Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lunombono, zama ngokunyanisekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba uthethe kunye nomlingane wakho malunga nogogo kunye nomona. Yabelana ngendlela ozibona ngayo iintlanganiso zakho kunye namanye amadoda nendlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngokuthandana nomlingane wakho nabanye abafazi. Mhlawumbi uthatha isigqibo sokugqiba umanyano womnye. Ngaphandle koko, zama ukufikelela kwesivumelwano, usebenzise imithetho ethile - umzekelo:
1. Ukujonga ngesondo kunye nokudlala ngothando nabanye abantu ngaphandle kokubandakanyeka kwemvakalelo kwaye bavumelane kwangaphambili ekuvunyelwene kweziganeko kwiimeko ezithile.
2. Ukungena kwiintlobano zesini kuphela ongaqhelekanga kubo bobabini abantu, okanye ngaphandle kwesixeko sakho, okanye nabantu ongenalo uthando kubo.
3. Ngamanye amaqabane anelungelo lomntu omnye "okhululekile" ubusuku ngeveki.
4. Musa ukuxoxa ngeenkcukacha zesondo "ezongezelelweyo" okanye ukufihla ngokupheleleyo into eyenzekayo kumlingane. Qinisekisa ukuba uyavuma malunga nendlela oza kuqonda ngayo iindaba malunga noxhamlwano lokwenene okanye olucingayo ukuba kukho "umonakalo wolwazi".
5. Ukuba unenjongo yokwenza into ehamba ngaphaya komsebenzi wakho oqhelekileyo, xelela umlingane kwangaphambili.
6. Njalo qaphela ukuba uhlale uthembekile kwaye uthembele.
Ukuguqulelwa ngu A. Gerasimov "Indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu"