Yonke into iqala, njengoko kubonakala ngathi, kwixesha elingabalulekiyo: ubunzima bokukhumbula iileta, ukungakwazi ukugxila okanye ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza komsebenzi. Into ebhalwa kwixesha elide - lisencinane, lingasetyenziswanga; into - ukungabikho kwemfundo; into - ukungabikho komnqweno wokusebenza. Kodwa kungoku kwixesha apho iingxaki zilula ukuzibona kwaye kulula ukuzilungisa. Kodwa ke iingxaki ziqala ukukhula njengebhola le-snowball - enye idonsa enye kwaye yenze isangqa esichukumisayo nesesabekayo. Ukusilela okusoloko kunzima ukuphazamisa umntwana kwaye kudlule kwisifundo esinye kwesinye.
Umntwana wesikolo uqala ukuzijonga engakwaziyo, ongenakunceda, kunye nayo yonke imizamo yakhe - engenamsebenzi. Iingcali zeengqondo zengqondo ziqinisekile: umphumo woqeqesho awuxhomeki kuphela kumakhono omntu ukuxazulula imisebenzi eyabelwe yona, kodwa nangokholo lokuba uya kukwazi ukusombulula le ngxaki. Ukuba ukuhluleka kulandela enye emva komnye, ngoko, ke, kuza ixesha apho umntwana ephefumlela ukuba, hayi, andiyi kusebenza kum. Kwaye akukho nto, akukho mfuneko yokuzama. Unqunywe ngubawo okanye umama phakathi kwimeko: "Uyiyatha inkohliso!" - inokongeza kuphela umlilo kumlilo. Akunamagama kuphela, kodwa nje isimo sengqondo ngokwawo, esiboniswayo, nangona kungenakulungelelaniswa, kodwa ngokuhlambalaza, ukuziphatha, intetho, umntwana ngamanye amaxesha uthetha amagama amakhulu.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo xa kunzima ukubonakala okanye indlela yokunceda umntwana kwiingxaki zesikolo?
Akukho imfuneko ukuqwalasela ubunzima bezkolo ezikhulayo njengeentlekele.
Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, zama ukungazibonakalisi nokungaxhalabisi kwakho. Khumbula ukuba umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukunceda umntwana. Ngenxa yoko, thanda kwaye uyamkele njengoko kunjalo kwaye kuya kuba lula kuye.
Sifanele sizame, kwaye siza kulungiselela umsebenzi odibeneyo wexesha elide kunye nomntwana.
Yaye khumbula - nguye kuphela onokukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zabo.
Uncedo oluphambili kukuxhasa ukuzithemba.
Kubalulekile ukuzama ukumkhulula iimvakalelo zetyala kunye nokuxhatshazwa ngenxa yokungaphumeleli. Ukuba unomdla kwimicimbi yakho kwaye uthathe umzuzu ukucinga indlela yokwenza izinto okanye ukugxeka-ke oku akuncedisi, kodwa isiseko sokuvela kweengxaki entsha.
Ulibale ibinzana elihlekisayo: "Wenze ntoni namhlanje?"
Akuyimfuneko ukuba umntwana akhulume ngokukhawuleza ngemicimbi yakhe esikolweni, ingakumbi ukuba uyacaphukisa okanye akhathazeke. Mshiye wedwa xa ethembele ekuxhaseni kwakho, ngoko, mhlawumbi, uya kukuxelela yonke into kamva.
Akukho mfuneko yokuxoxa kunye notitshala ubunzima bomntwana ebusweni bakhe.
Kuya kuba ngcono ukwenza ngaphandle kwakhe. Ayikho nayiphi na indlela, musa ukuyisebenzisa kakubi umntwana ukuba ngabahlobo bakhe okanye abafundi abafunda nabo basondele. Ungamkeli iimpumelelo kunye nempumelelo yabanye abantwana.
Unomdla wokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo kuphela xa uhlala unceda umntwana.
Ngexesha lomsebenzi odibeneyo, ube nomonde. Ekubeni umsebenzi ojolise ekunqobeni ubunzima beSikolo kufuna ukuba ukwazi ukukhusela kwaye ukukhathaza kakhulu, akufuneki ukuba uphakamise ilizwi lakho, uphinde uhlaziye kwaye uchaze into efanayo ngezinye izihlandlo - ngaphandle kokucaphukisa kunye nokuhlambalaza. Izikhalazo eziqhelekileyo zabazali: "Zonke iingxaki ziphelile ... Akukho mandla ..." Ngaba uyazi ukuba yintoni na umcimbi? Umntu omdala akakwazi ukuzibamba, kodwa umntwana unetyala. Bonke abazali bayazisola kuqala, kodwa umntwana - akunqabile ngokwaneleyo.
