Ngaba ucinga ukuba kulula ukutshintsha? Unqunywe ukuba ulahlekelwe isisindo - kwaye ngoku kwinyanga okanye ezimbini unesimo esifanelekileyo? Bekungekho! Enyanisweni, sivame ukunyamezela ukunyamezela kwethu kwaye sinciphise indima yeemeko ezisithintelayo ekufezeni injongo.
Yingakho abantu bahlala beshiya umyinge kwaye badidekile ngamandla abo. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, kuyimfuneko ukuthatha kwangaphambili into yokuba akuyi kuba lula, yenza uludwe lweemingcipheko ezinokwenzeka kwaye ufike ngeendlela zokuzinqoba. Indlela yokwenza oko, uthi umcebisi ngokuziququzelela u-Marshall Goldsmith kwincwadi yakhe ethi "I-Triggers" (ukupapasha indlu ye-MIF).
Lahla i-automatism
Iingxaki zizo zonke izikhuthazo ezingatshintsha ukuziphatha kwethu. Ukukhathala, ukudandatheka kunye nokungahloneli, ukunyanzelisa ukuba siyeke uqeqesho, yimizekelo yezinto ezibangelwa ngaphakathi. Njengokuqhaqhazela ngokukhawuleza kwentshiseko, emva koko siqala ukudlala imidlalo. Izibangela zangaphandle zisithintela ngaphantsi, nangona asikusoloko siqaphela oku. Enye ibukeka, iphoswe kwikhekhe ekhangayo, inokunyanzela umntu ukuba ashiye ukutya. Intlanganiso nomhlobo osandul 'uqala ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, unokukhuthaza ukufumana imidlalo emitsha. Ngoko, ubomi bethu buzaliswe ngophawu oluhlukileyo kakhulu. Kwaye kufuneka ndiyenze ntoni na? Njengoko sele usubonile, ezinye izinto ezibangela ukuba sizuze, ngelixa abanye - baphazamisa kwiinjongo. Umsebenzi wakho kukuzijikeleza kuqala kwaye ufunde indlela yokumelana nesibini. Kwaye ngoku iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba ukukhushulwa okungenakuvelisa okunokuba luncedo. Ngokuqhelekileyo sisabela kwizinto ezizenzekelayo ngokuzenzekelayo: ngaphandle kokucinga sifika kwibhokisi yeekeseyile; Esikhundleni sokuqeqeshwa kwexesha lokuhlwa sibukela kunye nekhaya ngumboniso oncokolayo; vula i-imeyile ngaphambi kokutya kwasekuseni size siphumelele ngokukhawuleza emsebenzini, nangona sasizimisele ukwenza ekuseni. Isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekileyo ekujoliswe kuyo kukuphelisa i-automatism. Zama ukuphawula iimpawu ezikukhupha kwikhondo elifanelekileyo. Ukuqonda okunjalo kuya kukunceda uhambe kwinqanaba elilandelayo, apho utshintshe imikhwa yakho. Ngaloo kamva, kodwa qaleni uqwalasele ezinye iindidi zokubangela ukuba udibane nazo.
Funda iziphumo zakho kunye neentlobo zempawu
Sivele sicacise ukuba ezi zinto zivelisa kwaye zivelisa (oku mhlawumbi into ebaluleke kakhulu), kunye nangaphakathi nangaphandle. Nantsi enye into onokuyenza ngayo iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokukhuthaza:
- Ukunciphisa nokukhuthaza. Ezinye zibangela ukuba senze isenzo: sidle i-candy, gcwalisa isiqriqhele ngemveliso encedo, vuka kwisitya sokulala uze uye emsebenzini. Abanye - bakunyanzela ukuba uhlehlise phantsi: susa isandla sakho ngaphandle kweesekese, udlule nge-cafe yakho oyintandokazi, wenqaba ukuqhuba kwaye uhlale ekhaya.
- Andiqondi kwaye uyazi. Impembelelo yezinye izinto ezibangelwayo. Umzekelo, kuyacaca ukuba iphunga lokupheka kwamama, elivela ekhitshini, lenza ukuba umnqweno ubale okwethutyana malunga nokutya. Nangona kunjalo, kukho izibonakaliso ezithintelayo. Ngokukodwa, baquka imozulu. Njengoko iimvavanyo zibonakalisile, imvakalelo yethu incike kakhulu kuyo, kodwa bambalwa kakhulu abantu bayayiqonda.
