Njengoko uyazi, isondo esahlukanisa uthando kunye nobuhlobo bomtshato phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi ovela kumhlobo olula. Emva kwakho konke, ukusekwa kobudlelwane bobulili obufudumele kunye nobumbano, akwanele nje ukulandela izilwanyana zakho zesini, esizizuze kwifa. Kwintlalo yanamhlanje, ubudlelwane bezesondo bubaluleke ngakumbi kunaphambili.
Ngokomzekelo oyimifanekiso, awukwazi ukuya kude - cinga, kwaye zingaphi iimfihlo zobudlelwane bezocansi zaxoxa ngenyameko kunye nogogo nomkhulu okanye ngabazali bakho? Ngokubanzi, uluntu namhlanje lwenza iimfuno ezikhethekileyo zesondo, njengokungathi zichaze ikhowudi ekhethekileyo kunye nemithetho yokuziphatha ebhedeni, nangona ukuba izizukulwana zangaphambili zibukeka zihluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubulili obuhle kakhulu kubaluleke kakhulu kubo bobabini.
Kubalulekile ukuba umntu oqhelekileyo ahlale evakalelwa kukuba iqabane lakhe lilalana naye ngokungaphantsi kwakhe. Ukuba indoda ibona ukuba iqabane, ukulibeka ngenyameko, ayiyikuthandana ngokuphathelele ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye naye, ngokuqhelekileyo unesimo sengqondo esinokukhathazeka. Ibhinqa elungileyo lezesondo libaluleke kakhulu kumfazi, kungekhona kunomntu, kodwa imfuno enamandla kakhulu yobudlelwane bezesondo ivela kuphela xa uthando lwe-platonic selufikile, xa kuvele amava omzwe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kukho into ebangel 'umdla echaphazela abantu abaninzi - ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bezesondo kunye nabasetyhini baninzi kakhulu kumatshini kunye nenkqubo yoqhagamshelwano lwezesondo aluhlali ixesha elide kuye, kodwa kwimeko yesini esilungileyo le nto iyahluke. Indlela elula yokubonisa oku kukumzekelo - xa umyeni omncinci ebuyela ekhaya emva kokungabikho ixesha elide (umzekelo, emva kohambo lwezoshishino), ufuna ukulala naye nomfazi ngokukhawuleza, nangona ibhinqa ibaluleke ngaphezu kokuthetha naye, ukwazi ukuba imicimbi yendoda yakhe, yintoni iindaba wazisa, kwaye yodwa yenze uthando. Ngokungaqondakaliyo okanye ukungakwazi ukuhlukana kwengqondo kwizesondo kunokukhokelela ekubeni umntu uya kuziva ukuba unqatshelwe, kwaye umfazi unokuziva ukuba usebenzisa, kungekhona yena, kodwa umzimba wakhe kuphela.
Ngokubanzi, ukuba ucinga ngento encinane, isondo phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi kuyinkqubo enomdla, apho ininzi yabasetyhini kubalulekile kungekuphela nje ukuthintana nomoya kunye nomoya kunye neqabane lakho, kodwa nokuba uvakalelwa njani kwaye uyayiqonda iimfuno zesithandane.
Ukwabelana ngesondo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi: inyaniso enomdla
Ngoku makhe sixoxe ngendlela abafazi namadoda abava ngayo impumelelo yabo okanye ukungaphumeleli kwisini. Amadoda athambekele ekuhloliseni impumelelo okanye ukungaphumeleli kobudlelwane obusondeleyo ngoluphi uhlobo lweengcambu zowesifazane ophumelele ngexesha le nkqubo. Ukuba ibhinqa ayinayo imiqondiso yecalagasm esondelayo, kuba indoda yinkomba yokuba wenza into engalunganga. Nangona kunjalo, le nto ayinjalo kuzo zonke iimeko, kuba abafazi abakwazi ukufikelela kwi-orgasm rhoqo xa besondelene, nangona oku akuthethi ukuba abahlali bengathandabuhlobo, ngokungafani namadoda anako ukufikelela kwi-orgasm nayiphi na into yesondo.
Nangona kunjalo, yintoni eyenza ukuba ubudlelwane bezesondo bukhunjulwe kwaye buhambelane, yintoni eya kunceda bahluke "ngokwesondo" esiqhelekileyo? Phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini, uphando lwentlalo luqhutywe, oluvelisa iziphumo ezinomdla. Ngokomzekelo, amaninzi amadoda athatyathwa ukuthetha malunga nokuba baninzi kangakanani umzamo abawenzile ukuzisa iqabane labo kwi-orgasm, ngelixa i-sexes ezibuthathaka zihlawula ngakumbi ingqalelo, kwimeko yokomoya, ehamba phambili, kwaye kungekhona kwimimandla yayo yenyama abo.
Kunokugqitywa ukuba amadoda kunye nabasetyhini bafuna kwaye bazama into efanayo, kodwa bazama ukwenza okungafaniyo, kwaye kaninzi ngokubanzi, kunye neendlela ezichaseneyo. Esi sihlandlo esona sizathu esona sizathu esikhulu sokungaqondani phakathi kwezesondo.
Ngako oko, bonke abanobudlelwane bezocansi, unokunika iingcebiso ukuba zivelele ngokwakho kuphela, kodwa nakwiqabane lakho.