Okokuqala, ncedisa umntwana ukuba ave aze aziqonde. Buza ukuba yintoni umbala weemvakalelo zakhe, apho inxalenye yomzimba aziva ecatshukiswayo, kwaye kukuphi - ukudabuka. Ngoko inkwenkwezi ifunda ukuzicwangcisa kangcono ngokwabo kunye nokugqamisa iziganeko (izizathu ezivakalayo) ezimbangela iimvakalelo ezithile.
Ngoko, wena kunye nomntwana, uqikelele izizathu zesimo sakhe esibi, kwaye uluhlobo olunjani lokuvakalelwa kwakhe. Ngoku -mncede anqobe iimvakalelo ezimbi.
Njengomthetho, bonke abantwana bafunda kubazali babo ukuba umntu akafanele akhuphe ukucaphukisa kunye nentukuthelo kubantu abakujikelezileyo, izilwanyana kunye nezinto. Ukususela esemncinci, sitsho ukuba ukucaphuka kwaye ubonakalise umsindo wakho ungalunganga, i-priori. Abantwana bahlwaywa ngenxa yezenzo ezinxamnye nabanye abantu, okanye ngelitye eliphonswe kwijuba-eliqondakalayo. Kodwa, umntwana, ufumana isohlwayo ngenxa yezinto eziphangiweyo. Kakade ke, asifanele sivumele abantwana ukuba bachithe izinto ezibizayo ngenxa yezinto ezimbi. Kodwa, ngelishwa, abazali abaqhelanga ukuba umntwana kufuneka anike enye indlela. Kwaye, endaweni yokubethela izitya ezintle, unako "ukunciphisa umphunga" kwizinto ezilungiselelwe ngokukhethekileyo ngenjongo ezinjalo.
"Iphepha lokukrakra" yindlela enkulu yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Kwi-intanethi, unokufumana imifanekiso emininzi edalwe ngokuthe ngqo kwiimeko ezinjalo. Phrinta eli phepha-maye lixhomekeke kumancila ngaphezu kwendawo yokusebenzela (kodwa kungekudala phambi kwamehlo akho) ulinde ixesha lakho. Yintoni elula: ngomzuzwana wokucaphukisa, ukukrazula ishidi eludongeni, ukuchoboza, ukunyathela, uze udibanise zibe ziincinci eziliwaka uze uziphonse emanqeni. Indlela ephumelele ngakumbi: inkunzi imele idwebe intlungu. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana ulahlekelwe ngumsindo, mcele ukuba apepishe kwiphepha elingenanto into enomsindo. Emva koko vumela inkomo ipeyinise amadevu aluhlaza, yinyunde phantsi kweso, "yomelele". Nceda-fakisha eli phetshana njengejolise kumnyango uze ulidubule ngephepha elichongiwe kwi-tube.
"I-Bobo Pillow" - umxholo wokuxoshwa kwintlungu. Fumana umsila okhethekileyo (okanye-i-pear boxing), leyo umntwana angayibetha entliziyweni. Unokwenza kwamehlo akhe okanye wenze imibhalo "i-villain", "Mnu Gnus", njl. Kodwa, musa ukusebenzisa amathoyizi athobileyo kunye needodoli kule njongo.
Emva kwengqumbo kunye nentukuthelo yaphuma, kwaye umntwana wasicinisa, yithuba lokuxoxa ngezinto ezenzekayo. Hlukanisa imeko, inyana encinci yenyameko kunye kunye nibheke indlela eyakhayo: sibone indlela yokwenza ukuba imeko ingabi kwakhona. Okanye, ukuba kukho ithuba elihle lokuba oku kuya kwenzeka, okwamanje-sebenzisa isicwangciso malunga nendlela yokusabela kwisiganeko esinjalo ngexesha elizayo.
