Ndifunga ukuba uthetha inyaniso, kwaye yinyaniso kuphela
Umhlobo omhle kakhulu ngowona mhle, ungalokothi uxoke. Kwaye akukhona nje ukuxelela umhlobo malunga nento yonke. Okokuqala kunye nangoko-phambili, abahlobo abalungileyo bahlala bethetha inyaniso ekujonganeni nezenzo ezingalunganga kunye nezigqibo. Ewe, lo umehluko phakathi komhlobo omhle kunye nomhlobo. Ingakumbi ibandakanyeka ubudlelwane phakathi kwabahlobo. Amantombazana ayidalwa enyantisayo, ngako-ke akuyena wonke umntu onokuthi uziphatha ngendlela ekhohlakeleyo, ukuba le ngubo ibukeka ingathandeki kwaye iyithuba lokukususa endlwini yakho, kuba ayiqhelekanga. Kodwa umhlobo omhle uhlala ekhuluma ngale nto, kuba unelungelo. Uyakwazi kakuhle ukuba amazwi akhe akakwazi ukugxekwa ngokwenene, efanelekileyo phambi kwakhe okanye edlala nje. Umhlobo omhle wale nto akaqhutyelwa. Esikhundleni sokuqala ukuxolisa, uyaqhubeka egoba umgca wakhe, kuba uyazi ukuba inyaniso ihlala ilungile kunokuba ithetha. Ngokungekona nje isizwe esizama ukunciphisa olu hlobo lwezinto, kuba sinoyika ukuxabana. Kodwa umhlobo omhle ucinga ukuba ngumsebenzi wakhe ukuvula amehlo akhe kumntu osondeleyo, nangona kwenzeka ukuba uphelelwe ingxabano. Okumangalisa kukuba, ngobudlelwane, amalungelo kunye neemfanelo zihlala zidibanisa. Sinelungelo lokuthetha nomhlobo ongcono ngokuphathelele iimpazamo zakhe, kuba yintoni abo bathanda ngokwenene kwaye ngexesha elifanayo sinyanzelekile ukuba sithethe le nyaniso ukuze sikhusele umntu kwisinye isenzo esingalunganga okanye isigqibo esinokuchaphazela ubomi bakhe.
Umhlobo akayi kulahla, akayi kubuza kakhulu
Umhlobo omhle unelungelo lokungahloneli nto kunye nexesha elifanayo nethemba lokuqonda nokuxhasa. Kwaye akumangalisi, kuba xa sibuza malunga nomntu, siholwa ngumdla oqhelekileyo. Sifuna nje ukwazi ukuba kwenzekani. Kodwa kunye nabahlobo abalungileyo yonke into iyahluke. Ewe, kukho inzala - oku yiyona nto, kodwa ininzi yethu sonke esinayo kumntu, ngenxa yesimo sakhe kunye ne-takdale. Ngako oko, abahlobo abalungileyo banelungelo lokuthetha ngamava abo, kwaye banethemba lokuba baya kuqondwa kwaye bayamkelwa yilokho bakuyo. Ukuba bafuna ukuthula, loo mntu akayi kuba nemibuzo, kwaye ke baya kuhamba kunye nenqaku elithandekayo. Ngokuphambene noko, umhlobo omhle uvakalelwa ngumphefumlo womntu othandekayo. Akunakwazi izizathu, kodwa intuitively ukuqaphela oko kwenzeka ngokwenene kulo mntu. Kwaye kwimeko enjalo, umhlobo omhle kufuneka axhase kwaye enze okusemandleni kumhlobo. Ukuba ucela ukuba ahambe kwaye amshiye wedwa, akanalo ilungelo lokumangalela nayiphi na okanye acele uncedo lwakhe. Ubuhlobo bokwenene bubona ukuqonda okufanayo. Ngako oko, umhlobo oyinyaniso uya kuhlala ekhumbula ukuba kwiimeko ezinzima kufuneka usebenze njengokuba kungcono kumhlobo, kwaye kungenjalo ukuba angazibopheli. Ewe, ngaphandle kwezo ziimeko apho sibona ukuba umntu unako ukwenza izinto ezingenangqondo. Kule meko, umhlobo ogqwesileyo unyanzelekile ukuba aqinisekise, uncede, unyanzele, umtsalane ngokoqobo kumntu onjalo, ukuze umntu ahlaziye ngokucokisekileyo yonke into aze aqonde ukuba ngokuhluleka komnye, ubomi ngokucacileyo alupheli.
