Inyaniso yonke malunga nokuphuhliswa kwexesha elide labantwana


Ngethuba lokuphuhliswa kwangaphambili namhlanje, mhlawumbi, abazali ababi kakhulu abazange bakuve. Kwiminyaka emva nje, ubungqina obukholisayo bufunyenwe ukuba ubunjani obungenamkhawulo ubuchule beengqondo zomntwana. Kodwa ngokufanayo, ilizwi labanye, ingcali engaphelelwanga kwaye ihlonishwayo, isandi: iingqondo zengqondo, ootitshala, oogqirha. Ingqondo ebuthakathaka kunye nenkqubo yentsholongwane ephosakeleyo yomntu omncinci idinga isimo sengqondo esilumkileyo kakhulu, kwaye ukuvuselela ngokugqithiseleyo kwengqondo kungeyikuzisa kuphela inzuzo, kodwa ingayenza ingozi engenakulinganiswa kumntwana. Inyaniso yonke malunga nokuphuhliswa kwexesha elide labantwana - kweli nqaku.

Ngubani o lungile?

Idibaniso elikhulu kunye neengcamango zokuphuhliswa kwexesha eliphambili zikwimeko yokuba ngenxa yokubonakala kwazo, isimo sengqondo malunga neentsana sitshintshile kakhulu. Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo kude kube kutshanje, babecingwa bengenakunceda, abangazi, iimfuno zabo ezinyangeni ezininzi zancitshiswa ukuba zondle kwaye zome. Namhlanje, abazali abanengqiqo bayazi ukuba nangona umntu omncinci omncinci sele esele umntu unemvakalelo neengqondo kufuneka abaleke naye. Sinokuthetha ngokuzithemba malunga nokubunjwa kwenkcubeko entsha yomzali. Yiyiphi ilishumi elinesihlanu-iminyaka engamashumi amabini eyadlulayo kuphela eyakuqala isisombululo, namhlanje iba yinto enkulu. Abazali abangakumbi banzima iintsana, bafundise ukuba bahambi kwaye benze imisebenzi yokuzivocavoca ezinzima kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, baqala ukuphuhliswa kwamakhono abo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, okwangoku, xa isizukulwana sokuqala sabantwana esikhuliswa ngaboovulindlela bokuphuhliswa kwexesha eliphuhlisiwe, sikwazi ukucaca ukuba zininzi iimfumba ezithathayo kwaye zingaphi izilingo ezilindele abazali abaye bahamba ngale ndlela.

I-circus yabantwana abaqeqeshwe.

Oku kunzima ukuyiphepha. Ewe, ungamelana njani nokungabonakali kwiintombi zeentombi eziphumelelayo zomntwana ekufundeni, ukubhala, umculo. Unokuzixhalabisa njani ngeetalente zakhe phambi kwezihlobo zakho nabahlobo? Ungayenqaba ukuthatha inxaxheba ekukhuphiseni iitalente ezincinci? Emva kwakho konke, intle kangakanani intliziyo xa ubona kwinqanaba elikhulu umdlali omncinci we-ballet kwipakethi evulekileyo okanye i-violinist encinci eyenza ikhonteti enzima ngokuzithemba? Nangona kunjalo, amava abonisa ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwetalente kwangaphambili kubonakalisa kakhulu umntwana kunye nabazali. Intsebenziswano evuyayo kunye nebhokhwe iyakuthatyathwa ngokukhawuleza ngokulungelelanisa, ukulungelelaniswa okungapheliyo kukhuphiswano kunye nemincintiswano. Esikhundleni sokuncoma ngokunyanisekileyo kuya kuba yintsipho kunye nomncintiswano wokuqhubela phambili impumelelo.

Ukuba ngaba unet talente ngokwenene, ngaphambi kokunyanzela amandla akhe konke kuyingozi. Abantwana, abanikwe yiphi na italente, banesimiso se-nervous unstable. Ngako oko, unyango olungenangqiqo oluxinzelelwe ziinjongo zabazali lunokubangela ukuba kuphele ukhathala kwamanzi kunye nezifo ezinzulu.

Iingcambu zabazali abangafaniyo.

Masithembeke ngokwethu: kwiziganeko ezilisithoba kwishumi, imbangela yokuba nenzondelelo yabazali inganeliseki ngobuntwana bakho. Ndaphupha ukuba ngumfundi obalaseleyo, kodwa andinakufumana iimathematika nge-physics ubuncinane kwizine. Ndaphupha ngokuphumelela kwezemidlalo, kodwa zatshatyalaliswa ngenxa yezizathu zempilo. Ndandifuna ukufunda indlela yokudlala i-violin, kodwa kwakungekho nkohliso ... Ngokukhawuleza, xa umntwana ebonakala, abazali bafunda malunga nophuhliso lokuqala. Kubonakala ukuba kukho indlela yokumangalela ukuba nayiphi na umntwana ukuba aphenduke umntwana! Into ephambili kukuba uqale ngexesha. "Emva kwethathu kuphelile kakhulu!" Abaphathi baxwayisa ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana wam unako ukufezekisa konke oko andingenako, uya kuba ngumfundi obalaseleyo, umculi, umdlali. Ubomi bentsapho yonke buphantsi kombono omkhulu. Uzuza kwi-career yakhe, unina, ukuthengwa kweenzuzo kunye nokuhlawulwa kweeklasi zibe yinqaku eliphambili lebhajethi yentsapho. Ootatomkhulu, oogogokazi, nabo, banxulumene nentsapho yonke. Kuyafaneleka: sivelisa ingqondo! Ngexesha, umntwana, mhlawumbi, kuba uvuyo lwabazali luya kwenza konke okufunekayo kuye. Kodwa xa ekhula kwaye kuvela ukuba akaphupheli umsebenzi njengomkhwa, umdwebi okanye imathematika, iimfazwe zangempela ziqala kwintsapho. Emva koko, egameni lekamva lakhe, amaxhoba amaninzi aye anikelwa! Emva koko, waphumelela ngempumelelo!

