Indlela yokwenza ngayo ukuze loo mntu azinikezele ukudibana

Ngamanye amaxesha ndifuna ukuba amaphupha afezeke ukuze abo abathandekayo kuthi bahlale besondelene, bebathandekile kwaye bawazisa. Indoda ebomini bomfazi iyinxalenye ebalulekileyo, isiqendu se puzzle, ngaphandle kwayo imifanekiso ekhanyayo ayiyi kuphinda ivule kwaye injabulo ayiyi kuba yinto. Nangona uphumelele kwimpumelelo kwaye ube neqela labahlobo bokwenene, ngaphandle komntu othandekayo, ubomi buba nzima ngakumbi, kungekhona ngokoqobo. Lucky kulabo abamkela uthando lwabo oluphakathi kunye nolunaphakade ngaphandle kwemizamo. Kodwa zimbalwa kakhulu kubo. Uninzi lwabantu lufuna ukuzama, khangela, qulunqa rhoqo into ukufezekisa injongo yawo. Kodwa uthando lwenzululwazi yinkampani enobuqhetseba, kufuneka ukwazi ukuba yimiphi imicu yokutsala ukuze umntu anike ingqalelo kuwe kwaye akhethe wena kubo bonke abaphikisana nentliziyo yakho. Inqaku elithi "Indlela yokwenza umntu anikezele ukudibana" uxelela ngamanye amaqhinga, usebenzisa oko unokukhangela umdla omthandayo.

Uthando lokwenene alisoloko ludla. Kodwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, enye yeesahlulo salo thando ayikwazi ukuvuma kwiimvakalelo, kungekuyo, okanye kumlingane.

Ndingayenza njani ukuze loo nto inikwe umfana? Enyanisweni, kudla ukuba kwenzeka ukuba sibona umntu njengesiqwenela ngathi, kodwa akasenakudinga ukwenza ubudlelwane obusesikweni. Indlela yokujongana nale meko? Indlela yokuyiphepha kwaye wenze, ekugqibeleni, wenze isigqibo? Kuyavuma, kunzima ukuba ngumhlobo nomntu omthandayo, ukwazi ukuba ulahlekelwa ixesha elixabisekileyo, elingachithwa kunye kunye, kwiintetho ezingenanto kunye nexesha elingenanto.

Kutheni umntu akakwazi ukunika intombazana ukuba idibane? Enye yeempendulo kunye neempendulo ezingenangqiqo: kubonakala ngathi uyibona kuye kuphela umhlobo. Ewe, ngelishwa, abafana banemfama, kwaye ukuba awuxhomekanga entanyeni iintsuku ezilishumi elinesihlanu ngeyure kwaye ahlale utsho ukuba uyayithanda, awanakukwazi ukubona iimvakalelo zakho.

Uyazi, kukho umzekeliso wanamhlanje, ukuba umfana kunye nentombazana babengabangani besikolo. Wayesoloko emnceda, wamthanda kwaye wayehlala efuna ukuthetha oku, kodwa wathi: Ungumhlobo wam omhle kakhulu onokubonga ngayo yonke into. Kwaye wahlala ethule ebomini bakhe, kwaye emva kokufa kwakhe wafunda idayari apho wayibhala khona ukuba wayemthanda kwaye wayekulindele ukuqonda kuye, kodwa akayikuyiqonda ngexesha.

Iimeko ezinjalo ziqhelekileyo kwaye iimeko ezifanayo zikhula ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba sinokucinga.

Ngoko, ungabizi umhlobo wakho othandekayo. Simele simshukumise kwisinqumo esifanelekileyo. Ewe, unako ukuthatha "inkomo ngeempondo" kwaye ininzi imema ukuba adibane. Kodwa, okokuqala, iya kutshitshisa ukuzithemba kwendoda yakho, kwaye okwesibini, ininzi, amadoda ayithandi xa umfazi eqala ukulawula. Nangona iingcebiso kunye nezimvo zakhe ziyi-100 ekhulwini ezichanekileyo, umfana uqala ukuwakhanyela, ngenxa yokuba aziqaphele kwaye engazi, ukuvuma iingxabano zakhe kubonakala kubuthathaka.

Kule nto siphetha ngokuthi loo mntu ngokwakhe kufuneka enze isigqibo. Okanye, ubuncinane, cinga ukuba yintoni akwenzayo.

