Ukucubungula kwixesha elidlulileyo
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu uphinde aguqule iimvakalelo zakhe kunye nezenzo aze enze isigqibo sokuba konke okwakungekho. Ngokomzekelo, kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo intombazana yayingatsho ukuthi iyayithanda intsha kwaye ingafuna ukwakha ubudlelwane naye. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, le ntombazana ibingqina ukuba lo buhlobo, kodwa kungekhona uthando. Kutheni ekwenza oku? Mhlawumbi unentlungu ethile yentombazana. Okanye uthelekisa iimvakalelo zakhe zangaphambili kunye nezona zinto, mhlawumbi, zinamandla okanye zinamandla. Ngaloo nto, intombazana iqala ukukholelwa ukuba ubudlelwane obudlulileyo behluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye bayenqaba amazwi athetha ngaphambili. Kule meko, umntu akaqondi into ephikisana naye. Kaloku ke wayeqinisekile ukuba wayeziva into enye, ngoku uxhomekeka kwiimvakalelo ezahlukileyo kwaye uyakhohlwa nje ngexesha elidlulileyo. Kule meko, kunzima ukutshutshisa nabani na into. Ngokulula, phantsi kwefuthe leemvakalelo ezithile kunye nokubonakala, abantu batshintsha uluvo lwabo kwaye bayalibala malunga noko bakutsho ngaphambili. Unamandla ngakumbi iimvakalelo - ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwabo bonke. Ngoko, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba umntu uguqula ingqondo yakhe kuphela ngempembelelo yeemvakalelo, musa ukumthukuthelela. Uyabona nje izinto ezedlulileyo kunye neengxelo zakhe ezidlulileyo kuphela kwi-prism yesimo sakhe samanje, esinokuhluke kakhulu kwizinto ezikhoyo.
Uloyiko
Esinye isizathu sokuba abantu benqabe ukulinda ngamazwi kukuloyika. Ngokomzekelo, umntu unokugubungela into engabonakaliyo, kwaye ngoko, eqonda ukuba ngenxa yamazwi akhe awela ebudeni bombambano okanye umntu osondeleyo unokunqabela, uqala ukubuyela phantsi aze alahle konke akutshoyo. Kule meko, kuye kwaba malunga nanye kuthi, ngoko kunzima ukugweba abo benza oku. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyingozi kwaye kuyiphutha. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, akukho mntu ufuna ukuba ngumbono weengxabano okanye isityholo, ingakumbi ukuba ixhalabisa umntu. Kungako oko kwenzeka ukuba umntu utshele umntu into engumbhali, kwaye ke uqala ukulahla la magama. Kwimeko enjalo, kufuneka ucebise ukuba ungalokothi usebenzise iingxelo ezinjengeengxoxo kuzo naziphi na iingxabano. Ukuba uyazi ukuba ukucinga ngokuthe ngqo umntu unokuyeka igama-nge-igama, ekubeni akukho nto yayingathethiwe nhlobo, kungcono ukuba ungasasazeka malunga nolwazi olufumene ngengozi. Kungenzeka ukuba akukho mntu ufuna ngokwenene, kwaye umntu othe wakuxelela oku akudingeki ukuba abekwe endaweni, ngenxa yokuba wenza oko kuphela ngengozi okanye ekholelwa ukuba unokunika imfihlo yakho.
