Masiqale ngokulandelelana. Yintoni eseleyo ngoku kwimithetho edibeneyo yomlando? Ewe, ngoku, njengangaphambili, umthetho othi umfana ungumkhuseli, umcebisi kunye neqhawe, uhleli. Amantombazana akhathazekile, oomama onothando, izidalwa ezithandayo. Kodwa ekukhanyeni kweenguqu zobuchwepheshe, ezobuchwepheshe, ezentlalo nezoqoqosho, yonke into iyatshintsha ngokungaqhelekanga. Kuhlala umbuzo ofanayo: yintoni umehluko phakathi kwamadoda kunye namantombazana?
Umfana ungumcebisi, usebenza, ufumana umsebenzi ogqithiseleyo uncedo lokuqinisekisa ubomi bakhe nobomi bakhe bathandekayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bafumana imali ngemisebenzi yesikhokelo, baxhamli be-Soviet theory ukuba amandla ezandleni zabo, abalandeli behlabathi banamhlanje bafumana iindlela zokufumana ezinye iindlela, ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwamandla emzimbeni. Amantombazana asetyenziswa kakhulu iimpawu zabo zemvelo, ukubonakala, ukuthabatha, ukuxhamla. Lo umehluko kwindawo yokuqala. Le ntombazana iya kufumana indlela elula yokufumana, ngaphandle kokubeka imizamo ekhethekileyo, le ngcamango ayilunganga kuphela kwimeko yabafundi bezemisebenzi, apho umsebenzi kunye nokuphumelela kwamaphuzu emisebenzi kubaluleke ngaphezu kokuziphatha kwabo.
Ukwahlukana phakathi kwamantombazana kunye namantombazana kuhlanganiswe ekubonweni kwehlabathi kunye neengozi, kwaye ngokukhethekileyo ukuthanda. Abafana bakholelwa ukuba ukuphalaza kuzo zonke iintlobo zezinto zothando akuyiyo imbopheleleko engapheliyo yokuphucula ubudlelwane, kodwa kuphela umvuzo wokugubha. Oko kukuthi, xa ulungiselele isidlo sothando okanye wenze isipho esimnandi, kuya kuhambelana nayo nayiphi iholide, kwaye kungekhona nje loo nto! Amantombazana asekulungele ukukhwaza ubuchopho babo, indlela yokwenza intlanganiso, isidlo sakusihlwa, ubusuku buyintandokazi, ayikhunjulwa. Ewe, ukulinda impendulo kwimpendulo ethi "Siyabonga, ndithandekayo, uyilungiselele yonke into enomdla," asiyi kuphelelwa lithemba, kungekhona ukuyiva ekugqibeleni. Emva kwakho konke, ukuzama ukuyenza ibe mnandi kuye, sifuna ukuba ekugqibeleni kwakumnandi kuthi.
Xa sibona umfana omhle, simele senze izilumkiso malunga nokuba unokuba yinduna. Lo umehluko phakathi kwethu, amantombazana kunye nabafana. Siyabona iigobolondo ezihle, ngamanye amaxesha zihlakaniphile, maxa wambi zivuyisa, ngamanye amaxesha zithembekileyo, kodwa kwisibini sokuqala, asixhamli ukubaluleka ekuzaliseni le ngqobhoko, engenakuyithandeka njenge-praline, kodwa i-spaline ecocekileyo ngeenongo. Abafana babona oko bakufunayo, bawulungele ntoni kwaye baya kuhambelana nabo ekupheleni. Abafana banelisekile ngumboniso wokhetho lwabo, kwaye kutheni, kuba wonke umntu uya kuba nomona intombi enhle. Lo umehluko. Intombi iphupha malunga nekamva, abafana banelisekile ngoku.
Umbono wokuhluleka kobuqu uhlukile. Ukwahlula kukuba ekucingeni kwamantombazana oku kusebenzayo-akuzange isebenze, kakuhle, kulungile, awuyi kucinga kakhulu. Ngaba ngaba abafana - ngaba ndingayiphumeleli njani, kufuneka ndibe nenombolo enye, enye indlela ayihambisani nayo? Ngulo mmahluko phakathi kwethu, bafana kunye namantombazana, asiyikuxhoma, intlungu encinci, siya phambili ukuya kwizinto ezintsha kunye nempumelelo, zifana nabantu abafanayo, balungele ukuchitha iintsuku, iiveki, iinyanga, eziza kulwa njengentlanzi e-ice, ngethemba lokufumana oko bafuna. Kodwa ke, masingakulibali ukuba ngenxa yokufezekisa injongo, thina, amantombazana, silungele naluphi na ubugqwetha, izigxeko kunye nokucaphukisa.