Inkukhu ehlaziwayo kunye nesiqingatha kwisiqingatha
Umhlobo omhle uhlala enelungelo lokucela ukwabelana ngokugqibela, kwaye kufuneka anikezele oku okugqibela. Kule meko, umbuzo wamalungelo kunye nemisebenzi ngokuqhelekileyo uyandila. Emva koko, ukuba ukhangela kwelinye icala, ke wonke umntu unelungelo lokushiya ilizwe. Uhlobo oluhle luya kuba lukhuni luze luze luze lukhuphe yonke into ehlala kuyo kumhlobo wakhe, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba unethuba, uya kuzalisa ngokukhawuleza yonke into enomdla.Ukuba abantu bebahlobo ixesha elide kwaye baninzi, intloko ayifiki into engafanele ukwabelana ngayo okanye ubuze, nokuba ingafumaneka yini na into. Inyaniso kukuba abahlobo abakhulu bomhla banamalungelo afanayo kunye nemisebenzi njengamalungu entsapho enye. Kuya kumangalisa ukuba udade wam wabuza umntakwethu ukuba kukho into enokuthi ithathwe okanye ayingayiboni nayo. Ewe, ukuba le yintsapho eqhelekileyo enobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu. Kwenzeka kwakhona phakathi kwabahlobo abakhulu. Baye basebenzisa ukwabelana ngezinto zonke baze bacinge nangento abanelungelo kunye neentlawulo zabo, benza nje oko kufanele ukuba.
Kubalulekile ukuba ngumntu kumzuzu onzima
Umhlobo wenene ngumntu oyifunayo ngexesha elinzima. La magama avela kwingoma yabantwana ngokwenene inyaniso. Intsingiselo yenkonzo kukuba sinelungelo nanini na ukubuyela kumhlobo ngoncedo, kwaye kufuneka afikelele ekuhlanguleni. Nangona i-ntsimbi yesithathu ekuseni, iqhwa likhawuleza kwaye iqondo lokushisa liye lahla ukuya ngaphaya kwemashumi mane, umhlobo uza kuza, ukuba uyazi ukuba uyabuhlungu kwaye awuyi kuyenza ngaphandle kwakhe. ukusebenzisa ububele bomntu kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyisondeza kunoma yimuphi umdlalo omncinci. Kodwa ukuba kukho into ebalulekileyo eyenzekayo, sisoloko sibhekisela kwiintsapho zethu okanye kumhlobo wethu omhle. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba izalamane aziyi kuphendula kwisicelo ngendlela umhlobo enza ngayo. Njengoko bathi, asikhethi iintsapho, kodwa sinokukhetha abahlobo. Kwaye ukuba sele simkhethile, ngoko sinelungelo lokulindela inkxaso yakhe yonke kuye, kwaye siyazi ukuba ukuba uyayidinga, siya kunika yonke into kwaye sikhuphe ukunceda. Ewe, eqinisweni, kufuneka sikwenze oku, kodwa ngokwenene, xa uyazi ukuba kukhona into embi eyenzekayo nomntu osondeleyo, ngoko awucingi ngemisebenzi, kodwa nje awukwazi ukuhlala uphinde ubukele ngokuzenzele.
Enyanisweni, kunzima ukuthetha ngamalungelo kunye neembopheleleko zabahlobo, kuba iimvakalelo kunye nesimo sengqondo asilula lula ukutshala imali ethile kwifomathi. Kunoko, sithetha nje malunga nendlela umntu aziphatha ngayo ukuba uyazijonga njengomhlobo olungcono. Enyanisweni, xa siza kunceda, xa sizama ukwenza konke kumntu, kwanokuba sithintela, xa iimfuno zakhe kwixesha elithile liphakamileyo kunezethu, kwaye ngelo xesha asiyikucinga ukuba ngubani othe tye kwaye ngubani onetyala - lo buhlobo bokwenene kwizinto ezintle , okufuneka uyiqonde ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye.