Ziziphi iintombi ezifana namadoda okwenene

Ngesinye isikhathi, indoda esondelene nayo yathi kum: "Uzenza kakubi. Ibhinqa limele libonakala libuthathaka, ukuze amadoda afune ukumnceda. Andikwazi ukulingana! "Emva kokucinga ngako, ndaziqonda ukufaneleka kwakhe, kwaye, njengoko ndinako, ndizama ukulandela lo mgaqo. Kwaye ngoku okokuqala ngqa intombazana eneminyaka eyi-16 iwile ngothando.

Kwaye ukhathazeka kakhulu ukuba "umxholo" weemvakalelo zakhe awubonakali ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwaye ndaphinda ndacinga: luhlobo luni lwabasetyhini abanamadoda okwenene?

Kuyaziwa ukuba iingcamango zobuhle zihluke kakhulu kumazwe ahlukeneyo nakwezinye iindidi ezahlukahlukeneyo, loo ntombazana ebenesondo ebudeni beeminyaka eminci edlulileyo ngoku iyabonwa njengabantu abanesidenge. Kwaye kwaziwa ngokucacileyo ukuba ubuhle abuyikumisela umdla wabantu. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ubuhle obukhethekileyo buhlala bubodwa, kwaye "imvumba egciniweyo" engabonakaliyo yonwabile kwintsapho kwaye ijikelezwe yindoda. Iyaziwayo "90-60-90" zitsalisa izimvo zabantu, kodwa zisoyike iinjongo ezinzulu.

Ukujonga amantombazana amakhwenkceksi kwiinkampani ezimnandi, unokucinga ukuba abafazi abanjalo bathanda amadoda. Kodwa ubomi buphikisa le ngcamango. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuyacaca ukuba ngaba bahlobo abaphukileyo aba "bafumana amava". Uze utshatile, njengomthetho, ngokuqinisekileyo kwabanye.

Ngoko ke banjani abafazi abakhangayo ngokwenene amadoda? Amadoda okwenene anqwenelekayo kuthi, amantombazana amantombazana aphezulu kunye nokuphakama. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqalisa oko kuyimfuneko ukuqonda oko sithethayo ngokuthi "indoda yangempela". Ukuqwalasela iziphumo zovavanyo lweentlobo (kunye nabafazi kunye namadoda), le ndoda:

Ubuhle ngexesha elifanayo bekunokugqibela kuloluhlu, kwaye akukho nhlobo. Yaye ukuba nangomntu wendoda yonke into iyacaca, ihlala ifuna ukuqonda kwayo "umfazi wokwenene".

Uphando oluninzi lubonise ukuba amadoda okwenene axabisa abafazi bathanda. Bathanda abafazi abakhayo, ukuzithemba, ukuzithemba, nokusebenza. Abathembekileyo bokwenene abanokwazi ukuba yiqabane eliqinileyo nakwiyiphi na ishishini abazimeleyo kwaye abayidingi ukunakekelwa okukhulu kumadoda. Abafazi abanjalo banokwemvelo, ababonakaliswa ngumdla okanye ukuzibhokoxa, ukulila, ukuhlaziywa kunye ne-infantilism.

Kodwa ngelo xesha umfazi kufuneka ahlale engumfazi. Indoda kufuneka iziva iqinile, ibe yinkokheli. Isiko esineminyaka elidala asinakuguqulwa. Yingakho kungekho mnqweno okwenkqonkqo ohlala ezama ukuphazamisa iqabane. Nangona umfazi uphumelele kwishishini, inxaxheba yomfazi nomama kulindeleke kuye kwintsapho: umgcini onakekelayo. Amadoda okwenene abanjengabafazi abadibanisa abafazi abangakwazi ukuziphatha ngokwale meko. Bayakwazi ukuba yi-bastards ukufezekisa injongo, abanjengezoshishino kunye nokuqonda emsebenzini wabo, kodwa ekhaya bazinikela ilungelo lokuvota kumyeni othandekayo. Ukuze kube yinto efanelekileyo, ibhinqa idinga umonde nobulumko.

Kuyacaca ukuba, iimpawu ezinjalo ziza kuba nobudala namava. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba amantombazana amantombazana alahlekelwa ngabafazi abavuthiweyo. Ubudlelwane, ubuhle bokuhamba ngokukhawuleza, ukuvisisana kwangaphakathi kunye nokuvuleka, kunye nomnqweno wokuzihlakulela, kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni. Ngoko ke, nangona uyingumfana osemncinci, unako ukuhlwaya iintliziyo zabantu kungekubi nakakhulu kunamadoda amakhulu.

Yaye nolwazi luni na uhlobo lwowesifazane olufana namadoda okwenene luya kunceda ekukhetheni isikhokelo sokuphucula.