Thina amantombazana ahluke kubafana kuba siyakwazi ukufumana ukunambitheka kwabo. Siya kubhekisela kuzo zonke iintlobo zezindlela kunye neendlela zokuphuma ngaphandle ngaphandle kwesihlwele, ukukhunjulwa. Asikhiphi ukubonakala ngathi sisisigxina, sinqabileyo kwaye sinesibindi, kuba injongo yethu kukuba siyabonwa kwaye sixoxwe. Ifanelana nabafana xa yonke into ihamba ngayo ngaphandle kokuphazamisa indawo yabo. Ewe, ukuba azinjalo iindonga okanye iinkwenkwezi zezemidlalo, kule nto yonke into iyahluke, kuba ngokwemiqathango ye-PR bayilungele nantoni na, izenzo ezingakumbi ezingenakuthenjwa njengeengonyama ezibubuxoki zingakwazi ukuzenza. Lo umehluko phakathi kwesini.
Musa ukulibala malunga ne-mania yethu rhoqo. Ukutya! Wonke umntu uyayazi eli gama, siyikwesaba kwaye siyayithanda ekugqibeleni. Amantombazana ahlale exakeke ngokubonakala kwawo, umlinganiso, lowo siza kwenza umboniso kwintlanganiso yokuqala. Silungiswa kwiikhilogram zethu, imiqulu, ubukhulu, ukuba asilungele ukutya nto kwaye sihlala emanzini afanayo, ukuba singene embuqweni omnyama omnyama ukuze sinqobe umntu wethu. Yikuphi ekugqibeleni awuqapheli umahluko nokuba ngaba ulahle iikhilogram enye, okanye ezininzi. Kule idibene kunye nokunciphisa. Ngakumbi ukuba basibona kwaye bathande into enjalo. Ngeenzuzo kunye neentsilelo, kodwa ukuphazamiseka kukuba abayikuyiqonda loo mizamo enzima esiyenzile. Amakhwenkwe ngokwemvelo ayakhathazeki malunga nokuba ayenyuka kwiian zabo namhlanje okanye cha. Benyuka - kakuhle, hayi-ndiya kuhamba ndithenga amatsha, mhlawumbi i jeans ibe yincinci. Akunandaba nokuba lihle kangakanani, liyinyaniso. Kithina, indlela yokuloba elwandle lolwandle ithi - ngokwaneleyo ukuba udle, zithathe ngesandla, phambili ukuya kwenza umzobo. Kwabo - i-hooray, ixesha le-beach uvulekile, amantombazana e-bikini, akunandaba nokuba ndinexesha elibi lokusela ubhiya. Lo umehluko phakathi kwethu, abafana kunye namantombazana.
Omnye umehluko phakathi kwethu ubuhlobo bethu komnye nomnye. Sinjengemimemoni silinda abantu bethu, siyaqinisekisa ukuba zihlambulukile, zihlanjwe, zihlanjululwe, zicocekile, ukuze sivuyiswe ukuba kunye nabo, kwaye akuyihlazo ukubonisa abantu nokuba. Amakhwenkwe adlala kakhulu indima kabawo, into engabonakaliyo, intloko engatshintshiyo yentsapho ejongene nayo yonke into kwaye ithande ukubaluleka kwayo. Akunandaba nokuba zibonakaliswa njani, zikhokelela ekukhetheni umatshini omtsha, ukukhetha izambatho zemidlalo entsha yokudlala indima, into eyona nto kukuba ilizwi labo lilo lokugqibela. Ngenxa yobuqhetseba bethu, sinako ukusebenzisa le mfanelo yabafana, sidlala, sithetha phakathi kwemizila ekugqibeleni sifumana oko sifuna, siyanelisa izifiso zabo nokwaneliseka.
Phakathi kweempawu ezininzi eziqhelekileyo neziqhelekileyo esinokukwazi ukuphatha abantu abalungileyo, kwaye nabo benza ngokufanelekileyo kwaye bavumela ukuba sikwenze oku. Esi siqinisekiso sovuyo kunye nobudlelwane obuphumelelayo phakathi kwethu. Oku kufana nokwahlukana phakathi kwamadoda kunye namantombazana.