Kukho uluvo lokuba indoda inoma yiphi na ubudala ikhetha iqabane elincinci, kunye nomfazi-onamava, kwaye ngoko ke umlingani ophezulu. Kodwa ngokwezifundo ezenziwe e-US, amadoda namabhinqa babeza kukhetha ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nabalingani abaselula, ukuba oku akuzange kubangele ukugwetywa okunjalo kwabanye.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba indoda ikhulile kunesiqingatha sesibini okanye ubudala bayo. Ulwahlulo olukhulu kwiminyaka yobudala ngokwesini, aluhlali luqondwa, kwaye kaninzi lugwetywa ngabanye. Kwaxa kunjalo, iHippocrates yazisa ingcamango "ye-gerecomia", echaza ubomi bobulili bomntu oqolileyo kunye nentombazana encinci, enomphumela wokuvuselela indoda.
Kwiinkonzo ezininzi, ukuhlukana kakhulu kweentlobo zesini kwezobudlelwane ngokwesondo kubonwa njengendlela yokuvuselela amadoda. Kwimbali, kukho iimeko xa ngaba amapapa ngokusebenzisa iminwe yabo babheka ubulili besilisa kunye namantombazana amancinci, ngakumbi iintombi. Ngesi sizathu, iRoma rhoqo izisa iintombi ukuba zisebenze emakhaya azintlunkulu.
KwiGrisi lasendulo, amanqaku amaninzi atyebi ahambisana nemibono efanayo. Banikwa abafana abaneminyaka engama-12 ukuya kwe-14 abangakaze balalane ngesondo, nokuba ngabalala ngokwesini okanye abantu besini, okwakunzima ngokwaneleyo ngelo xesha eGrisi. Kwakukholelwa ukuba inkwenkwe yayingakhonza "njengonyango lokuguga" kwiintsuku ezili-10 zokuqala emva kokulahlekelwa ubuntombi bakhe kumfazi owayengamava okokuqala ngesondo. Xa iintsuku ezili-10 umntwana ephelile, ephethe izipho ezininzi, wakhululwa ekhaya. Iintombi zaluxabiseke kakhulu kuba abazali abazange bathabathe njengento ehlazo ukunika le nkwenkwe endlwini yendoda ecebileyo iintsuku ezili-10.
Ukuba eYurophu ibhinqa yayingacingwa ngentsholongwane kwaye isoloko ibanjwe kwimbono yokuba iyingxenye yendoda, ngoko-ke eMpuma, imfundiso yenkolo engaqondakaliyo ethi Tao (oku kuthetha "indlela") ifundisa ukuba umlinganiselo omkhulu wobulili Ubudlelwane buya kunandisa ulutsha, lukulungele ukuchaphazela uluntu nokulondoloza ubomi. Abaxhasi beTao bahlala eChina naseJapan.
Umlinganiselo weTaoism ukuya kwisondo unengqiqo: ubomi obunempilo ngokwesini buyakwazi ukuvuselela umntu, kwaye ukungaphumeleli kuyona isizathu sokunciphisa ubunzima bakhe. Esi siphelo sasendulo sasigcinwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo ngamachiza aseYurophu, kunye namava abo ngabanye bethu.
Enye yeengcamango eziphambili zeTaoism ulwalamano lwe-Oktobha-ngoMeyi, oku kuthetha ukuba ubudlelwane bezokwabelana ngesondo nabalingani abanemibandela enkulu yobudala. Kwaye le mehluko yobudala ingaba yiminyaka engama-50 okanye ngaphezulu, kwi-dao ingagxininisi kwisini somlingane onamava.
Ngokutsho kweTaoism, kwintombi "indoda eqolileyo - intombazana encinci", indoda izama ukuxela ibhinqa layo ngamava ngesondo, kwaye inempembelelo enhle kwizakhono zakhe zesondo nolutsha kunye nokukhathazeka. Kwibini "umfazi okhulileyo - insizwa", umfazi ufundisa iqabane lobuchule besondo, kwaye yena, ngenxa yexesha elide kunye nesondo, uyanelisa umlingane. Ngaloo ndlela, umehluko kwiminyaka uyakwazi ukuvuyisa abo babini amaqabane.
Uhlobo oluphela kwintsebenzo kaMeyi-Oktobha kufuneka lukhange kunye nokuzithandela kwiintlobano zesini. Ngokutsho kweTaoism, ngokuzikhethela ngokuzithandela, amaqhawe namabhinqa ahlangene, uJan no-Yin, onomdla kumacandelo abo bobabini. Umkhulu omkhulu umahluko, unamandla kunamandla, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo, ngaphezulu umntu angakwazi ukulahlekelwa amandla angenakubuyiselwa, ukuba loo ntokazi ayinelisekile ngokwaneleyo, ishiywe inganelisekanga okanye ithatha inxaxheba ekusebenzisaneni ngokwesini. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, ubuhlobo obunjalo beyona nto eyona nto iphambili yokufezekiswa ngokwesondo, ingakumbi kwinxalenye yindoda yabemi.
Namhlanje, xa isimo sengqondo semicimbi esondeleyo ikhululekile kwaye ikhululekile, ukwahlukana kwabatshatileyo abaneminyaka embalwa abantu bayamangalisa okanye bangela ukugwetywa. Ngoko, umzekelo, uCharlie Chaplin utshatile u-Une O'Neal oneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo eneminyaka eyi-58. Nangona babeneminyaka engama-40 ubudala ubudala, babethandana ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye babenabantwana.
Amacala okuhlukana kweminyaka yobudala, xa iqabane lidala kunomyeni wakhe, aluqhelekanga, kwaye kunzima ukuchaza imizekelo yemitshato ephakathi kwabesetyhini abadumileyo. Kodwa ebomini bethu bemihla ngemihla, umntu unokunika imizekelo yemitshato xa umfazi uneminyaka emininzi emdala kunesiqingatha sesibini. Mna, umzekelo, ndinamaqabane atshatileyo iminyaka engaphezu kwe-15, kwaye umfazi uneminyaka eli-17 ubudala kunomyeni wakhe.
Kodwa kukho konke oku ngasentla, umntu makangacingi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuseka ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nabantu bezizukulwana ezahlukeneyo. Ukwahlukana kweminyaka engama-10 phakathi kwabatshatileyo kunokusenokukhathalalwa kude kube neminyaka eyi-50, xa kuqalwe ukuphuma kwesisu, kuya kuvela. Kwaye ke iimfuno ezahlukileyo zingaba ngumqobo ongenakunqunyulwa kwiintsebenziswano zabatshatileyo, kuba iminyaka yobudala iphinda ibonelele iminqweno yomntu. Ngoko ke, intsapho iqine, iminqweno yabatshatileyo apho, ukuba ingahambelani ngokupheleleyo, isondele.
Ngako oko, kungcono ukudala intsapho kunye nomntu oneminyaka elifanayo kunye nawe, kwaye ulwalamano lwangoMeyi-Oktobha luya kuhlala kubakhethiweyo. Kodwa ke, ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene umntu-zithatha ingozi. Yenza yonke into yakho kwiminqweno yakho ihlale iququzelele kwaye idale intsapho enonwabileyo naphezu kwayo yonke into onokuyithintela.