Isimo sobulumko ebomini babantu abakujikelezile

Eyona nto ihamba phambili, siyazi thina. Okanye sicinga nje. Iingcali zengqondo zifumanise: abo bajikelezileyo bavavanya ukukhanga kwethu, ukuqonda kunye nokugcina ixesha. Isimo sobulumko ebomini babantu abakujikelezile sihloko kwinqaku.

Iingcali zengqondo zafika kwisigqibo: ukungabi nabulungisa akukho. Kulungile, ubuncinci ubuhlobo. Ukunyusa, ukunikela kwesandla kunye nentliziyo yindlela abasabela ngayo ngokukhawuleza kwabanye ekuziphatheni kwethu. Yaye ukuba ukuzithiba kwethu kuhambelane nokuvavanywa kwabanye, iingxaki ezininzi zaphephelwa. U-Simain Wazer, intloko yeLebhu yoBuntu kunye noLwazi loLwazi kwiYunivesithi yaseWashington, wathi: "Abantu bakholelwa ukuba bayazi kakuhle kakuhle, kuba bayazi kakuhle iimbali zobomi babo kunabanye. Nangona kunjalo, loo mntu akanayo nantoni edlulileyo. Kukho okwenyani kumzuzu wamanje. " Asinakucinga ukuba sijonga njani ngaphandle: umzekelo, ukuba sinemikhwa emibi ukukhawuleza kwaye siyaphazanyise umdibaniselwano. Nangona ukukhangeka kwethu, ukuqonda, ukuhlalisana, ukugcina ixesha, asikho nto. Emva kokuseka ingxelo kwabanye, unokuziqonda kakuhle. Emva koko, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, asikwazi ukuhlola ezinye iimpawu zethu zobuntu ngaphandle kokunceda ngaphandle. Ukuze uqonde imigaqo-siseko yobomi bomntu, u-Wazir ucebisa ukubonisa isangqa ehlukaniswe kumacandelo amane.

Kubonakala kubo bonke abantu

Emva kokuthetha nawe nje imizuzu embalwa, unokugqiba ukuba ngaba unomdla okanye unobuninzi, u-materialist okanye u-idealist. Uphando luye lwabonisa ukuba iimpawu ezinjengezenzo zentlalo zihlolwe ngokulinganayo ngolu hlobo ngumntu kunye nendalo yakhe. Yintoni engaziwayo kuwe okanye kwabanye. Ngokuqhelekileyo izizathu zokuziphatha zakho zingena kuyo. Ngokomzekelo, iinjongo ezinobungozi zingabangelwa ngenxa yomnqweno wokubonisa ubungqina kubazali ukuba bakugxeke ebuntwaneni.

Iinjongo kunye neemvakalelo

Bayazi kakuhle ngathi, kodwa ababonakali kwabanye. Uzoyika xa usendaweni exakekile. Kodwa abanye bacinga ukucinga: usithe cwaka kwiqela, kuba ucinga-akukho bantu abafanelekile ukunakwa.

Eyona mincili kakhulu

Le ngecala yobuntu bethu owaziwayo kuphela kwabanye. Oku kufaka ulwazi ngolwazi, ukukhanga, ubuhlobo, inceba, ukugcina ixesha. Xa sivavanya ezi mpawu, sihlala siphosakele.

Ubulumko

Abazali bethu bavavanya ukuqonda kwethu kuqala. Ibinzana elithi "wena unobulumko" ligxininiswe ngokusisigxina kwingqondo kwaye yakha ingcamango yobuchule bakho bengqondo. Njengoko ikhula, ixhaswa ngoluvo lwabafundisi, ootitshala, abahlobo. "Ukudumisa kunye nokuncoma esikugcinayo ngokugqithiseleyo kwiibhokhwe ze-subconscious, kwaye asiyithathi impendulo engafanelekanga," kuchaza isazi seengqondo kunye nomqeqeshi wezorhwebo u-Irina Baranova. "Emva koko, ukungabi nantoni kufuneke kusebenze kuthi, kwaye sineliseke ngokwenene." Ngenxa yoko, siyazichukumisa ukuqonda kwethu. Kwengqondo yomntu kukho umzabalazo oqhubekayo phakathi kwamabini "I": "Ndiphelele" kwaye "Ndiyinyani". I-psyche yethu ukususela ebuntwaneni ibotshwa ngenxa yobomi kuluntu kwiimeko zokhuphiswano oluphezulu. Ukuqonda ukuba uyisichukuphuku kunokuba abanye bavumelana nokutshatyalaliswa. Yingakho "ndiyinyaniso" engqondweni yethu ihlala ithathelwa indawo ngokuthi "Ndiphelele". Olu hlobo lendlela yokukhusela. " Iingcamango ziqinisekiswa ngumphumo wovavanyo kwiYunivesithi yaseWashington. Abafundi abaningana banikezelwa umsebenzi wokuchonga ngokuchanekileyo ukubaluleka kwe-IQ yabo, ize idlule uvavanyo. Uvavanyo oluboniswe ngabathathi-nxaxheba luphezulu ngaphezu kwamanani. Yaye xa izazinzulu zabuza abahlobo ukuba baqikelele i-IQ yezifundo zovavanyo, iimpendulo zihambelana neziphumo zovavanyo.

