Abazali abaninzi banokungavumelani ngokuphathelele iindlela zokukhulisa abantwana. Kulula kakhulu ukubona iimpazamo zomlingane, kwaye ubhekisele kuzo, kunokugqithiselela iimpazamo zabo kwaye uzilungise. Ngamnye wethu unembopheleleko kubantwana bethu, ngokukhuliselwa kwabo, oko bakufundileyo kunye neyiphi imilinganiselo eya kuba yintloko. Zonke izinto ozibekayo kwiimvumba zakho ngoku, ziya kuthintela ubomi babo. Ukuze ulungiselele abantwana babo ubomi kwilizwe lethu elinzima, kufuneka nje ube nesineke, nothando, ukuqonda. Ngoko, namhlanje sinomhlangano omncinci womzali - indlela yokunceda abazali bavelise umntwana ophilileyo ngokwengqondo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kubazali ukuba bafumane indlela efanelekileyo yemfundo kunye neendlela zabo kubantwana babo. Wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba imfundo ibandakanya ubunzulu kunye nobubele, isijeziso kunye nokukhuthazwa kunye nokunye okungakumbi ukuba uyayiqonda kuphela kwinkqubo yobomi. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuzalwa komntwana, abazali kufuneka bavumelane phakathi kwabo malunga nendlela abaya kuziphatha ngayo nabantwana babo bonke ubomi babo, baxoxe ngemigaqo yokukhuliswa. Ufuna nje ukufumana ingcamango yokujonga. Cinga ukuba le ncinane ikhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye kungekudala iza kuba nembono yakhe kwimibandela emininzi. Uya kufuneka uzame ukukhokela ngokuchanekileyo ebomini, ngelixa ungaqhekeki umlingani, uhlakulele ukuzithemba.
Kubaluleke kakhulu kwimfundo ukudala iqela elinye elibandakanya upapa, unina nabantwana. Intsapho ifuna ukuthembela phakathi kwabantwana nabazali. Ukususela kumncinci kakhulu, zama ukuthetha kangangoko kunokwenzeka omnye nomnye, uxoxe ngeziganeko zemihla ngemihla, iingxaki kunye nemizuzu enemihlali. Intetho echanekileyo izisa abantwana ngakumbi, kukukwenza ube ngabahlobo. Bamele baqiniseke ukuba abazali baya kuhlala beqonda kwaye bancede, bacebise baze bazame ukusindisa kwiinkathazo.
Dumisani abantwana ngenxa yeyona nto ifanelekileyo, bajabule xa kwenzeka. Zivame ukunyathelisa zona, uzibethe entloko uze uthethe ngothando lwakho. Ukuba intsana ayilungile, musa ukukhawuleza ukumemeza, okanye ukubetha upapa. Zama ukuchaza ukuba yintoni na iphutha. Kakade ke, ngokuqhelekileyo kuya kufuneka uphinde uphinde uphindwe kabini, kuba abantwana abancinci bengenakucamngca kwaye banenkani. Kodwa kholwa kum, kungekudala okanye kamva baya kuqonda ukuba njani kwaye njani. Kwaye ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwesijeziso, khumbula ukuba amandla angokwenyama ayilona nto ibhetele. Awukwazi ukuthenga iilekese, ungakhangeli kwikhathuni oyithandayo, okanye ubeke ixesha elithile kwikona. Khumbula into enye, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungamcaphukisi kangakanani umntwana wakho, ungalokothi utshate ngaphandle kwakhe okanye ungamthandi. Oku kufuneka kube yinto ebhaliweyo yipapa nomama. Inkwenkwe akumele ikwazi ukulahlwa yothando lwabazali bayo. Ukukhuthazwa kufuneka kuthathe indawo ebalulekileyo kwiindlela zemfundo, ukwenzela ukuba inkunzi yesazi ukuba wenze into enhle, yayiza kubongiswa. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kukhuthaza kakhulu.
Musa ukuthenga uthando lwabantwana ngezipho ezibizayo, musa ukuzalisekisa zonke izinto zabo. Abantwana baxhamla ngokukhawuleza kwaye bayeke ukuxabisa. Kwaye ukuthobela kunye nokuziphatha okulungileyo akufaki kule nto. Ziyabhujiswa kwaye zingalawuleki, ezingenakho ukukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into enhle. Uthando kunye nentembelo yabantwana kufuneka izuzwe lonke ixesha, ukwenza konke ukuze bakuhloniphe. Oluvakalelo luya kuthwala abantwana kubomi babo bonke.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukuba abazali bangalibali ukuba abantwana bakho bangabantu abaneemvo zabo, ezimele zihlonishwe. Ukuba ubona ngokucacileyo ukuba umntwana uyangalunganga, mkholise ukuba unzima, unengqiqo.
Kuninzi okunokuthi kuthiwa yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe kunye noko kungenjalo. Kwintsapho nganye, oku kugqitywe kunye. Into ebalulekileyo yokukhumbula kukuba isiseko sobudlelwane bakho kufuneka sibe uthando, intlonipho, ukuqonda. Kwaye intukuthelo, ubundlobongela kunye nenkohlakalo kufuneka kupheliswe. Ngezenzo zethu ezintle nezichanekileyo esizinikela umzekelo kubantwana abahlala bezama ukukopisha indlela esiziphatha ngayo. Yaye kholwa kubantwana bakho, zizinto eziphambili ezinokubakho ebomini. Yaye uthando luya kukuxelela indlela yokwenza okulungileyo.