Yintoni eyomeleza ulwalamano?

Iingxelo zezingane zichaze ngokucacileyo kubo bonke abantombazana umfanekiso wesimo esilungileyo: uthando kufuneka lube luyimfuneko ekuqaleni kokuqala, ukuhamba ngothando ngaphantsi kwenyanga kunye neehorenade ngefestile kuyimfuneko enyanzelisayo, kwaye inkosana (yebo, ngaphandle kweengxaki zezindlu) kukuvakalelwa kwintliziyo yezithandwa kunye neelwandle ezixhenxe. Ewe, yintoni omele uyenze kulabo abangafanelanga kwi-canon? Ukuba ukholelwa iifoto kwiintanethi zentlalo kunye neentshulube zokuhlakulela "Uthando lu ..", uthando lokwenyaniso lwenziwa kwii-bouquets ezingezizo zebhajethi, ubungozi bomlilo oqhubekayo (ikhandlela, ikhandlela!), Kwaye ixubusha ekuphumeni kwelanga. Kwakukho ngokwaloo mzekelo ukuba uSveta noDima bawuthabathele umncintiswano womtshato kwimagazini yomtshato ngenxa yokuthandana okuthandanayo (waguqa kwiSt. Mark Square Square eVenice waza wanikela ingqungquthela, abavakhenkethi bavuya, amajuba adla isonka esiphindwe kabini). Enyanisweni, abasandul 'ukutshata babaleka iintsuku ezimbalwa emva komtshato, kodwa oku akuzange kubhalwe kwiphephancwadi.

Kukho elinye ibali, malunga nokuba usapho olusandul 'utsha lwaluphonswa njani ngokulungiswa ngamagosa amathathu. Okokuqala, amanye amahlwempu aqala imfazwe - kungekhona nomphathi, kodwa omnye nomnye-kwaye wacishe ashaya umqulu wephepha lodonga.

Emva koko, ingqiqo ebonakalayo, incinci iqukumbele ekufuneni ityala kwaye yaqala ukuhamba malunga neengxaki ngendlela efanelekileyo. Yaye ucinge nje: ekupheleni kokulungiswa kwakungumnye uSathana kumzekeliso. Uthando aluzange lube lukhuni, kodwa baxakeke, kangangokuba abanye babenomona. Iyabongoza umbuzo: ingadliwa kunye kunye nesikhumba setyuwa iqinisa umanyano osebenzayo kunokuba i-vanilla iphumle eMaldives?

Akunjalo ukuba ndicetyisa ukuphazamisa zonke iimpawu zothando. Kwaye iipinki ezipinki kwisibhedlele sothando, kunye nezipho ezingagqitywanga ekugqibeleni, kunye nokuqhawula ndawonye-konke oku kubuhle ngexesha elihle kumnandi kwaye ngokubanzi, kunamandla. Enye into kukuba awuyi kuzala iigwele kuphela; Ndisoloko ndifuna ukucoca ngamatatati. Kwaye le ncoko yokugcoba ihambelana ngokufanelekileyo nomgangatho wobudlelwane. Ngokubanzi, phantsi kunye neengcamango malunga nezibini eziqinileyo - zinika inyaniso, oko kudibanisa ngokwenene!

Baye bathi: "Ngokwenene abantu abanothando bayaqondana ngaphandle kwamagama, ubuncinci - ngegama elincinane."

Enyanisweni
Ngaba ufuna ukuhlala ngokuvuya ngonaphakade? Siyakwamkela kwitheyibhile! Uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, ukucoca indlu, ukuhanjelwa kwezizalwane, inombolo evumelekileyo yokudlala ngothando kumaqela - abo bahlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo, izihloko ezincinci azikho. Ukwandisa uluhlu lwezivumelwano (kunye uluhlu lwezonyanzelo zokungazalisekanga izinto ezikhutshwe kwiikhontrakthi), ubuncinci ebomini bethu buya kubakho ubomi obusendle obuqhekeza phakathi kweenqanawa zothando. Ukongezelela, umkhwa wokubonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo nangokuthetha, kwaye kungekhona ngomsindo ovuthayo kunye nokugubha okukhulu, kuqinisekiswa ukuba ugcine ukungaqondi kakuhle. Umzekelo, ukuba utshilo kusengaphambili oko ungathanda ukufumana ngenxa yokuzalwa kwakho, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uya kufumana. Kwimeko embi kakhulu, isiqingatha sakho siya kuzisola kwaye njengoko kuchaza ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni ungawufezekisi umnqweno. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufuna umdlalo, iinyembezi kunye neendlela zokumangalelwa - indlela ephakanyisiweyo ibonakala ingalungile.