U mtsalane

Iikhrayitheriya esimele siyigwebe ngokubonakala kwethu, ukuhlaselayo ziyancipha. "Xa sisebuntwaneni, sifunda iindinyana zamakhosazana kunye neengqungquthela ezikhethiweyo kunye namehlo ebhakabhaka. Kwaye sasiphupha ukuba sibe efanayo. Kamva kwiimbono zethu zobuhle zazingqongqo ngempembelelo enobudlova beendaba. Ngoku sinokukholwa ngokuqinisekileyo (nangona singazivumeli thina) ukuba imilomo, iinwele kunye namehlo kufana no-Angelina Jolie, uPenelope Cruz kunye no-Uma Thurman. Ngamnye wethu unomzekelo wesimo sokuheha, kwaye sinokuziqikelela kuphela, ngokusekelwe kuwo, "kusho u-psychologist uKarina Basharova. Ngoxa sigweba imbonakalo yethu kwi-mirror kunye neefoto ezingaphumelelanga, abantu abajikelezileyo bawela phantsi kokuphelelwa kwamandla ethu, ukubonakalisa ubuso, ubuso. U-Alena wayehlala ecinga ukukhanya kwamakhanda amnyama (apho aqhubeka eqondiswe ngokutshiza i-ironing imihla ngemihla). Kuze kube yilapho iqela lihlelwe ngengozi ingxoxo yabahlobo, abaye bayamthanda iipopu zakhe ezidlala kwaye bazisola ukuba u-Alena wayebeka ingqalelo ngokunyamezela iinwele zakhe.

Nge ntlonipho

Ukufuna ukwenza ukucinga kakuhle, ukuthetha, sikhetha ngokucophelela amagama. Kodwa emva kwayo yonke into, loo mabinzana angabonwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ngenxa yegama, ukubetha kwezwi, ukuhamba kwemisipha. Ezi nkcukacha zingaphezu kweembono zethu, kodwa zibonakala ngokucacileyo kumntu odibanisa naye. Ukongezelela, ukuhlonipha lixesha lezentlalo, kuxhomekeka kakhulu kumxholo kunye nenkcubeko. Ngomntu oyedwa, unokwazi ukuvuma, ukumemeza ngokukhawuleza "Ubomi bunjani?", Kwaye uya kuyiphatha ngokufanelekileyo, kunye nomnye kufuneka athethe ngelizwi eliphantsi kunye nawe.

Ukugcina ixesha

Abantu abangenakukwazi ukuhamba ngokuhamba ngexesha abaninzi kakhulu. Kodwa kutheni, sele sifikile? U-Irina Baranova uyaqiniseka: ukulingana kokugcina ixesha kwisicangca ngasinye soonxibelelwano esiyifumene ngabanye. Umzekelo, unokutyelela intombazana ngeyure kamva, kodwa ukuba udliwano-ndlebe nomsebenzi omtsha, kufuneka uvele kwisiqingatha seyure ngaphambili. Siwahlula abantu ngokubaluleka kwabo, kwaye ke siwabeka phambili kwizinga elingenasicatshulwa: siphuthuma ngomhla, sidibanisa wonke umntu endleleni yabo, okanye sihamba ngokugqithiseleyo siye kwi-cafe esondeleyo, sikhohlwe ngokupheleleyo ukuba bathembisa ukuba babekho isiqingatha seyure eledlule. U-Christina wakhetha umhlobo wase-eyunivesithi ezisixhenxe. Emva kokukhawuleza kweyure kunye nentombazana encinane, le ntombazana yaqhekeza ngaphakathi kwindawo yokutyela kwaye isele iqala ukudibanisa ingathandeki, kodwa umhlobo wakhe waphazamisa: "Musa ukukhathazeka, ndazi ukuba uya kuhamba. Ngoko ndiza kubhozo. "

Ukuxhalabisa

Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu onentloni uzijonga ngoko. Unokulala kunye nokukhanya, ukuthungula kuzo zonke izigubhu - kwaye qiniseka: akukho nto ingaqhelekanga ngalokhu. Kodwa abo bajikelezileyo babona ngokugqithiseleyo ukwesaba: banikezela ukukhupha ilizwi labo, ukungahambisani nentetho. Ukuxhalabisa kuyindlela yokukhusela. Umntu uziphatha kakubi kwimeko xa kukho isoyiko lokuphulwa kommandla wokhuseleko. Omnye umba kukuba isongelo sinokucinga. Kwangexesha elide uLika akakwazanga ukulala kwindawo yokuhlala engenanto. Xa kukho ingqongqo emnyango, intombazana, ebambe ibhola yebhola esandleni sayo, yavula loo nto. Ngaba ndifuna ukuthetha ngempendulo yomhlobo owenze isigqibo sokwenza uhambo olungalindelekanga? Ekubeni sisoloko siphosakele ngeendleko zethu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda ukuba ngabaphi abahlobo, abasondeleyo nabaqhelekileyo abasibona. Umsebenzi, ukunxibelelana, ubuhlobo kunye nothando kuxhomekeke kule nto. Ngaphambi kokuba uzithiye ihlabathi lonke, zijonge: ngaba uhlala usichazela kakuhle iingcinga zakho, iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno. Yaye ungesabi ukuvuma iimpazamo.