Akukho nto ididekile elindele iipapa kunye noomama abanomdla, ukuba ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba umntwana okhulile akasayi kubamba iqhosha eliziqhenyayo lomntwana, kwaye abantwana bazali abangaphantsi kobudala abanakunyanga kuphela, kodwa bamgxotha umntwana wabo. Umntwana, evakalelwa kukuba akazange aphile ngokwemfuno zakhe, uya kuhlupheka. Okanye, ngakumbi kuninzi, baya kuthandabuza: ngaba abazali bayamthanda okanye ngaba wayeyigugu kubo, kuphela nje ngoxa ehlala engumdlali kunye nomnqobi?

Ekuqaleni okanye ngexesha elifanelekileyo?

Kwiinyanga zokuqala zobomi, ubuchopho bomntwana bukhula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ukudibanisa phakathi kweeseli zesisombululo zenziwa. Ngeli xesha, usana luyakuthatha ubuninzi beenkcukacha malunga naye kunye nehlabathi elikufutshane naye. Khumbula ezimbalwa okanye ezinye iimpawu ezingaphezulu okanye iingcamango ezongezelelweyo kuye - izimbalwa ezincinci. Ngoko kutheni ungafundanga umntwana ukuba afunde, izibalo, umculo ngeli xesha, kunokuba uneminyaka yobudala, xa ukukhula kwengqondo kugqityiwe kwaye nayiphi na ingcaciso ichithwe ngobunzima obukhulu? Ngenxa yokuba yonke into ibonakala ihlukile. Xa umntwana ezalwa, ingqondo yakhe ayilunganga ngokupheleleyo kwaye ezinyangeni zokuqala ziyanda. Kodwa okokuqala, loo masebe anembopheleleko yemisebenzi elula kufuneka aqale aqokelele: ukubona, ukuva, ukuthintela, ukulungelelanisa ukuhamba, intetho. Kwaye kuphela iindawo zobuchopho ezinezakhono ezinzima kakhulu eziye zenziwa: ingqiqo, imbono yentetho ebhaliweyo. Ingqondo yomntwana iplastiki enkulu, kwaye xa ivuselelwe ukuphuhliswa kwamacandelo ayo aphezulu phambi kokuba abantu abaphantsi baqokelele, oku kungakhokelela ekubonakalisweni kwezakhono zokuqala, kodwa kungabikho kwimiphumo engabonakaliyo: ukulibaziseka ekuphuculeni izandi, izakhono zokukhubazeka, ukunyanzeliswa, kunye ne-autism.

Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ulahle umgaqo wokuphuhlisa ikhono lomntwana usemncinci, ubeke kwi-kindergarten, nakwesikolweni? Akunjalo. Ukusebenza ngokuchanekileyo kolwazi kulandelelanisa ixesha lokujonga kwalo. Ukuba ngelo xesha umntwana ufumana kwindawo ekhulayo yokufunda, uya kufunda kwaye akhumbule yonke into xa umzimba wakhe nobuchopho bakhe bekulungele oko, oko kukuthi, ngexesha, kwaye mhlawumbi, ngaphambili kunokuba zivunywe ngokuqhelekileyo. Oku, ngolwimi lwe-pedagogy lwanamhlanje, ngummandla wentuthuko ephakamileyo. Ngoko, ukuba umntwana evukile kwiiveki zokuqala ebomini bakhe, elele ngesisu sakhe phantsi okanye kwibala lezemidlalo, apho kukho izinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo, akanako ukukhahlela ezintandathu, kodwa kwiinyanga ezintlanu okanye ezine. Ukuba umntwana ofanayo ugcinwa nge-sabelutym kwisibhedlele, elele esiswini sakhe nje imizuzu embalwa, unokuqala ukukhawuleza ngokugqithiseleyo kunomhla wokugqibela okanye ukungaqhubeki. Kuyafana okunye nangomnye ummandla womsebenzi. Umntwana kufuneka ave intetho ebhekiswe kuyo ngaphambi kokuba aqale ukuthetha; ubona iileta namagama - ngaphambi kokuba baqale ukufunda, kunye neepensile nemibala - ngaphambi kokuba udwebe.

Ngamanye amagama, ukuthetha ngentuthuko yokuqala, sithetha ukuba umntwana uya kuphuhliswa kungekudala kunesiqhelo, kodwa ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Oko kukuthi, kungekudala. Kule nto kwaye kufuneka bafune bonke abazali. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndiyamkele inyaniso yokuba umntwana akanalo nantoni na kumntu. Futhi mnike ukuba aphile.