Ingxaki ebalulekileyo kukuba umzali wanamhlanje ukhululekile xa umntwana wakhe engazange ahambe apho nabahlobo bakhe, akazitholi kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo, akayithandi imfucuza epheleleyo endlwini, akafaki izihlwele zabantwana abanomdlalo wokudlala intloko. Umntwana ongatshatangayo akabangeli imbandezelo engadingekile kwaye akhathazi mntu. Enyanisweni, umntwana okhululekile? Kodwa bambalwa baya kuthetha ukuba akukho nto eyimbi ngakumbi kunokuba yedwa yedwa. Yenza ubomi bomntwana wakho bungathandeki kwaye buyimpunga, buya kushiya yonke into ezayo.
Indlela yokuchonga ingxaki?
Ngethamsanqa, uninzi lwabazali, xa befumene ukuba umntwana wabo akanalo ulwalamano lwabantwana kunye namakhwenkwe namantombazana, qala ukuvakala isilumkiso esikhulu. Oku kuvela njani?
Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uyavuma ukuba akanalo abahlobo, ukuba akanakho umntu odlala naye, akukho mntu ufuna ukucela uncedo, akukho namnye ongabuya esikolweni kunye naye, akukho namnye unokuthetha naye. Kodwa kaninzi, abantwana bavame ukufihla ubunqunu babo. Abazali kulo mzekelo bafunde ngale ngengozi, bebukele umntwana kwisiganeko esikolweni okanye omnye umhlangano.
Ukuba umntwana akahlali nobungane nanoma ubani, akabonakalisi nje umlingiswa wakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuhambelana nomntwana ongenasicatshulwa ngumntwana, kokubili ekhaya nasemphakathini. Ukungcola, ukusongela ngokweqile, ukuzibandakanya, ukunganakwa, ukuxhomekeka kwegazi - oko kuluhlu olungaphelelanga lwezinto eziqhelekileyo ezikhokelela ekubeni unomntwana wakho. Kwaye iminyaka ihamba, awuyi kuba nexesha lokubhenqa kwaye iliso liza kubona indlela umntwana oza kuphelisa ngayo umntwana, ixesha elivisayo liza kufika, kwaye apho kungekude kube ngumntu omdala. Qala ukukunceda umntwana wakho ukusukela namhlanje!
Unokukunceda njani umntwana?
Okokuqala kufuneka ufumane umhlaba oqhelekileyo. Abantwana, ngokungafani nabantu abadala, banokuthi banqatshelwe, kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, baziswa kumanzi acocekileyo. Wena ungumntu osondeleyo kuye! Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo nangenyaniso nangomntwana. Khangela oko kukukhathazayo, zeziphi iingxaki zakhe, oko kuphelelwa yintoni, into ayifunayo, into ayilwelayo.
Ukunakekelwa kwabazali okulula, ukusebenzisana, uvelwano rhoqo luzisa iziphumo ezilungileyo. Emva koko, umntwana uhlala wedwa, kuba kwintsapho abayathethi nonke, gcina umgama, uzifihle iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabo. Mhlawumbi isizathu silele phezu komhlaba, kodwa awuyikukubona.
Izizathu zobomi bodwa.
Ukuthandwa komntwana phakathi koontanga kunokuxhomekeke kwizizathu eziqhelekileyo. Umzekelo, ukufumaneka kwezinto eziphathekayo kunye nokubonakala. Umntwana unokuba neentloni ngobuncwane bakhe, ukuzaliseka, ubhonkco, iinwele ezimvu, kungekhona ifowuni ephathekayo njalo njalo. Kule meko, kufuneka ungeze ukuzithemba kumntwana. Xoxa naye kuthengwa kwento entsha ebalulekileyo ekuqwalaseleni uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali. Abantwana banamhlanje badla ngokuqonda kakuhle kummandla woqoqosho, kwaye banokulindela kude ugcine imali efanelekileyo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, uya kuvuya ukuba iimfuno zakhe kwintsapho ziqwalaselwa.
