Njani ukuba nomona?
Akunakwenzeka njalo ukuba umntu athi unomona. Akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi abantu banomona ofanayo ngabantu abahlukileyo abo bahlala nabo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza kwenzeka into eyenzekayo, umntu njengokuba uhlamba kwaye ujika kwi-Othello kwisimo samanje.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuba nomona kwaye ngexesha elifanayo akukho zizathu ezinjalo. Abantu abanomona kuphela abanomona onomona. Kusukela ebuntwaneni bebanjelwe ithuba lokuba baveze uthando olungenammiselo lwabazali babo, ukwazi ukuba ezinye izinto zingabakho ngokupheleleyo, okanye ngabantu abaye batshiswa ngobisi, nje bevuthela emanzini.
Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo lenza ukuba ungenzi izenzo ezintle kakhulu, kwaye umona awushiyi ingqondo ukuphazamisa ingqondo.
Ikhwele lingavela ngokupheleleyo ukususela ekuqaleni, xa, nantoni na enyenzayo, iqabane lakho liya kukugweba ngokunyanzela okanye nokuba namaphupha okugwenxa. Kunzima ukukhupha umntu onjalo, kwaye akunakulungele ukulinda ukuba acinge ngako, ukuze ukwazi ukumkholisa ngokunyaniseka kwakho.
Ukuba kukho izizathu ezingekho zizathu zokuba nomona, kunengqiqo ukucinga ukuba ufuna ngempela ulwalamano olwamkela umntu kumntu wesithathu okanye ithuba lokubonakala kwakhe?
Kukho enye into ebonwayo: ngokuqhelekileyo, ngaphandle kokuba nomona ngalabo bahlala beguqula. Kwaye kunengqiqo - umntu uvakalelwa kukuba unetyala, uyazikholelwa oko. Ukuba unako ukuzingca, ngoko unokukwenza naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abanjalo kunzima ukubala - ukukhusela kwabo kukuhlaselwa. Baphendula kuyo nayiphi na umbuzo ongenamacala kwaye baqala ukwenza izibango ezingenangqondo.
Uhlala njani nomntu onomona?
Okokuqala, ziphendule ngokunyanisekileyo, nokuba ngaba iqabane lakho alinalo isizathu sokuba nomona. Ukuba uqinisekile kuwe kwaye uyazi ukuba unyanisekile nomthandane wakho, uyawugxininisa.
Ukuba kukho izizathu zomona, ngoko ufumene oko ufanelwe. Kuya kufuneka ukuba utshintshe ulwalamano lwakho ngandlela-thile, okanye uya kuguquka umona ngokugqithiseleyo njengoko iqabane lakho linamandla okwaneleyo okunyamezela zakho iingcinga.
Ukuqubuka kwekhwele kwenzeka kubantu bonke. Ngokuqhelekileyo kulula kakhulu ukuzihlawula - zithetha nje. Ukuba iqabane lakho lijongene nobukhwele obubuhlungu, okungaxhomekeke kwindlela oziphatha ngayo, akuyi kuba lula ukuvumelana naye.
Akuyi kunceda nayiphi na ingcamango, akukho ingxelo kwixesha elichithwe kunye. Kwaye kuyimfuneko? Kuze kube nini ungahlala phantsi kolawulo olunjalo?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uninzi kangakanani unomona ongenacala, awuyi kubonakalisa nantoni na.
Ukuba usalulungele ukulwa nolwalamano lwakho, kuya kufuneka ukhulume nzima kowomthandayo. Chaza ukuba ukhathele ukutyhola kwakhe ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buxhomekeke ekubeni uya kulawula iimvakalelo zakhe okanye ukuba uya kuvumela izinto ukuba zihambe kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo zilahlekelwe nguwe.
Indlela efanelekileyo kukusebenzisana kunye nesazi sezengqondo esiza kukunceda ukuqonda izizathu zesikhwele nokuphelisa ukukhanga okukrakra.
Kwimeko apho isiphumo asikho, mhlawumbi indlela engcono yokuphuma isahlukana.
Unokuyithintela njani umona?
Ukulwa nobuthathaka bakho kunzima kakhulu. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unomona omkhulu, kwaye oku kuphazamisa ubomi bakho, ufanele ucinge kwakhona indlela ozijonga ngayo kumntu obathandayo uze utshintshe into yakho.
Ukuba unesizathu esivakalayo sokuba nomona, zenzele isigqibo, ngaba ufuna i-satellites engathembekiyo? Ngaba unokunyamezela ukunyenga okanye ukunyaniseka? Ngaba kubalulekile ukuba ube phakathi, kodwa rhoqo sobathathu?
Ukuba akukho zizathu zokuba nomona, kodwa ungashiyi ukungathandabuzeki, qalisa ukusebenza.
Mxelele ngokunyanisekileyo lakho iqabane malunga nemizwa yakho, malunga nokungaqiniseki kunye noko uza kulwa nayo. Mcele ukuba akunyamekele ngakumbi kwaye angenzi izizathu zobona.
Yeka ukulawula iqabane. Ukuba umntu unawe kwaye uyakuthanda, akumenzeli ipropati yakho. Naziphi na izithintelo zikhuthaza kuphela ukuphula isakhelo.
Funda ukuthembela. Ngaphandle kokuthembela, ayikwazi ukuzalana ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba ubungenaso isizathu sokuba nomona, ngaphandle kweengcinga zakho, akukho sizathu sokukholelwa ukuba into iya kutshintsha.
Sombulula iingxaki malunga nomlinganiselo wokufumana. Lo mgaqo uza kukunceda ulahlekise umnqweno wokucinga kwangaphambili kwaye ukhathazeke ngezinto ezingenzekanga kwangaphambili.
Jonga ulwalamano lwakho kwaye wenze konke ukuze bakulandele bobabini. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abasishiyi kwizinto ezibavuyisa. Oko kukuthi, kuba nobuhlobo obuhle ababaleki kwabanye.
Ukukhulula ebusweni, njengokugula. Khangela ubungqina bokuba iqabane lakho linyanisekile kuwe, kwaye akunjalo. Uze ungaliphulaphuli inkohliso.
Ingongoma ebalulekileyo ekupheliseni umona kukuba amandla okungaqhubeki naloo mvakalelo. Ukulwa nomnqweno wokuhlola iifokethi zakho, ifowuni, incwadi yedilesi, iifayile kwikhompyutheni yakho. Kuhlazisa. Ngaba ulungele ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane emva kokufunda into? Yintoni oya kuyenza nento ongayithandiyo?
Ukuphanga ubudlelwane kulula kunokuba lula. Inzondo ngenye yeendlela ezibonakalisiweyo ezisebenzayo nakanjani. Ukuba izicwangciso zakho azibandakanyi ukuhlukana kwangaphambili kwintanda yakho, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukuthembela kwaye ube uhlobo lomntu onokuthembela kwakhe.