Ewe, ewe! Kutheni abantu abacebile bengasenomdla kwiintombazana ezikhazimulayo? Impendulo ilula. Abafazi abanjalo abazi ukuba balinde njani. Bakhe bathemba ukuba emva komhla wokuqala bafanele banike izipho, kwaye kungabi lula kwaye kungabi ngexabiso. Ekugqibeleni baphendukela kubazingeli, bayesabisa abantu, kuba banomuzwa wokuthi baphathwa njengento ephangwayo, i-trophy efunekayo kwiinjongo zobugovu. Kwaye, njengoko uyazi, into ephambili kwisiqabane kufuneka ibe yindoda, ingakumbi ukuba unendawo ephakamileyo yentlalo. Oku kulandela ukuba abo bantu baya kuzikhethela bona, kunye nabo abaza kubakho, kunye nabani na, ngokuqinisekileyo, benaloo mfuyo, indoda ayiyi kufuna ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane. Kodwa, ukuba naye wayeyindoda enhle, into elula, yinto enye. Ngobudlelwane obunjalo uya kulawula kwaye enze izigqibo. Uya kuba ngumntu othandekayo nothando. Nangona kunjalo, akubona bonke abantu abazityebi abanombono onjalo. Emva koko, intombazana ethobekileyo iya kukhetha kuphela kumntu osomashishini onzima, kude noluntu, oye wafezekisa yonke into, kwaye ngubani ongenomdla "kwi-mazhorki." Kodwa "abafana" abanobuchule obunzulu, kukho imfuneko yokuba intombazana ivela kwisikhumba, apho iyakwazi ukuya khona kwiiklabhu kunye namaqela ukuze akwazi ukuziqhayisa kunye nokwandisa ukuzithemba kwakhe emehlweni abantu abaninzi.
Abaninzi abacebileyo kunye namadoda abanjwe bafuna umfazi angabonakali ubuhle, ohlala "kwiindawo zokutyela, umfazi olula onokumthanda ngobuqotho. Ukungawuthandi ngesikhwama se-fat, kungekhona ngamathuba akhethiweyo angamnika, kungekhona kubantu ababaziyo kunye nokudibanisa, kodwa ngenxa yakhe. Ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda, uyamxabisa, uyakhonkxa aze amanga, ngenxa yobunzulu beenyawo kunye nokumomotheka. Imfashini ye "imodeli yamantombazana" isele ikhupha. Emva kwakho konke, akukho iingubo kunye neengubo zokugcoba kuyo kunokuyihlobisa umphefumlo wakhe nengqondo. Yaye la madoda afuna ukuba emva kwabo yinto enokuxhasa nayiphi na ingxoxo kunye nokuba unokuba njani, ngaphandle kwemaski kunye ne-pathos. Kwaye kunye namantombazana asezintsapho ezicebileyo ahlala kunye nokuvunyelwa okungaqhelekanga, abayiqondi icandelo lokwenene lomtshato kunye nolwalamano. Musa ukuqonda into yokuba "utshatile" kuthetha ukuba "yindoda"! Amadoda aphumelelayo kwishishini afune ukuthobeka kunye nabafazi abahlakaniphile abaya kuba ngumhlobo, bengabakhangeli, kodwa bahamba ngendlela efanayo.
Umtshato wesityebi kunye nomfazi osweleyo unokwenzeka. Kuphela nje ukuba kaninzi abanalo ixesha elaneleyo lokufumana lowo abaphuphayo. Ewe, njengento enjalo, iintlanganiso ezinjalo azikho ngohlobo olucwangcisiweyo, nangona kunjalo, njengesiqhelo. Kungenzeka xa ungalindelanga. Ngokomzekelo, kwi-cafe encinci, esitalatweni, e-ofisini okanye nasesibhedlele. Ngokubanzi, oku kuya kwenzeka naphi na.
Kodwa iimanyano zomtshato ezinjalo zinengxaki enye - oku kungalingani komtshato. Emva koko, indoda eyayifuna yonke into, yayifumene nelokuba kufuneka ilawulwe yonke into, ilawule ize ilandele yonke into. Oku unokukuzisa kwintsapho. Ukuze le nto ingenzeki, izazi zengqondo zincoma ukuba ubudlelwane obunjalo bwakhiwe ngokulinganayo. Yakha umanyano wabantu abalinganayo. Akufanele ube neentloni malunga nokuvikela imbono yakho yombono, kwaye kufuneka wenze oku ngenyameko kwaye unobtrusively. Emva kwakho konke, amadoda anjalo ahlala eqhelekileyo, kwaye akafuni ukumkela iingxabano nabani na iingxabano. Iingcali zengqondo zithetha ukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka usebenzise le migaqo yokwakha intetho yakho, xa ingxabano yakho iqala ngesigamazwi esithi "I", kodwa akukho nto ithi "wena." Kule meko, uthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho, ungatshintshi iingxaki zakho kumagxa omlingane wakho. Awukwazi ukulinda ixesha apho izikhalazo zakho okanye ukunganeliseki ziza kuzihlanganisa ngaphakathi kwakho kwaye zifike kwindawo yokubilisa. Zama ukuthetha ngabo kunye nomthandayo njengoko zibonakala.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba ukuba ufuna ukwakha ubudlelwane obunzulu kunye nendoda ecebileyo, kufuneka ukhule njengomntu. Umntu oshishino ohlakaniphile nophumeleleyo akayidingi idoli ukukhanyisa ngaphakathi. Kufuneka uyenze ngokwakho, ufumane imfundo efanelekileyo, uqaphele iziganeko zelizwe kunye nehlabathi, ube nomdla kwiminqweno yakho okhethiweyo.
Umfana osisityebi kunye nentombazana empofu inokuqhawula umtshato. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umfazi emva kokuqhawula umtshato usenalo ndlela yokuphila. Ngoko ke, bafazi abathandekayo, kufuneka ufumane ubomi kwaye ungaxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumyeni wakho. Kufuneka ube nethemba kwixesha elizayo, ngokuba uya kukwazi ukuzondla kunye nokugqoka, ukuba oko.