- Ukuchaneka nokuhamba ngendlela ejikelezayo. Uza kutyelela, ubona itafile evulekileyo, kwaye izandla zakho zitsaliswe kukulimaza, kodwa ukutya okuhlwaya. Lo ngumzekelo wokuqalisa ngokuthe ngqo. Kodwa le nto ingabonakalisa isigxina esingangqalileyo: endleleni eya emsebenzini, wambona ngengozi umntu onomthwalo obuninzi, ucinge ngendlela yokuphila yakho, kwaye ngokuhlwa wathenga ukubhalisa kwiziko lempilo.
- Ngalindelekanga kwaye kuqikelelwe. Siyakwazi ukuva kuphela enye impawu. Siyazi ukuba luyintoni uhlobo lokuphendula oluya kubangela, ukuze sikwazi ukulungiselela intlanganiso kunye nabo kwangaphambili. Kwaye ezinye izinto ezisishukumisayo zisishukumisayo. Yingakho ufanele ufunde ukuwabona kwaye ulungise ukuziphatha kwakho.
Zama ukuphuma kumkhwa womkhwa
Ingqondo yethu iyakhetha ngokukhetha indlela elula kwaye ayizami ukumelana xa idibana nomnye umntu. Kodwa ukuba ufunda ukubeka ingqalelo kwiimpawu ezahlukileyo kwaye udibanise amandla okuthanda ngexesha, ngoko, ukuba unqwenela, utshintshe kalula indlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha. Yonke imikhwa yethu ihlelwe ngokungaqhelekanga. Ziqukethe izigaba ezintathu: i-trigger - reaction - umvuzo. Ngokomzekelo, abantu abanomthwalo obunzima, kaninzi naluphi na ukukhupha, uxinzelelo, ukuziva unesizungu kuba yintliziyo; impendulo - uhambo oluya kwi-diner elisondeleyo; kwaye umvuzo ukukhululwa okwethutyana kwengxabano. Kule meko, ungatshintsha indawo ephakathi kunye nenye into. Kuphela kufuneka ukhethe uhlobo oluthile lokuziphatha oluya kunceda ukuzinza phantsi kweemeko ezixinzelelekileyo: uqhube epakini, udlala nekati okanye udansa kumculo ozithandayo. Kukho enye inketho. Zama ukuphepha izibonakaliso ezingenakuvelisa: khetha umendo ovela emsebenzini ukuze ungahlangabezane ne-caffe yokutya okukhawulezayo; ukugqithisa izitolo zentengiso kunye njalo. Kakade, oku akuyi kwenzeka ngezo zinto zonke, kodwa kuphela ngabo esinokuqikelela.
Fumana i-motivation yakho
Ngoku uyazi indlela yokujongana neziphumo ezinokuvelisa, kodwa unokwenza enye into. Zizenzele izibonakaliso ezincedo eziza kukukhuthaza ukuba usebenze ngokwakho. Ngaba uqaphele ukuba ukunxibelelana nomhlobo wakho kubangela ukuba udlale imidlalo? Hlangana nalo mntu ngokuqhelekileyo. Ngaba uhlala uphoswa emsebenzini kwiziko lezempilo? Fumana ukubhalisa, ngoko uya kufuna ukwenza umgudu wokuhlawula. Ngaba uyaphupha ukungena kwengubo oyithandayo? Ngokuqinisekileyo unayo iifoto ukusuka kumaxesha apho isalathisi sakho sisavunyelwe ukuwugqoka. Baxhoma kwindawo evelele kakhulu. Ukuba umnqweno wakho ukunyusa umzimba, ngoko yonke imihla, zibuze: "Ngaba ndiyenze yonke into namhlanje ukuya ekudleni okulungileyo?", "Ngaba ndenze konke namhlanje ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca?", "Ngaba ndenze namhlanje konke okusemandleni ukuze ube ngumncinci? "Phendula le mibuzo ngokubhala. Ezi zirekhodi ngokwayo ziba ngumphumo ovelisayo, oza kukushukumisela ukuba utshintshe.
Nangakumbi malunga neempawu zangaphandle kunye zangaphakathi ezichaphazela ukuziphatha kwakho, ungafunda kwincwadi ethi "Abacebisi"