwe ngenyameko imeko. Zibuze wena ukuba uvakalelo olubizwa ngokuthi "uthando" luvakala ngokwenene kuwe? Okanye ingumnqweno, unxanelwe uxhulumano olunzulu, olusekelwe kwizinkumbulo zeentsuku ezishiye? Okanye ngaba nje kuhlaselwa kwe-nostalgic? Ukuba le nto awuzange uyiqaphele okwamanje, ngenxa yokuba ingqondo yakho ifakwe kumava akho, kunye neengcamango zokungcatsha umyeni wakho zinyuka entloko yakho, zicinge wena nazo zonke iinkcukacha kwimeko apho sele uyenzile. Yethulwa? Ewe, kwaye uvakalelwa njani? Ngaba unokuhlala nale nto? Kwiimeko zabo, wonke umntu uyazigqiba.
Kodwa, ukuba usaphila ukuphila ngoko unakho ngoku kwaye uyamthanda ngokwenene umyeni wakho, awudingi ukumkhohlisa, nangona kuphela kwiingcamango zakho. Hlanganisa ngamandla kunye nawe kwaye konke makwenqatshelwe ukuvuselela ixesha elidlulileyo. Kuphela ngokumisela esi sigqibo esiqinileyo, uya kuba nethuba lokwenene lokulibala uthando lwangaphambili. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba lula, kodwa ngubani owathi ubomi bunzima?