Uthando lokwenene alisoloko ludla. Kodwa, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, enye yeesahlulo salo thando ayikwazi ukuvuma kwiimvakalelo, kungekuyo, okanye kumlingane.
Ndingayenza njani ukuze loo nto inikwe umfana? Enyanisweni, kudla ukuba kwenzeka ukuba sibona umntu njengesiqwenela ngathi, kodwa akasenakudinga ukwenza ubudlelwane obusesikweni. Indlela yokujongana nale meko? Indlela yokuyiphepha kwaye wenze, ekugqibeleni, wenze isigqibo? Kuyavuma, kunzima ukuba ngumhlobo nomntu omthandayo, ukwazi ukuba ulahlekelwa ixesha elixabisekileyo, elingachithwa kunye kunye, kwiintetho ezingenanto kunye nexesha elingenanto.
Uyazi, kukho umzekeliso wanamhlanje, ukuba umfana kunye nentombazana babengabangani besikolo. Wayesoloko emnceda, wamthanda kwaye wayehlala efuna ukuthetha oku, kodwa wathi: Ungumhlobo wam omhle kakhulu onokubonga ngayo yonke into. Kwaye wahlala ethule ebomini bakhe, kwaye emva kokufa kwakhe wafunda idayari apho wayibhala khona ukuba wayemthanda kwaye wayekulindele ukuqonda kuye, kodwa akayikuyiqonda ngexesha.
Iimeko ezinjalo ziqhelekileyo kwaye iimeko ezifanayo zikhula ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba sinokucinga.
Ngoko, ungabizi umhlobo wakho othandekayo. Simele simshukumise kwisinqumo esifanelekileyo. Ewe, unako ukuthatha "inkomo ngeempondo" kwaye ininzi imema ukuba adibane. Kodwa, okokuqala, iya kutshitshisa ukuzithemba kwendoda yakho, kwaye okwesibini, ininzi, amadoda ayithandi xa umfazi eqala ukulawula. Nangona iingcebiso kunye nezimvo zakhe ziyi-100 ekhulwini ezichanekileyo, umfana uqala ukuwakhanyela, ngenxa yokuba aziqaphele kwaye engazi, ukuvuma iingxabano zakhe kubonakala kubuthathaka.
Kule nto siphetha ngokuthi loo mntu ngokwakhe kufuneka enze isigqibo. Okanye, ubuncinane, cinga ukuba yintoni akwenzayo.
Ibhinqa ngalinye linikezelwe intuition kwaye livakalelwa ukuba lithanda kangakanani lo mfana. Ngoko ke, ukuba unomuvo wokuthi into enokwakho ingqalelo ngokungafaniyo, qalisa ukwenza. Kufuneka umbonise ukuba nguwe ongenaye ongeke aphile. Masihlale niyikhumbula intsingiselo yegolide. Musa ukuzibandakanya kuyo yonke into, ufezekise yonke into yakhe kwaye ujonge amehlo enjengezilwanyana.
Babumkele, kodwa ngaphandle kokunyaniseka kunye neembono zabantu besizwe-isumba-yumba kubunkulunkulu bobukhulu. Abafana bayamthiya inzondo, kuba bayaqonda ukuba abayi kukwazi ukufanisa umfanekiso owenziwe nguwe, ngoko ke, ubaleke. Kwaye awufuni ukuba nomphumo onjalo.
Ukongezelela, umthandayo kufuneka ahlale exhaswa, kwaye inyanisekileyo. Abantu bazizwa bephikisana kwaye baqamba amanga, ngoko ukuba awukwazi ukuyiqonda kwaye uyabelana ngeengxaki zakhe, bhetele kwaye ungazami. (Ngendlela, ukuba awukwazi ukwenza oku, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba uyayidinga nantoni na, nokuba imvakalelo yakho kufanele ibizwa ngokuthi uthando).
Amadoda avame ukuvala kwabanye kwaye azenzele ukuba ayenzi kakuhle, azinandaba nantoni na iingxaki azikho. Ewe, eqinisweni, oku kuphosakeleyo. Yaye ukuba uyazi malunga neengxaki zentanda yakho, ngoko unenca yakho. Ngenxa yokuvula - umsebenzi awulula kumadoda.
Kufuneka uhlale ubonisa wakho umthandayo ukuba awufuni ukuhlala kwindawo yakhe, ukuzithoba kuye kwaye ulawula izenzo zakhe nezenzo. Indoda ifuna ukuba kunye naloo mfazi oya kunceda aze aqonde, ahlule, kodwa angalokothi alawule kwaye naziphi na iimeko zihlala zizilumko-kuphela kwintombazana enokuthi idibanise ukudibana.
Yiba ngumhlobo kuye. Umhlobo wenene. Umhlobokazi, onobukhenkco kunye nomhlobo othandekayo. Emva koko umfana uya kukumema ukuba udibane.