Umfazi kunye nendoda eninzi kunye, kukho ngaphezulu ukungaboni ngaso phakathi kwabo, okubangela ukuxabana kunye neentlanzi. Mhlawumbi, ngeli xesha kuya kwenzeka ukuba ufunde lo mntu, kodwa wamukelane ngokupheleleyo, akunakwenzeka. Ngamanye amaxesha abafazi bahlengahlengiswa kumntu, ngenxa yothando olukhulu abalubingelelayo, badlala indima yomfazi omhle. Kodwa le miqweno ekhutshweyo kunye nemibhikisho iya kubakho ukufumana indlela yokuphuma. Isizathu sokungavumelani kunye neentlanzi kukungaboni kakuhle.
Indlela yokuqonda umntu obathandayo?
Kufuneka uxoxe naye ngokuchanekileyo. Indoda ayibonakali imvakalelo yakhe njengowesifazane. Ibhinqa kufuneka ifunde indlela yokuthetha ulwimi olufanayo nendoda. Abasetyhini bafuna kumntu into abangenako ukuyenza, kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba abafuni, kodwa abakwaziyo ukuqonda ukuba yintoni umfazi efuna kubo. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuthumela umyeni wakhe iminqweno kunye neengcamango zakhe.
Kubalulekile ukuyibeka ngokucacileyo isihloko kwingxoxo. Amehlo aphendukile, iintlanzi ezihluthayo ziyatshitshisa abantu kwaye aziqondakali kubo. Abayazi indlela yokusabela ngayo kuyo, nokuba uza kupheliswa njani. Ufuna ukumxelela ngokuthe ngqo oko ufunayo kuye. Umzekelo, mxelele ukuba ufuna ukuba akubizele kwakhona ukuze ungakhathazeki. Mxelele oko ufuna ukuba akumanga xa ehlangana nawe, ukuze uzive uthande kwaye ufuneka.
Ngexesha le ngxoxo, ungazami ukulimaza inkunzi yakhe. Musa ukuyithelekisa namanye amadoda, ingxoxo ayiyi kusebenza kwaye iza kuvala. Incoko nganye iphetha ngezigqibo. Ngoko ke, emva kokugqiba i-monologue ende, yenza isigqibo. Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba umntu uyakuqonda kwaye uphendule yonke into ngegama elilodwa nje kuphela, ukucinga kwakhe, akathethi.
Amadoda ahluke kwabasetyhini ngokwengqondo, ngokwengqondo, ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama. Kodwa ngeengxaki zasekhaya, bambalwa abantu bakhumbula oku, nangona wonke umntu uyazi malunga nalo. Kodwa olu lwazi luya kunceda ukuphepha iingxabano ezingadingekile kunye nokuthuka.
Ukususela kwimvelo yabantu abanqobileyo, banamandla emoyeni womzabalazo. Babenenkani kakhulu kwaye banamathela kunabesifazana, bathanda ukunyamekela nokukhusela izimvo zabo. Abasetyhini bathambekele ekunciphiseni kwaye akudingeki bawulibale, kwaye kwiimeko ezinzima zibonisa uhlobo lwabo besifazane.
Umfazi uthi, kwaye akayi kucinga, kodwa indoda iyasebenza ngaphandle kokucinga ngayo. Musa ukucaphukiswa ngabantu abangazange benze into ethile, ngaphandle kokucinga. Ibhinqa ayiqondi into yokuba indoda, ibukeka ayiyona into ephambili, ize imtshitshise ukuba yafika kwijinga elingenalwazi. Kwaye umntu, into ephambili kukuba aziva ekhululekile kule ngubo.
Ukukhangela kwendoda kwenye intombazana enhle iyalingana nomfazi. Kodwa konke oku akunjalo. Kuphela nje ukuba abantu banombono onobukroti, kwaye xa ebona isibalo sesibhinqa, iingubo, i-makeup, unomdla ngokuzikhethela. Oku akuthethi ukuba uya kulahlela yonke into aze agijime emva komfokazi. Abasetyhini kufuneka babone indoda ngokwaneleyo, musa ukukhubeka kwaye ungacasuli.