Abazali ngesizathu esithile bakholelwa ukuba ukuba kukho ubunzima bokubhala, ngoko kufuneka ubhale ngaphezulu; ukuba ingathatyathwa ngokungenakucingiswa - ngakumbi ukujongana nemizekelo; ukuba ufunda kakubi - funda ngaphezulu. Kodwa ezi zifundo ziqatha, unganikeli ukwaneliseka nokubulala uvuyo lomsebenzi. Ngako oko, akudingeki ukuba ulayishe umntwana ngokugqithiseleyo ngezinto ezingasebenzi kakuhle kuye.
Kubalulekile ukuba eklasini yeeklasi awuphazamisi, kwaye umntwana uyaziva - wena kunye naye kunye naye. Vala iTV, ungaphazamisi iklasi, ungaphazamiseki ukuba usebenze ekhitshini okanye ufonele ifowuni.
Kwakhona kubalulekile ukugqiba isigqibo malunga nomzali onokulula ukwenza ntoni izifundo. Umama uvame ukukhawuleza kwaye akanako ukunyamezela, kwaye baqonda ngakumbi nangakumbi. Abantwana bahlaziyekile, kodwa banzima. Omnye kufuneka azame ukuphepha imeko enjalo, xa omnye wabazali, elahlekelwe ngumonde, obangela omnye ukuba aphumelele.
Kusadingeka ukhumbule ukuba umntwana onenkathazo zesikolo, kuphela kwimeko enqabileyo uya kukwaziswa ngokupheleleyo ukuba wacelwa ukuba aye ekhaya. Kule nto akukho malice - nje umsebenzi wesikolo uhlala unikwa rhoqo ekupheleni kwesifundo, xa wonke umntu eklasini enza isandi, kwaye umntwana wakho sele ukhathele kwaye uthisha akayikuva. Ngoko ke, ekhaya, unokuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba akaceli lutho. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, funda kubantwana ofunda nabo ngemisebenzi yakho yasekhaya.
Ukulungiswa komsebenzi wesikolo kufuneka ube yithuba elipheleleyo lomsebenzi oqhubekayo ngaphandle kwemizuzu engamashumi amathathu. Ukuyeka, ngelixa usebenza ekhaya, kuyimfuneko.
Akukho mfuneko yokuzama, nayiphi na indleko ukwenza ngokukhawuleza yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya.
Umntwana udinga uncedo nenkxaso evela kumacala athile, ngoko uzama ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo notitshala.
Ukuba kukho ukungaphumeleli, kucetyiswa ukukhuthaza nokuxhasa, kwaye nayiphi na, nokuba yimpumelelo encinci imele igxininiswe.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekuncedeni umntwana kukumkhuthaza emsebenzini, kungekhona nje ngamazwi. Kungaba luhambo ukuya kwi-zoo, ukuhamba ngokubambisana, okanye ukutyelela kwimidlalo yaseshashalazini.
Abantwana abaneengxaki zesikolo kufuneka babone ulawulo olucacileyo nolulinganisiweyo lomhla.
Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana abanjalo bahlala bengabonakaliyo, bengenasiphelo, oko kuthetha ukuba abayilandelanga nje urhulumente.
Ukuba kusasa umntwana evuka ngobunzima, musa ukukhawuleza kwaye ungawuphindi kwakhona, bhetele ubeke i-alamu ngexesha elilandelayo kwisigamu seyure.
Ngobusuku, xa lixesha lokulala, unako ukunika umntwana inkululeko - ukuyeka, umzekelo, ukusuka kwi-9 ukuya kwi-30. Umntwana ufuna ukuphumla ngokugcwele ngeveki kunye neeholide, ngaphandle kwanoma ziphi na izabelo zoqeqesho.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, ke qiniseka ukubonisana nomntwana kunye neengcali - ootitshala beengcali, oogqirha, ootitshala, i-psychoneurologists. Ulandele zonke iingcebiso zabo.