Ukuba uthe watshata kwaye umyeni wakho sele sele ekhulile abantwana abasuka kumtshato wakho wokuqala, ngoko kuxhomekeke ekubeni bakuvuma njani. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulungile ukuba abantwana bakhe bakwamkele ngokufudumeleyo kwaye bengazami ukutywala ngeendlela zonke, baphume ekhaya okanye baphikisane noyise. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba abantu abadala abavumelani nento yokuba uyise unomfazi omtsha. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo nabantwana abadala bomyeni?
Okokuqala kufuneka uqonde imeko yonke. Inyaniso kukuba njengoko abantwana sele bekhulile, ngokuqinisekileyo banemigaqo yabo, iimbono, imigaqo yokuziphatha njalonjalo. Enyanisweni, sele sele befana nabantu abadala njengoko wena kunye nomyeni wakho, kuphela, kunjalo, kusebancinci iminyaka. Ngako oko, kunokuba nzima ukuwamkela imeko obawo bazisa ngayo umfazi omtsha endlwini. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana abanomdla kakhulu xa behlelwa ngumama wabo. Yingakho umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukuba ukwakha ubudlelwane nabo, ngaphandle koko, ukuba abantwana bayakuchasa ngokukodwa, umtshato wakho ungasongela, kuba sonke siyazi indlela abantu basekuhlaleni abanokuchaphazela ngayo ngamnye ngomntu. Enyanisweni, kule meko, banokwenza nantoni na ukuba bakuthandane nomtshakazi.
Indlela yokuziphatha ngayo nabantwana bendoda: iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo
Yiba nomonde
Kufuneka uqwalasele ukuba abantwana, ngokungafani noyise, abazange bakwazi ukukubona kakuhle. Abazi kakuhle malunga nazo zonke iimpawu ezilungileyo zomlingiswa wakho, iitalente zakho, izenzo zakho zokuzilibazisa. Ngoku ungowesifazane ongaqhelekanga ongaqhelekanga kubo, othumele intsapho. Ngoko ke, bonisa umonde kwaye unike abantwana bakhe ixesha lokuzifundela kwaye bazi kakuhle.
Ukongeza, abantwana abadala bangaba nomona kakhulu ngoyise wam. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoko banike ithuba lokuba baqhelisele ukuba nanjalo ngoku unelungu losapho. Musa ukukhawuleza izinto uze ufumane umonde omncinci.
Musa ukuphulwa kwemida
Umntu ngamnye useka ekunxibelelaneni nomnye umda othile. Ngomntu, sinokuthetha iiyure malunga nantoni na kwaye sichazela iimfihlelo ezifihliweyo, kunye nomntu esithethayo kuphela ngemozulu. Yivani indlela abasondele ngayo abantwana bendoda ekukuvumela ukuba uyeke. Ukuba bakubingelela kwiintlanganiso kwaye bahlale bathule okanye baphendule imibuzo yakho nge-monosyllabic "no" okanye "ewe", ngoko ngoku akufanele uzinyame.
Kwakhona, ungaze udibane ncokola kunye noyihlo kwaye uzame ukucela into. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, mhlawumbi bona, okanye umyeni kuni bonke baya kuchithachitha. Ngokukhawuleza xa abantwana bezisebenzisa kancinci kuwe kwaye abayi kuphinda baziphathe ngokungafani, njengokuba kwangokokuqala, unako ukuqhubela phambili kwisisombululo esilandelayo-esinobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Zama ukuthetha
Buza umyeni wakho oko abantwana bakhe abathandayo kwaye uzame ukufumana into efana nabo. Mhlawumbi, intombi yakhe imthanda nje inja, kwaye unyana uyazi kakuhle kwiikhomputha. Fumana isizathu sokuthetha. Buza intombi yakho ukuba luhlobo luni loyinja yakhe, kunye nendlela ekhula ngayo okanye abuze unyana wakhe ukuba akuncede ukhethe i-laptop entsha. Fumana "iphuzu lokuqhagamshelana" kwaye uzama ukusondela kubantwana encinci. Zama ukuthetha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kubo ngeengcebiso ezithile, kwaye kukho, ubona, unxibelelwano luya kutshintshwa kwaye iindidi eziqhelekileyo kwingxoxo ziya kuvela.
Into engenakwenziwa nakweyiphi na imeko
Ukuthetha kakubi malunga nonina
Lo ngumthetho wokuqala kunye obaluleke kakhulu. Ngaphandle kweemeko kufuneka uqalekise okanye uhlaziye unina, uhlebe ngaye, okanye ubeke iingxaki zakhe. Eyona nto ingcono, ungaze uqale ukuthetha ngomama wabo, ngaphandle kokuba benze okokuqala. Emva koko, umama kunoma yimuphi umntu ngumntu obaluleke kakhulu ebomini. Akunandaba nokuba behlala phi kunye noyise, nokuba ngaba bekumtshato womthetho, okanye ngubani na owokuqala ukuyeka. Into ebalulekileyo kuphela ngumama wabo kwaye abayi kumvumela ukuba ahambe. Ngoko ke, gcina ingqondo yokungathathi hlangothi, kwaye kungcono ukuba ungaqali naziphi na izihloko ezibuhlungu kuzo zonke.
Ukungqinelana nokuthetha kwabo noyise
Lo mgaqo awuvumelekanga kuphela xa umyeni wakho engafuni ukuthetha nabantwana bakhe. Kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko, akufanele uzame ukunciphisa yonke le nxibelelwano, kungenjalo kukho umngcipheko wokuva olunye usuku lokuba "abantwana baninzi kakhulu, kwaye omnye unokufunyanwa ngumfazi wabo."
Funda abantwana bakhe ukuziphatha kakuhle kwaye bafake izimvo zabo
Khumbula ukuba abantwana sele bekhulile kwaye abanokuthandayo ukuba uzama ukubafundisa. Ngako oko, banokuthi 'bathathe inzondo' nayiphi na imiyalelo yakho, nokuba ngaba uya kulungela ngokufanelekileyo. Yonke into ongayenzayo kukunika iingcebiso ezingenakuphikelela kwaye ubanike ilungelo lokukhetha oko bacinga ukuba kulungile. Ungazami ukubeka uluvo lwakho kuzo kwaye ubeke ingcinezelo kubo. Vseravno awunakwenzeka ukuba uyakwazi ukufezekisa konke okwenziwe ngokwemiyalelo yakho, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ulwalamano lunokuba luyingozi.
Le yimithetho ebalulekileyo yokuziphatha kunye nabantwana abadala bomyeni. Ngokubhekisele kwezinye izinto, kufuneka nje uqondisise kwaye wamukele ukuba abantwana bakhe banabantu "namaplanti" abo ezintloko zabo. Ngoko bamkele njengoko kunjalo kwaye bazama nje ukwenza abahlobo nabo.