Ngokubhekisele ngaphandle, into engcono kakhulu ongayenza yirekhodi lomntwana kwicandelo lezemidlalo. Umzekelo, unyana wakho unobuthakathaka emzimbeni, apho abafundi afunda nabo bemjonga njengemattile, abizwa, athatyathwa. Kwabanye abantwana egcekeni - okufanayo. Ngoko, xa ufunda kwi-bhokisi okanye umkhondo kunye nensimu, wena nomntwana wakho uya kubulala iintaka ezimbini ngelitye elinye: qinisa umntwana ngokwenyama, kwaye, ngokungangabazeki, ukwandisa igunya lakhe phakathi koontanga. Ubuncinci akayi kuchithwa ngokuchanekileyo.
Kwakhona kwisebe kukho enye inzuzo. Abantwana abaninzi banamhlanje baya esikolweni njengomsebenzi: beza, baqhelana, babuyela ekhaya, bahlala phantsi kwikhompyutha, ngoko abazange bathethe nabani na. Ukuba umntwana uneshedyuli yosuku, ixesha libelwe izifundo kunye nokuzonwabisa, ngoko uya kuba noqhagamshelwano oluninzi nabantu. Ngokomzekelo, kwicandelo elifanayo lebhokisi, kuya kufuneka asebenze ngokubambisana namanye amakhwenkwe, alwe, aphumelele, athathe iingcebiso malunga nokusebenza kwamkelekileyo, xubusha ukhuphiswano. Apha ufuna, awufuni, kodwa uya kufumana umhlobo wesifuba.
Amantombazana akhululekile!
Amakhwenkwe alula kunamantombazana ngokwenene, ufuna kuphela ukuqonda into abangenayo injabulo: ukuqhuba kunye noyise webhola, fumana imvume yokudlala iikhomputha kunye nabafundi eklasini emva kweeklasi, ukuya epaki kunye nomzala kunye njalo. Amantombazana aphezulu kakhulu. Kungenzeka ukuba akukho mntu ungumhlobo nentombi yakho, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba unezicathulo ezingenakulungiswa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba yena ngokwakhe uyaphula impumlo kakhulu, uyakha indlovukazi, apho amanye amantombazana ahlala kude.
Kule meko, akumele uvumele intombi yemini ibone iinkqubo zeTV ngokwengqiqo yayo, apho ingafumana khona izakhono ezingadingekile. Tshela intombi yakho malunga nobuntwaneni bakho, malunga neentombi zakho ezintle, ngasinye esinesibonakaliso sazo. Into ephambili yindlela enhle, inesihawu, ukuqonda, ukunyaniseka, ukuvuya. Makhe afunde amaphepha amaphephancwadi, kodwa iingxelo zikaCharles Perrault, apho kulungiswa khona ubuhle kunye nobungane.
Musa ukushiya intombazana yedwa ekhaya, uholele ekuthengeni, iindawo zokuzonwabisa, iintetho - vumela intombi yakhe ibone ukuba kukho ihlabathi elineenxa zonke kuye, kwaye kukho izinto ezinomdla kuzo. Makhe wamemele okungenani abathathu ekilasini lwakhe lokuzalwa, kwaye uya kulungiselela isidlo sesidlo ngokukhethekileyo kubo.
Intombazana ngumncedisi nonina nentombi. Ngoko ke, soloko uqaphela impilo yakhe yesikolo kunye nemicimbi yakhe. Mhlawumbi intombi ikuxelisa ngendlela obaphatha ngayo abantu, ngoko-ke makhathazeke kwaye nilungele abanye. Tshela intombi yakho malunga neemfihlelo zobuhle, izityalo ezingaqhelekanga, izilwanyana ezingaqondakaliyo, malunga nezithethe zenkcubeko, ngoko uya kufuna ukwabelana ngolwazi lwakhe nomntu. Khumbula ukuba iimfuno eziqhelekileyo zidibanisa kuphela abantu abadala kodwa nabantwana.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akahlobo nabangane kunye nabanye abantwana - akuyena nje ingxaki yakhe, kodwa kwaye noxanduva lwakho olufanelekileyo lwabazali. Umntwana kufuneka ukuba acetyiswe ukuba axubane kunye noontanga, "unyibilike" intliziyo yakhe, kumncede ukuba anqobe izithintelo ezibangelwa ulonwabo, enikwe ubungane.