Ngokombono wentsapho ehloniphekileyo yeengqondo ze-psychotherapists, enye yezitshixo kumanyano ophumeleleyo kukukwazi ukuxoxa ngemithetho esisiseko kwaye uyitshintshe ngokukhawuleza xa bekhubazeka ngokuziphatha. Kwaye kwenzeka okungaphezu kwesinye. Ubomi obudibeneyo, ukubhaliswa komtshato, ukuzalwa kwabantwana - ngasinye isinyathelo sidinga ukuhlaziywa kwezi zivumelwano ezifanelekileyo. Unromantic, ngendlela yokuphendula - kodwa inokwethenjelwa. Kwaye ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba akukho nto iqinisa ubudlelwane obufana nomsebenzi ohlangeneyo ohlangeneyo. Kwaye akubalulekanga kakhulu, kuya kuba ngamahashe ehamba phantsi kwenyanga, isikolo se-tango okanye umzamo wokubamba inqwelo yemoto. Ukuba uhlangabezana ngokuphumelelayo nomsebenzi wokugqibela, uya kuba yinxalenye yembali yakho kwaye akuvumele ukuba ube nemvakalelo emangalisayo "sinokuyenza!". Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukunqoba okuncinci ukuba uqaphele kakhulu ukuba akukho isidlo sothando.

Mabathi:
Abantu abaqhelekileyo abawuthathi iingubo ezingcolileyo ngaphandle kwezindlu zabo kwaye abaxeleli ngaphandle ukuba kwenzekani kwintsapho yabo. "

Enyanisweni
Kwaye ngaba ngabahlobo kunye neengqondo ze-psychoanalyst? Nabo abaphumeleleyo kwintlonelo yesibini esithandekayo kunamaxesha onke, ukukhupha, ukuthula kwaye ucingisise malunga nomlingani oqondayo. Ukuba ngezikhathi ezinjalo ziqhayisa ngokuzithoba kwaye zihlakulele izihlamba zodwa, kukho umngcipheko omkhulu wokuba konke oku kuya kufumana isifo esingasigxina, kwaye uya kuba ngumthwalo onzima.

Ngendlela, umahluko phakathi "ukwabelana" kunye no "nayabednichat" kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye kulula ukuyifumana. Tshela umhlobo wesifuba ngeemvakalelo zakhe eziphazamisekile, ponyt ehlombe lakhe kwaye adle ikhekhe eliduduzayo kwindawo enomdla - konke oku akubandakanyi ukungcatsha. Ukongezelela, umhlobo, ukuba unemvakalelo enhle (kwaye kuphela oku kufuneka kukhethwe), kunokumangalisa kakhulu ukubeka izimvo malunga neemeko eziza kutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ukuze ungaziva ukhululekile kamva (kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukungahlazisi intombi / umama / i-intanethi yoluntu), ngexesha lokutyhilwa kwezinto, kungcono ukuba ugweme iinkcukacha ezithandanayo, kunye nokuchithwa okubonakalayo kumntu oyintanda. Kodwa malunga nawe uthi nantoni na. Ukuvakalisa kungekuphela nje ukufaneleka kwakhe okungaqinisekiyo, kodwa ngokuphathelele ukuphazamiseka okucacileyo, ufumana ithuba elihle lokujonga impikiswano ukusuka kwicala kwaye ufike ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuyicombulula.

Baye bathi : "Abatshatileyo abanovuyo abanakhathala omnye nomnye, kwaye abayi kuze bahlale ndawonye."

Enyanisweni
Ndikhumbule kwiminyaka ephakamileyo yesikolo ndayiva ngutitshala onobuqilileyo ukuba kulwalamano nolwalamano lubaluleke kakhulu. Ixesha lidlulileyo, kwaye kwavela ukuba le mizuzu imfuneko ngokwenene njengomoya - ubuncinci ukwenzela ukuba ufumane ukubonakala kwaye ucebise kunye nomanyano wabo. Kwaye ukujonga kwicala lento eyenzekayo phakathi kwakho nomthandayo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, into yokulungisa.

Enyanisweni, ngokugqithiseleyo ubomi bomlingane okanye umlingane, kulula kwaye kunomdla kubo ukuba bahlale kunye. Okokuqala, akudingekile ukwabelana ngeminqweno eyahlukeneyo yomhlobo. Ukwenza oku, kukho abahlobo, uluntu kunye namaqela adibeneyo, okuvumela ukuba uzicwilise kwindawo yokuzonwabisa oyithandayo ngentloko yakho, ngaphandle kokwesaba ukungaqondi, ukuphazamiseka kunye nezinye "ezingekho-". Okwesibini, ngenxa yolonwabo olupheleleyo, abahlobo bayadingeka: kungekhona nje iinkampani ezikhwazayo, kodwa kunye neentlanganiso zokuhlala kunye neentetho kunye nokukhwabanisa kunye nokuhleba. Okwesithathu, ukuba oku kungenzeki, iingxoxo eziphambili zeengxoxo zomtshato ziya kuhlala zihamba "kwi-Auchan" kunye ne-snot ukusuka kumncinci. Ngaba uyayidinga? Ukunyaniseka, oko kubaluleke kakhulu kungekhona ixesha elichithwe kunye, kodwa kuphela umgangatho walo. Ngaba uphosana? Ngaba unayo into yokuthetha ngayo? Iimpendulo ezintle kule mibuzo zifanelekile, oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ufike emva kwexesha kwaye uthuthuke, kwaye ufumane ngokwaneleyo ukuthetha. Ukuba kukho oku kufuneka uchithe inxalenye yeeholide ngokwahlukileyo, kumazwe ahlukeneyo okanye kumazwekazi ahlukeneyo-umdlalo ufanele ikhandlela!