Ibhinqa ngalinye linikezelwe intuition kwaye livakalelwa ukuba lithanda kangakanani lo mfana. Ngoko ke, ukuba unomuvo wokuthi into enokwakho ingqalelo ngokungafaniyo, qalisa ukwenza. Kufuneka umbonise ukuba nguwe ongenaye ongeke aphile. Masihlale niyikhumbula intsingiselo yegolide. Musa ukuzibandakanya kuyo yonke into, ufezekise yonke into yakhe kwaye ujonge amehlo enjengezilwanyana.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, uyazi oko umntu wakho akuthandayo kwaye engakuthandi, oko akufunayo, kwaye uqala ukuthukuthela. Ngoko sebenzisa oku, ngokukhawuleza nangokwazi, njenganoma yimuphi intombazana ehloniphayo. Kubalulekile ukubeka uxinzelelo kuzo zonke izibhenqo, kodwa kungekhona ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuqhubekayo, kodwa kungabonakali, ngokungathi ngengozi. Uyazi ukuba uyazonda iimfazwe kunye neentlanzi, xelela ukuba baye bahlala behlonipha amadoda awaziyo ukulungisa yonke into kungekhona ngamaqhawe abo, kodwa ngamazwi. Ukuba uyayithanda inzululwazi kwaye ayinamandla kwimidlalo, khumbula ukuba bona abazange bazi kakuhle i-bhasiki, kungekhona ukushiya i-rollers, kodwa bahlala bevuya ukuthetha ngezicathulo ze-infusoria kunye ne-classicism.

Babumkele, kodwa ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kunye neembono zabantu besizwe-isumba-yumba kubunkulunkulu bobukhulu. Abafana bayamthiya inzondo, kuba bayaqonda ukuba abayi kukwazi ukufanisa umfanekiso owenziwe nguwe, ngoko ke, ubaleke. Kwaye awufuni ukuba nomphumo onjalo.

Ukongezelela, umthandayo kufuneka ahlale exhaswa, kwaye inyanisekileyo. Abantu bazizwa bephikisana kwaye baqamba amanga, ngoko ukuba awukwazi ukuyiqonda kwaye uyabelana ngeengxaki zakhe, bhetele kwaye ungazami. (Ngendlela, ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba uyayidinga nantoni na, nokuba imvakalelo yakho kufanele ibizwa ngokuthi uthando).

Amadoda avame ukuvala kwabanye kwaye azenzele ukuba ayenzi kakuhle, azinandaba nantoni na iingxaki azikho. Ewe, eqinisweni, oku kuphosakeleyo. Yaye ukuba uyazi malunga neengxaki zentanda yakho, ngoko unenca yakho. Ngenxa yokuvula - umsebenzi awulula kumadoda.

Kodwa ukuba kwenzeka, kufuneka ukwazi ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo. Nangona ephosakeleyo kwaye uqinisekile ngaloo nto, akufanele ufune ukutshitshisa iingxabano zakhe kwaye ugxininise ngokufanelekileyo. Yenza kanye kanye okanye kabini, kwaye yile, ayiyi kuphinda ivule kuwe. Ngoko ke, okokuqala kufuneka uphulaphule umfana, makakhulume, akhulume zonke izikhalazo kunye nezikhalazo, mhlawumbi ukhale (ewe, amadoda akhala ngokwenene, akunjalo nakanjani). Emva kokunciphisa, zama ukumbuza into eya kuyenza emva koko, indlela yokwenza, indlela yokusombulula iingxaki zakhe. Kwaye emva koko, qala ukuthetha uluvo lwakho. Kwaye kufuneka iveze into enjengale: "Andifuni ukuba ungatshintshi nto, kodwa ke, kodwa ukuba ... njengoko ucinga, ayinakuguqula ... Mna, ngokuqinisekileyo, mhlawumbi iphosakele le yintsapho yakho (abahlobo, umsebenzi) kwaye uyazi iziganeko ezingaphezulu, kodwa ndingathanda ukuncedisa, ngokusekelwe kumava bam obomi kwaye ndicebise ... kodwa lo ngoluvo lwam, kwaye ukhululekile ukwenza njengoko ubona kufanelekile, kuba lo bubomi bakho. "

Kufuneka uhlale ubonisa wakho umthandayo ukuba awufuni ukuhlala kwindawo yakhe, ukuzithoba kuye kwaye ulawula izenzo zakhe nezenzo. Indoda ifuna ukuba kunye naloo mfazi oya kunceda aze aqonde, ahlule, kodwa angalokothi alawule kwaye naziphi na iimeko zihlala zizilumko-kuphela kwintombazana enokuthi idibanise ukudibana.

Yiba ngumhlobo kuye. Umhlobo wenene. Umhlobokazi, onobukhenkco kunye nomhlobo othandekayo. Emva koko umfana uya kukumema ukuba udibane.