Indlela yokukholisa intombazana ukuba ifike ngomhla

Sadibana nentombazana enqabileyo kwisitalato kwaye ayikwazi ukucinga indlela yokummangalisa. Okanye sele uqhelene nomntu, kodwa akakwazi ukumdla kwaye umema kumhla?

Ngaba kufuneka uvelele izizathu malunga nemozulu embi, iintloko okanye izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu? Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akufanele uxhomekeke ekhaleni lakho kwaye ufumene indlela efanelekileyo kwisifundo sokudumisa, ngenxa yoko kukho izinto ezintle kunye namaqhinga. Makhe sithethe ngendlela yokukholisa intombazana ukuba ifike ngomhla.

Okokuqala, ungakhathazeki. Njalo ingcamango eyodwa elula inceda: akukho mntu uvumelekileyo ukuba angayi kunqatshwa kanye kanye. Emva kokuqonda oku, kufuneka ube lula kwaye ube nethemba ngezinto ezinjalo. Le ndlela yokucinga izokunika ukuzithemba, kwaye ngenxa yoko-ukukwazi ukuqala ingxoxo, inzala, ukumema ngomhla, impumelelo kunye nesini esahlukileyo. Ngoko umthetho wokuqala: ungesabi ukulahlekelwa yimfazwe, ungakangena empini!

Emva koko, kufuneka ufumane indlela eya kumntu ngamnye, umnike izinto ezithandayo, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nomlingiswa. Ezinye ziyancibilika xa zibona izimbali kunye nomfana okhupha ngaphandle kweefestile, okanye udwebe ngakumbi into ethile kwi-asphalt okanye kwikhephu. Abanye baphela nje ukuphupha ukuba babe neentembelo zesini esithembekileyo phambi kweqiniso "Namhlanje simele sihambe kwi-cinema (ithala, i-cafe, ipaki, njl)!" Ngokomzekelo, esinye isibini esitshatileyo esitshatileyo sichaza wonke umntu "ibali" layo. Le ntombazana yayinexesha elibalulekileyo lobomi: iingxaki zempilo, ukukhathala kokudibanisa umsebenzi kunye nokufunda, iingxaki zeentsapho. Kwaye ke umhlobo wakhe weza kuye ekupheleni kosuku waza wathi: "Ngaba uyayifuna okanye ayikho, kwaye ngoku siyahamba. Kufuneka uphumule uze uphumle. " Ukususela kuloo mzuzu, akazange aphinde amkhangele njengomhlobo, - waba ngumkhuseli wakhe onamandla.

Masithi ufumanise ukuba (njengokuba, ngokwenene, ininzi yamantombazana) ukhetha abafana abanamandla. Akuyimfuneko ukulinda ixesha elihle okanye ithuba lokuhlala yedwa kunye naye ukuze uqale ukusebenza ngokusebenzayo. Sonke maxa wambi sivuyiswa ukuba sibe kwindawo ebonakalayo, ngoko mnike ithuba elihle kangaka. Ndiza nje ndigijime kuye kwisitrato ndememeza esithi "Ntombazana, ndifuna uncedo lwakho!" Wongeza ngelithi: "Ndifuna nje ukuhamba nawe", uya kuyenza ukummotheka kwakhe, kwaye into eyothusayo inokuchaphazela impendulo yakhe.

Tshela intombazana engaqhelekanga malunga nendlela ekuthandekayo ngayo nendlela akuthandayo ngayo, kodwa ihlabathi lilungile kangangokuthi, mhlawumbi, unomfana okanye umyeni, mhlawumbi zombini. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba emva kokuncincika kwengxolo, yena, ukumomotheka, uya kuthetha ukuba eqinisweni akunjalo kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kunqanda ukunxibelelana ngakumbi nawe.

Ungesabi ukubonakala ungcikivo, ungesabi ukumangaliswa, ukuba awukwazi ukunyanzelisa amantombazana ukuba afike ngomhla. Unokuthi nje "Ndicinga ukuba ulahlekelwe into." Intombazana yona iya kuphazamiseka ukukhetha zonke iindlela ezikhethwa entloko okanye zikhangele. Kuyinto encedo kakhulu i-t shirt kunye nombhalo othi "Ndiyinqaba yakho yesibini elahlekileyo", enokuthi iboniswe ngokungaqinisekisi ihembe.

