Abantwana abasondeleyo kwintsapho enkulu abaqhelekanga. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bazala abantwana abaningana, baze bahlalise. Nangona kukho iimeko ezinjalo, kwaye zinceda ukuqonda ukuba kunzima kangakanani ubudlelwane kwintsapho enkulu. Ukuqonda oku kulula, cingisisa iindlela ezimbini zokuzalwa komntwana osekupheleni, kuba ngumlinganiselo wobudala oba yinto ebalulekileyo.
Umntwana omdala ohluke kakhulu
Abantwana abasondeleyo kwiintsapho ezinkulu kaninzi abahlukanga kakhulu kwiminyaka. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho imeko apho abazali, banabantwana abaninzi, benqwenela ukuzala omnye. Oku kungenxa yokuhamba kwabo bonke abantwana kwintsapho, ngenxa yokuba umama noyise basala bodwa. Kule meko, umntwana osemva uba ngumhlali kuphela kubo.
Kwingxenye yabazalwana noodade, kukho isimo sengqondo esahlukileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, asinakutsho ukuba banomona ngabazali babo, abanika inxalenye yabo uthando kumntwana osekupheleni, kodwa basoloko banelisekile ngento yokuzalwa kwakhe.
Nangona kunjalo, kwezinye iimeko imeko ibangela umdla kakhulu. Isizathu salolu luhluko omkhulu weminyaka , kuba ngamanye amaxesha abazukulu nabantwana bafana ngokufanayo. Ngoko, ukuba udade omdala okanye umzalwana engazange aqalise inzala yabo, ngokuqinisekileyo bayakuvuyela ukubonakala kwendoda encinane kwindlu.
Esi simo sengqondo kwiintsapho ezinomlinganiselo omkhulu weminyaka kunzima ukubiza isimanga. Kufuneka kulindeleke kwaye ujabule kukuba wonke umntu uthathe ukuzalwa komntwana osekupheleni.
Abantwana abasweleyo abanomlinganiselo omdala weminyaka
Iintsapho ezinkulu kunye nenani labantwana abanqabile kakhulu kwixesha lethu. Abazali abambalwa kuphela abakulungele ukuthatha le nyathelo, bavuya ngamnye umntwana. Ngelo xesha, umoya ohlala endlwini uba mnandi kwaye ukhululekile.
Umntwana osekupheleni kwintsapho enjalo uhlala ethatha indawo yomzalwana okanye udade kwisimo sengqondo sengqondo. Ukwahlukana kwexesha eliphantsi phakathi komntwana ngamnye kumanyanisa yonke intsapho kunye, ukunika uvakalelo olutsha lolwalamano nolushushu. Abazalwana kunye noodade abadala baya kunika umntwana osemva, kodwa kuphela ulwalamano olusondeleyo luya kubonisa kuye.
Mhlawumbi, imeko enjalo kufuneka ibizwe ngokuba yinto efanelekileyo. Ngokufanayo, uphuhliso lwengqondo kufuneka luhambe ngendlela efanelekileyo, ukuze ngenxa yoko unyana okanye intombi enkulu ikhulile. Kwintsapho nganye, kufuneka ukhangele iimpawu ezizimeleyo, kuba into ebalulekileyo ubuhlobo kuze kube sekuzalweni komntwana osemva.
Zombini iimeko azikho nzima ukuba ziqwalasele, nangona kunjalo, imbambano ebalulekileyo yengxoxo ikhuliselwe. Inyani kukuba umntwana osemva uhlala ebonakala ngokuhambelana nehlabathi langaphakathi lomntu ngamnye. Ngokuqhelekileyo iintsapho ezinkulu zinqatshelwe ukuba aziphumelelanga, kodwa oku kungalunganga. Enyanisweni, uninzi lwaloo maseli uluntu lunikeza ilizwe abemi abalungileyo. Imfundo efanelekileyo, nangona kungabikho kwemfuneko engaphezulu, inokufundisa umntwana indlela yokufezekisa yonke into ngezandla kunye nengqondo.
Mhlawumbi ayilunganga ukujonga iintsapho kunye nomntwana omnye, kodwa kukuthi ukuzingca kukhula, kuhambelana nemikhwa emibi. Abazali bazama ukunika abantwana ubuninzi, kodwa kwintsapho enkulu akukho namathuba amaninzi. Akukho ntlukwano phakathi komntwana osemva kunye nomntakwabo okanye udadewabo, ukuze ukukhuliswa kwakhe kube yinto engcono.