Uvakalelo lwenkqumbo luyaziwa kubo bonke abantwana. Kwaye ngokumalunga nabantu abadala, kukho izibini ezigqithisileyo kwizikhalazo zabantwana. Eyokuqala: umntwana akavumelekanga ukuba akhulume. Ba ne entloni. Bangela ubunzima bentyala, okwenza kucacise ukuba le "imvakalelo" engafanelekanga. "Baphatha amanzi kwi-offset", "Musa ukuvuthela umlomo wakho - uza kutshabalalisa" - ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uyava ukuba ubonisekile. Isiphumo salesi simo sengqondo sidabukisayo: umntwana uziva "okubi", ekubeni uziva enengqondo, kwaye unyanzelekile ukufihla intlungu yakhe kubazali bakhe. Okwesibini: Abazali bazama ukuzalisekisa nayiphi na iminqweno yomntwana, ukuba ngaba isikhalazo sakhe sidlulile, kwaye-ke-sakhula kwi-kid manierator. Abantwana abajwayele ukulawula abazali babo ngokubonisa ukuphosa, nangona xa bebaneminyaka yobudala, qhubeke beqhubeka bexhatshazwa ngokwabo.
Xa usebenzisana nomntwana, le "i-excess" kufuneka igwenywe. Qiniseka ukuba uvumele unyana okanye intombi yakho ibonise intukuthelo yakho. Mamela i-kid: nokuba uyamphulaphula nje, uya kunceda ukumkhulula uxinzelelo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, emva kokuvuma nokubona inkxaso yeentsapho, umntwana uyaqonda ukuba uye wayeka ukukhubeka. Ukuba umntwana uqhubeka evakalelwa iimvakalelo ezimbi, ncedisa ukulungelelanisa ukuhlambalaza kwakhe: kunye kunye, "faka yonke into emathelefini," kunye kunye nokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ungatshintsha njani imeko ukuze iphelise ukukhathazeka kwengqondo yomntwana. Emva kokuba usebenzise isicwangciso kwaye ufumane inkxaso yakho, kufuneka ufumane umdla omnandi.
Kodwa, ungakhuthazi umdlalo "ngokuhlambalaza." Ukuba umntwana uzama ukukuphatha, ukukhupha umlomo wakho - ungahambi kwimeko. Zama ukucima imeko ngehlaya. Ukuba oku akunakunceda, zama ukunyamekela umntwana ngethuba elithile: emva kokulahlekelwa yimbono yabamkeli, "umfana onobuhlungu" uya kumisa ukusebenza.
Ukuba umntwana uyadabuka, kulunge ukuba uthethe wedwa uxoxe ngentlungu eyenzeka kuye. Yiba ngongqongqo. Musa ukuhleka usulu, nokuba ingxaki yakhe ibonakala ingelutho kuwe. Bonisa intlonelo ngeemvakalelo zentsana. Bhengeza inkxaso evela entliziyweni, ugweme amagama angabhaliyo. Zama ukumnceda umntwana emva kokuba athi yonke into ayifunayo ngetyala lakhe, kwaye mhlawumbi iya kuhlawulwa. Ukuqhagamshelana nomntu osondeleyo kubaluleke kakhulu - thabatha ithole ngesandla, ukhupha - kwaye uya kuziva enamandla kwaye anqobe intlungu ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba nemizwa engalunganga ingabonwa, nayo iyancibilika. Xa umntwana elahlekelwa ukuba uya kubuya kuye emva kwexesha elithile (umama washiya uhambo loshishino, okanye umntwana ushiye ikhaya lehlobo ehlobo), yindlela eyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokunqoba ukulangazelela nokunyamezela kwixa elide elilindelwe - into ekukhupha umntwana: nikela isifundo esithakazelisayo, funda incwadi enomdla yokuzonwabisa. Unokucinga ngeziganeko ezikhethekileyo "zokulinda" ngosuku ngalunye - njengokungathi uncede ukuzisa okufunayo. Ukuba umntwana uyadabuka ngenxa yokulahleka ngokungathandabuzekiyo (ukufa komntu othandekayo, ukufa kwesilwanyana, ukufudukela kwindawo ehlala kuyo kwelinye ilizwe), makhe ndisebenze iinkqubo zengqondo ezinxulumene nokulahleka, ukuxhasa umntwana.
Ngoko, sihlolisise indlela yokunceda umntwana kunye nawe uzonqobe iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo. Kodwa khumbula ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni intlungu yomntwana, into eyona nto iya kunceda umntwana ukuba ahlangabezane neemvakalelo ezingekho phantsi kwakhe ukuzithemba kwakhe ngokungathandabuzeki kwintando yakho.