Khumbula, into eyona nto kukukwazi ukudala indawo yokuzola, ukuba ungayesabisi intombazana kunye ne-antics yakho kunye nexesha elifanayo ukuba ungabonakali kumkhathaza. Akufanele ube yinto enobhedu okanye usebenzise kakubi, uzame ngazo zonke iindlela zokufumana imvume emilindelwe ixesha elide kwisimemo sakho. Akukho mntu uya kuxabisa ibinzana elithi "Awuyazi into olahlekelwa ngayo", "Hayi, ngeze-uya kuzisola", njl njl. Kunoko, ngokuchaseneyo: kufuneka uhlale uxolo kwaye uziqhenye. Ukongezelela, akukho nto inokubangela umdla wentombazana kuwe, njengenye intombazana ecaleni kwakho. Kwaye, nokuba ngaba unqatshelwe, yenza nje nje ukuba awuyi kuthukuthela kwaye unokuthetha ngokulula nabanye, abantu abanomdla ngokulinganayo. Emva kancinci, emva kokubuza ukuba intombazana ayitshintshi ingqondo yakhe, uya kuqonda ukuba ngoku akayi kulwa nokuhamba ngosuku.

Ukuba ngumbuzo wakho umhlobo, ubuhlobo apho yonke into engeyi kudlulela kwiimeko "zabahlobo" kwizinto ezinzulu kakhulu, ngoko nje ukumbonisa ingqalelo yakho, ukunakekelwa kwaye akusilize ngelo xesha ungekho. Khumbula apho angathanda ukuba khona, izinto ezithandwayo kunye nezinto ezithandayo. Nokuba isimemo esilula kwi-cinema sinokubonelelwa kakuhle, songeza ibinzana elithi "Ndiyakhumbula ukuba uthanda ama-comedies (melodramas, amaxhala, njl.)." Mxelele ukuba ufuna ukumfundisa indlela yokwenza umdlalo, ukudlala i-Bowling kwaye uqinisekileyo unokunqoba. Mema kumakhonsathi okanye umboniso wepeyinti, uthenge incwadi, umculo we-CD okanye ikhekhe yakhe oyithandayo - into eyona nto kukubonisa ukuba uyayazi into ayifunayo, kwaye uyamthobela kunye namazwi akhe.

Kodwa, mna, indlela eyona ingqiqo kakhulu kukukwenza intombazana icinge ngawe ukuze enze isigqibo sokuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Ngoko, umzekelo, omnye umfana ixesha elide wayethetha nentombazana, elowo wonke umntu aphuphayo, kuphela edibana naye. Yena, ngokuqinisekileyo, wayesazi ngale nto, eyaba nomthelela omkhulu ekuzithembekeni kwakhe kunye nokungahoywa kwesini esahlukileyo. Kwaye kwintlanganiso esikhundleni sendawo evamile "Sawubona! Wenza ntoni na? "Umfana wathi kuye:" Ndathetha nomhlobo wakho ngolunye usuku kwaye, ngokunyanisekileyo, alindelanga ukuva oku ngawe "kwaye waqhubeka. Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa wambhalela ii-sms zamcela ukuba achaze oko wayekuthethayo. Njengoko kwakungekho mpendulo, intombazana yaqala ukubiza umntu, kodwa engayifumana impendulo. Kwaye emva kweeveki ezimbalwa wayekwazi ukumkholisa ukuba adibane kwaye axoxe ngokuzenzekelayo yonke into. Iintyatyambo, ukumomotheka kunye nenqaku elithi "Kwakunyanzelekile ukuba ngandlela-thile inyuse kwaye unomdla" akazange amshiye engenandaba.

Ngendlela efanayo, unokuyichukumisa nayiphi na intombazana, ethi uyalindela ukumangaliswa okanye into engayiboniyo, kwaye iya kuba yinto engqondweni yakho.

Ngoko akubalulekanga kakhulu indlela oyikhethayo, into ephambili kukuthatha ngokuzithemba nangokuhle. Kufuneka ikhunjulwe rhoqo ukuba amantombazana ayamthanda, anonyamekela kwaye afuna ukubona emva kwesigidimi esinesibindi, esinamandla nesichukumisayo. Zama ukuba okanye okanye, ubuncinci, ukukholisa intombazana ukuba unjalo kwaye uphumelele kuwe!