Ayikho imfihlo yokuba ihlabathi lanamhlanje lizele ingozi, ingakumbi kwabo bangakwazi ukuzikhusela. Sikhulisa abantwana ngethemba lokuba baya kufunda ukudibanisa ezo mpawu esizikwazi ukuzihlanganisana nazo. Umzekelo, ubuhlobo kunye nokukwazi ukuqonda abantu, ukukwazi ukuzithemba nokwahlula phakathi kokulungileyo nokubi, ukukwazi ukuhlonipha abanye kunye nokukwazi ukuma. Uninzi lwale lwazi ukuba njani, kwaye thina, kodwa siyazi ukuba singenza njani izakhono ezifanelekileyo kubantwana? Njengokuba uzama ukumfundisa ukuba aqaphele ukuba angadluli intonga kwaye angayikhulisi inkomo kuye?
1. Umgaqo wokuqala kunye obaluleke kakhulu ukhuseleko lwabantwana ukuthembela ngokupheleleyo phakathi kwamalungu entsapho. Kuzwakala ngathi i-toptop, kodwa ithemba phakathi kwabantu abadala kunye nabantwana abanceda ukuphepha nokukhusela iingxaki ezininzi. Ukwakhiwa kwelo hlobo lentsapho luhlala ngokupheleleyo kumahlombe abantu abadala. Kuxhomekeke kubazali, nokuba umntwana uya kuhamba neengxaki zabo kunye okanye bakhetha iingcebiso zabangamaziyo. Zama ukuba nomdla kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo ebomini bomntwana, kodwa ungabi nantoni. Musa ukugxeka abantwana ngokunyaniseka, nangona bengavumi kwizenzo ezingcono. Yilumke, kuba zonke iilwimi kunye nento yonke igalelo lakho kwixesha elizayo.
2. Umgaqo wesibini kukuba xa nje umntwana ephantsi koxanduva lwakho, kufuneka acele imvume ngaphambi kokuba enze nayiphi na into okanye aye kwindawo ethile. Intsapho nganye ineemithetho yayo, abanye bavumela abantwana babo ngakumbi, abanye bangaphantsi. Kodwa umntwana kufuneka abuze uluvo lwakho kunye nemvume phambi kokuba, umzekelo, uthathe isipho okanye unyango, uye kwindawo ethile, ingakumbi ukuba ingakhathalelekanga imeko yakhe yokuhlala.
3. Ulawulo lwesithathu lubonxibelelwano olufanelekileyo nabanye abadala. Sivame ukuxelela abantwana bethu: musa ukuvula umnyango kunoma ubani, musa ukuthetha nabantu abangabazi. Kodwa umntwana kufuneka akwazi ukuthetha nabantu abangabaziyo, oku kuqhelekileyo. Mfundise ukuba abanye abantu abanalo ilungelo lokumyala baze bafune into ethile kuye, abakwazi ukusongela nokumsongela. Ukuba oko kwenzeka, kufuneka ucele uncedo okanye ubaleke. Kwakhona, fundisa umntwana ukuba angahambi naphi na nabanye abantu abadala, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bathetha ntoni. Bhala uluhlu lwezindlela ezikhohlisayo ezinokuzama ukumkhohlisa umntwana kwaye uchaze ukuba unokuhlala ubiza abazali bakho kuqala okanye uye ekhaya ngaphambi kokuba uthathe igama lakho.
4. Umgaqo wesine ufikeleleka ngonaphakade. Musa ukuzithenga ukuthenga iindlela zokunxibelelana zomntwana, okuza kukunceda ukuba ube kunye. Ifowuni yefowuni, i-imeyile, ifowuni rhoqo, konke oku kufikeleleka xa ungekho, kodwa uncedo lwakho lufunekayo. Fundisa umntwana ukuba akhulume ngezinto akwenzayo kwaye uya kwenza ntoni, apho uya khona. Okukuxelela oko, ukuba uyayazi ngakumbi uhlobo lobomi ahlala kuso.
5. Ulawulo lwesihlanu kukuba umntwana kufuneka azi ngeentliziyo igama lakhe, isibongo, i-patronymic, idilesi kunye nombolo yefowuni. Kumele azi amagama abazali bakhe, ngubani na apho basebenza khona, ukuba bangafumaneka njani. Kwakhona kufuneka ukuba azi iinkonzo zoncedo anokuzibiza kule nto okanye kuloo meko.
6. Ulawulo lwesithandathu lukhuthazo. Ukuba umntwana ubona into engavamile kwaye akuxelele, soloko uyidumisa. Makube ngumdlalo okhohliwe ngumntu kwindawo yokudlala. Esi siqinisekiso sokuba uya kuthetha ngezinto ezinzulu, ukuba izinto ezinjalo zenzeka.
7. Ulawulo lwesithoba - lawula iimvakalelo. Izihloko ezithandanayo kunye nemizimba esondeleyo ihlala isisombululo kwiintsapho ezininzi. Oku akufanele kwenzeke ukuba ukhathazeke ngokwenene ngokhuseleko lomntwana wakho. Kumele azi amagama akhe omzimba, nangona ukuba ayingekho isayensi, ahlaziyekileyo, kodwa kufuneka akwazi ukuxelela ngabo, ukuba kuyimfuneko. Umzekelo, ukuba ubona umntu ozama ukuphazamisa abantwana. Kwakhona, umntwana makangazi ukuba akukho mntu wabantu abadala, ngaphandle koogqirha nabazali, ukuba kunyanzelekile, unelungelo lokuthinta amalungu akhe omzimba. Ihlala isithetha ngengozi. Fundisa umntwana wakho owamkela abantu abangaziwayo, kwaye nangona kunjalo, bengawanga, awamkelekanga. Akunjalo ngumntu ombambe umntanakho, umntu ohamba ngesantya okanye umdaka, kodwa usenokugula ngesifo esasifakazelayo, umzekelo, isifo sofuba. Ufanele ukwazi ukuchaza oku kumntwana.
8. Umgaqo wesibhozo unamandla okuthi "cha." Kubantwana, abadala banikwe amandla omlingo, igunya labo alinakunyakaziswa. Ngoko ke, kwiimeko ezininzi, kunzima ukuba bathi kumntu omdala "hayi", nangona kufuneke into enyanyekayo okanye ingozi. Fundisa umntwana ukuba angafuni abantu abadala ukuba izicelo zabo zibukeka zingavamile - nceda uye kwenye ndawo, thintela omdala okanye uvumele ukuchukumisa umntwana, zama ukubeka izipho kunye neesekese okanye uhambe ngokuqhuba. Umntwana wakho kufuneka alalele abantu abadala - ootitshala, oogqirha, amapolisa, abazali babahlobo, kodwa nje ngokuba izicelo zabo zihambelana nombono oqhelekileyo. Ziza kuba zeziphi iingcamango kumntwana wakho-kuxhomekeke kuwe.
Ukuzama ukukhusela umntwana engozini enokwenzeka, kubalulekile ukuba ungabhondi intonga. Musa ukunyelisa umntwana, mhlawumbi uza kubona i-maniac kuwo wonke umntu omdala, kwaye oku akuyi kuba luncedo kwi-psyche yakhe. Yiba nengqiqo kwaye usondelelene nabantwana bakho. Ukuthenjwa kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokwenza ingozi, ukungabikho ukwesaba nokulumka kuya kuba siqinisekiso sokuthi akukho nto iya kwenzeka kumntwana wakho.