Ukunyanzelisa
Esinye isizathu sokuba umntu anqande amazwi akhe kukunyanzelisa abanye. Kule meko, abantu basebenzisa igama ukubeka umntu kumntu othile (abantu) okanye ukumphoqa umntu ukuba enze oko akufunayo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abantu baqala ukuthetha enye into, omnye-omnye, ekugqibeleni ukudala imeko apho wonke umntu eyeka ukuthembela kunye nokuthembela kuphela kuyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kule meko kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ngubani, yintoni na ukuthetha ngayo, yintoni amagama okumele abuyele njalo njalo njalo. Akunabo bonke abantu abakulungele "imisebenzi" enjalo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuchongwa okunjalo kubonakalisiwe, kuba umntu ufihlile. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko xa kukho izinto ezinjengezinto ezibonakala zilula, umntu angakwazi ukulawula ngokuzenzekelayo iqela labantu njengoko ethanda. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kuyimfuneko ukubeka esweni ngokuthe ngqo ukuba bathini abantu. I-manipulator ingahlala ibalwa. Mfuneko nje ukuba uthembele intuition yakho kunye namava, kunye nokungazibuza izinto ezithandwa ngabantu abasondeleyo. Ukuba umntu ojongene nomntu ojongene nokubambisana kunye nokuthembela komnye nomnye, ngokukhawuleza ukukhawuleza into ethile, kwaye unokummangalela ngokuxoka. Kodwa ukuba ungeke ukwazi ukwenza oku, i-manipulator efanayo iya kujonga rhoqo umntu onamehlo athembekileyo kwaye uthi: "Andizange nditsho loo nto", kwaye ngasemva kwakho uya kwenza konke ayeza kuzicingela entloko yakhe.
Ukungapheleli
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu baphinda bathathe amazwi abo, kuba abanakukwazi ukunamathela kumbono omnye. Baye basuka kwenye ukuya kwelinye, banikele kwiimvakalelo, bathi yonke into efika engqondweni, uze uthabathe amagama abo. Abantu abanjalo abazange bazinze kakuhle. Umzuzu othile, ngokwenene unokukwazi ngokuqinisekileyo, umzekelo, uthembisa ukuba ngeveki udla ndawonye eholide. Kodwa emva kwemihla emithathu umntu onjalo uya kubuyisa amagama akhe athi akafuni nto kwaye uya kuhlala kwiiveki ezimbini phambi kwekhompyutha. Kwaye ngolunye usuku kamva uya kutshintsha ingqondo aze aqokelele kwindawo ethile ukuya kuyo, kodwa ngeli xesha uya kukhetha enye indawo yokuphumla. Kwaye ngoko unokuthabatha amagama akhe kwaye anike izithembiso ezintsha kwi-infinity. Ngabantu abanokungaqiniseki kunzima ukuthetha, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukusondela kumntu onjalo-musa ukuzikhukhumeza. Ayenzi ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona ebubini. Kuphela nje ukuba ingqondo yakhe iziphatha ngendlela efanayo, kwaye ibonisa kuphela oko ivakalelwa. Esikhundleni sokumemeza kwakhona, xa umntu onjalo echaza into ekulungeleyo, bambambe kwaye unganqikazi ukwenza oko wathembisayo, ukuze kamva, njengoko besithi, kwakungekho ndlela yokubuya.
Ukungena
Ngelishwa, abantu bayayilahla imibono yabo baze bathathe amagama, ngokuba bawela phantsi kwefuthe lomnye. Ngokomzekelo, banokuthi bathethe ntoni, kodwa ebusweni bomntu othize baya kulahla amagama abo baze baqale ukuvakalisa uluvo lwabo, i-athomu, awayebekele yona. Kule meko, umntu uthi ucinga ngokungafanelekanga ngaphambili, kwaye ngoku nje amehlo akhe avulwe. Kwaye phantse njalo kwiimeko ezinjalo, abagcini nje ukuyeka amagama abo. Baqala ukugxeka ngokukhawuleza oko kwakuthethwa ngaphambili, ukuthetha ngabo ngokwabo akuzona izinto ezikhohlisa kakhulu kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ziziphatha njengokungathi zenze into enzima. Ngendlela, amaxesha amaninzi awabambileyo ayinyaniso, kodwa uluvo olutsha lubonakala lungalunganga kwaye lubuhlungu, kodwa umntu ophantsi komthelela womntu akakwazi ukulibona.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuba umntu uthatha amazwi akhe-kuthetha ukuba ukholelwa ukuba isenzo esinjalo siya kuba sisona sichanekileyo. Umbono olula unokuba ngumphumo wokuzihlalutya kweenkcukacha ezithile okanye impembelelo yomntu okanye into engqondweni yakhe nangengqondo yakhe.