Xa uxubusha ubudlelwane beentsapho, unako ukuva kwiintombi kunye nabasetyhini ukuba wenza konke kuye, kwaye wenza konke okungahambi kakuhle, okanye ngokukrakra, okanye akenzi nto, kwaye uhamba ngokuya ngakwesobunxele. Kwaye ke bahlala besicatshukiswa kwaye bengonwabi omnye nomnye, kodwa, akukho mfazi omnye othe wabuza: "Kutheni kunjalo? Yintoni endifanele ndiyitshintshe kum? "U
Ibhinqa ayayazi, ayifuni, kwaye kaninzi akakwazi ukunika into ethile, kodwa unomnqweno wokubonga, ukunyamekela, unike uthando. Wenza kuphela oko akucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko, kwaye ulindele ukuba loo mntu aziqonde. Xa engayifumananga, akayi kuthanda, akayikubulela, kwaye umfazi uyaqonda ukuba imodeli yakhe yohlobo olufanelekileyo, kwaye umbono wakhe awufani nomzekelo wakho.
Ukuba ucinga ngako, yonke into iyacaca. Unesihlobo esahlukileyo, nabo banamathemba abo kunye nezimo zengqondo, indawo ezahlukeneyo zomsebenzi, ootitshala abahlukeneyo, abahlobo kunye nokunye, awukwazi ukuba nantoni na enye. Kukho into efanayo, kodwa ayikho into efanayo. Le nto yonke yenzelwe ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda intanda yakho, yiqonde ihlabathi lakho. Ngubani onjengomntu ongathandeki unokukhuthazwa ukuba azikhange xa ubuhlobo bungahambelani. Nangona uzenza ngathi konke kulungile, le sizathu sokutshintsha, ukubonisa, nokubonisa oko kufuneka ukutshintsha kuwe.
Emva kwakho konke, akusikho into efunekayo, nje ukuba ujwayele, ukuphulaphula intanda yakho, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukubona nokuva, ngoko indoda ifuna. Oku kuya kumnceda, kwaye uya kufisa ukuya ekhaya. Oko kufuneka ukwenze kumfazi ukuze uhlale evuya. Kukho into enjengeelwimi ezintlanu zothando. Unokuqwalasela kwaye uyisebenzise ebomini.
Iilwimi ezi-5 zothando.
Inani 1. Amagama avunyelweyo .
La mazwi amnandi, anomnene ahlobene nomntu othandekayo, kungekhona ukuwasebenzisa, kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo, ngenxa yokuba wenza umsebenzi oqhelekileyo, uthi, wakhupha udoti. Okanye amagama avunyelwe kunye nenkxaso, xa exelela, ngezicwangciso zakhe kunye neenjongo zakhe. Emva koko, nawuphi na igama lohlobo lumnandi kumntu.
Inani 2. "ixesha elifanelekileyo . "
Kuchitha ixesha kunye naye, kungekhona nephephandaba, umabonwakude, ikhomputha. Musa ukunikela intanda yakho ebomini bakho, kodwa ukunika ixesha, ubonise umnqweno wokuba naye kunye nomdla onyanisekileyo.
Inombolo 3 - Ukufumana isipho .
Isipho kuthetha ukuba ukhunjulwa kwaye uyathandwa. Musa ukulinda ityala elikhethekileyo. Kuya kubonwa njengento yokubonakalisa uthando kwinqanaba lakho.
Inani 4. Imisebenzi yenkonzo.
Oku ukwenza izenzo ozithandayo ozilindele kuwe. Indoda kufuneka iziva ithandekile.
Inombolo 5. Ukuthinteka komzimba .
Abantu abanjalo balindele ukuba iqabane libachukumise, livumelane nokubukela iTV, ukukhawula kunye nokumanga. Kubalulekile ukuphendulelana, ukuphulaphula nokuva, uxoxisana, kwaye oku kusebenza kubasetyhini kunye namadoda.
Ungayiqonda njani indoda, into ephambili ayikulibala ukuba ulwimi lwenhlonipho noluthando luyakunceda ukuba uqonde ngakumbi.